Re: re Disability and relationships (ot)

[Guest guest]

Here's some real life facts about relationships between abled and

disabled that I know of personally:

My work colleage- Quadriplegic married to gorgeous woman - 1 child

(dont ask me how - their business)

Work colleage - Cerebral Palsy married to his childhood sweetheart -

able bodied.

Our ex-accounts officer - Female with Muscular distrophy - met and

married her taxi driver -

Work COlleage - quadriplegic - married his physiotherapist, just

bought their first home - very happy couple.

Our receptionist, quadriplegic, just married her partner of 3 years -

very happy - buying home soon.

Fellow MS work colleage - wonderful relationship with a very athletic

exercise trainer - travelled Europe together - very happy.

Myself - MS - 2 long term relationships since being diagnosed - now

married.

Should I go on?

There are heaps more examples - disability is in the mind at the end

of the day when it comes to having successful relationships or not.

Seemingly healthy people get stricken down by something at some stage

in their lives, or know someone close to them who does - disease does

not discriminate.

Its your call people...and to quote the only sensible thing that

Madonna (singer) ever said in my opinion? " Poor is the man who's

happiness depends on the permission of others "

Friday

> No kidding! I don't think I made clear that at times we try to

influence our children in the hopes of improving their lives when we

really should trust them to make wise choices based on the guidance

we have given them over the years. Believe it or not, sometimes they

really do know what they are doing... Avoiding involvement with

someone because of a health concern or handicap my actually deny them

a relationship that could be the best thing in their lives. It is

not the same as trying to steer them clear of thugs and ne'er do

wells.

>

> I'd sure hope not to be rejected because I have MS. I am a lot of

things besides a diagnosis...

>

> JT

[Guest guest]

Hi Friday,

What a great post, thank you.

Regards,

Tom

----- Original Message -----

From: " Friday " <paraschick@...>

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Sent: Friday, August 27, 2004 10:43 PM

Subject: [low dose naltrexone] Re: re Disability and relationships (ot)

> Here's some real life facts about relationships between abled and

> disabled that I know of personally:

>

> My work colleage- Quadriplegic married to gorgeous woman - 1 child

> (dont ask me how - their business)

>

> Work colleage - Cerebral Palsy married to his childhood sweetheart -

> able bodied.

>

> Our ex-accounts officer - Female with Muscular distrophy - met and

> married her taxi driver -

>

> Work COlleage - quadriplegic - married his physiotherapist, just

> bought their first home - very happy couple.

>

>

> Our receptionist, quadriplegic, just married her partner of 3 years -

> very happy - buying home soon.

>

> Fellow MS work colleage - wonderful relationship with a very athletic

> exercise trainer - travelled Europe together - very happy.

>

> Myself - MS - 2 long term relationships since being diagnosed - now

> married.

>

> Should I go on?

>

> There are heaps more examples - disability is in the mind at the end

> of the day when it comes to having successful relationships or not.

>

> Seemingly healthy people get stricken down by something at some stage

> in their lives, or know someone close to them who does - disease does

> not discriminate.

>

> Its your call people...and to quote the only sensible thing that

> Madonna (singer) ever said in my opinion? " Poor is the man who's

> happiness depends on the permission of others "

>

> Friday

>

>

>

> > No kidding! I don't think I made clear that at times we try to

> influence our children in the hopes of improving their lives when we

> really should trust them to make wise choices based on the guidance

> we have given them over the years. Believe it or not, sometimes they

> really do know what they are doing... Avoiding involvement with

> someone because of a health concern or handicap my actually deny them

> a relationship that could be the best thing in their lives. It is

> not the same as trying to steer them clear of thugs and ne'er do

> wells.

> >

> > I'd sure hope not to be rejected because I have MS. I am a lot of

> things besides a diagnosis...

> >

> > JT

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

>

>

> Hi all,

>

> It is great to hear something like that. However, my only question

is were those people having problems before or after they met and

became involved with them? It does give me hope being that I'm 30 and

now having problems. I also like having someone around. I think we all

like it.

: I was diagnosed at 37 in 1988 and by the time I reunited with

my high school sweetheart and now husband four years later, I had

visible leg weakness after 2 pretty major exacerbations, drove a car

w/ hand controls and was already disabled from my job. I had not seen

him in almost 20 yrs. so when we were getting to know each other

again, MS was the uninvited but always present third wheel! I knew

that he was a 'keeper' when he researched MS on his own and once when

I was sitting on the floor unable to get up on my own, he asked me

" how can I help " before he lifted me up. We have been together since

reuniting and got married about 4 yrs ago.

He is a very athletic always on the go guy: an avid skier, fisherman,

golfer and plays raquetball-none of which I can do anymore! I believe

that there are many people out there that will be open to exploring a

relationship with people of all abilities.

Good luck .

Gail