Guest guest Posted March 14, 2007 Report Share Posted March 14, 2007 I have the same problem with my son and he is 9. I got my son involved in activities after school so he feels he is apart of something with other kids. We did Tae Kwon Doe for a while and he loved it. Now we are doing basketball. Also I found a support group in my area with child with autism. I try to get my son together with the other children in the group. It is still hard for him to interact with them. I feel bad for my son to. I think getting your son involved in after school activities will make him feel better. Do u have a YMCA in your area? They are reasonable with cost. As for the school maybe he needs to be in a different class. Does he have an IEP? sweetestheart3641 <sweetestheart3641@...> wrote: hi. i am a mother of a seven year old son with aspergers. he is in first grade and is has always had a hard time making friends. lately it seems not being able to make friends is making him very sad and frustrated. he feels nobody wants to be his friend. most of the other kids dont like him. one kid in particular intentionally tells kids not to play with my son, and they listen to him. i feel terribly helpless for him. he was in such tears yesterday and today about it. i was just wondering if anybody had any suggestions to help. i could really use some advice.thanks,lizaAlly Don't get soaked. Take a quick peek at the forecast with the Search weather shortcut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 > > hi. i am a mother of a seven year old son with aspergers. he is in > first grade and is has always had a hard time making friends. lately > it seems not being able to make friends is making him very sad and > frustrated. he feels nobody wants to be his friend. most of the > other kids dont like him. one kid in particular intentionally tells > kids not to play with my son, and they listen to him. i feel terribly > helpless for him. he was in such tears yesterday and today about it. > i was just wondering if anybody had any suggestions to help. i could > really use some advice. > > thanks, > liza > Liza, We have a 1st grader boy, same situation. This is what we've done: Make sure the teacher and school social worker (if avail) knows about his Aspergers and his lack of friends. Ask for their help. Next see if you can talk to some of the kids about your son. Do this more one on one, if needed use the teacher. We've found that most kids will shun the " weird " kid, UNLESS then know about him and WHY he does what he does. Most kids like to help a child that has 'problems' especially if they are asked by an adult. You'll still have the couple that like to pick, but most will come around. Also check to see what the other kids are into. Soccer, basketball, gameboy, etc. Find something that you can get or teach your boy about to fit in more. I had a boy come up to me when I was picking my son up, he said, " Does he act like that at home too? " " Yes " , I said, " Its because of his Autism, have you heard about that? " " Yeah, the teacher told us " he said with an understanding look. He handles my son's crying and outbursts quite well. Now that we're here, we have to teach others. ASD awareness and education for all I guess. Hope this helps. Parent of 6 children DX with ASD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 Does your son's school have a buddy or friendship class? I wanted my son in the one @ his school but it was filled up already. > > hi. i am a mother of a seven year old son with aspergers. he is in > first grade and is has always had a hard time making friends. lately > it seems not being able to make friends is making him very sad and > frustrated. he feels nobody wants to be his friend. most of the > other kids dont like him. one kid in particular intentionally tells > kids not to play with my son, and they listen to him. i feel terribly > helpless for him. he was in such tears yesterday and today about it. > i was just wondering if anybody had any suggestions to help. i could > really use some advice. > > thanks, > liza > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 My recommendation would be to get with the teacher and Autism team at your school. Is he part of a social skills group? When my son was in first grade we actually did a "talk" to the class to talk about aspergers and explain behaviors. Our school is really strong into no bullying and at that age (my son is now 9 and in 4th grade) we set up play buddies or lunch buddies. The kids took turns sitting with at lunch and playing outside. It was "pre-planned and supervised to help him learn to play more appropriately. Maybe they can find a child that has similiar interests. First grade was so hard because they begin to notice the differences and want so bad to be part of the group. I send my best wishes and hope that you can get some assistance! LJAOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 My recommendation would be to get with the teacher and Autism team at your school. Is he part of a social skills group? When my son was in first grade we actually did a "talk" to the class to talk about aspergers and explain behaviors. Our school is really strong into no bullying and at that age (my son is now 9 and in 4th grade) we set up play buddies or lunch buddies. The kids took turns sitting with at lunch and playing outside. It was "pre-planned and supervised to help him learn to play more appropriately. Maybe they can find a child that has similiar interests. First grade was so hard because they begin to notice the differences and want so bad to be part of the group. I send my best wishes and hope that you can get some assistance! LJAOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 liza, my son is 8 with aspergers. what i did this past year was talk to his teacher. she is awesome. she watched him to see who he tried to buddy up with. at our parent teacher conference she told me of 3 boys he tries to play with at recess. i volunteer for computer lab so i watch also who does he talk to etc.... i took it upon myself to have one of these boys over for a play date. i made sure our other 3 children were gone for the day and kept his visit short. 3 hours. we followed them around to make sure that my son didn't leave his company and included him in with what he wsa doing. we did a lot of restructuring during this 3 hours. the next day at school his new friend asked to come back over again. my son was excited. other boys have over heard them talking and have asked to come over to our house too. talk about being on cloud 9. (me that is) his friend has been over several times since then and we still over listen to what they are doing and keep watch for them. my son is better with the unspoken rules of what to do with company but still has a ways to go. the other child even invited my son over for a few hours. his first outing to a friends. we have been bullied too last year. one child bullying and having other children gang up or be rude to my son. so i know where you are coming from. it broke my heart. hang in there. it can happen. it will happen. that was my goal for my son for 8 months. to help him make a friend and hopefully keep a friend. carrie --- autism_bites <autism_bites@...> wrote: > > > > > hi. i am a mother of a seven year old son with > aspergers. he is in > > first grade and is has always had a hard time > making friends. lately > > it seems not being able to make friends is making > him very sad and > > frustrated. he feels nobody wants to be his > friend. most of the > > other kids dont like him. one kid in particular > intentionally tells > > kids not to play with my son, and they listen to > him. i feel > terribly > > helpless for him. he was in such tears yesterday > and today about > it. > > i was just wondering if anybody had any > suggestions to help. i could > > really use some advice. > > > > thanks, > > liza > > > > > Liza, > > We have a 1st grader boy, same situation. This is > what we've done: Make > sure the teacher and school social worker (if avail) > knows about his > Aspergers and his lack of friends. Ask for their > help. > > Next see if you can talk to some of the kids about > your son. Do this > more one on one, if needed use the teacher. We've > found that most kids > will shun the " weird " kid, UNLESS then know about > him and WHY he does > what he does. Most kids like to help a child that > has 'problems' > especially if they are asked by an adult. You'll > still have the couple > that like to pick, but most will come around. > > Also check to see what the other kids are into. > Soccer, basketball, > gameboy, etc. Find something that you can get or > teach your boy about > to fit in more. > > I had a boy come up to me when I was picking my son > up, he said, " Does > he act like that at home too? " " Yes " , I said, " Its > because of his > Autism, have you heard about that? " " Yeah, the > teacher told us " he > said with an understanding look. He handles my > son's crying and > outbursts quite well. > > Now that we're here, we have to teach others. ASD > awareness and > education for all I guess. Hope this helps. > > > Parent of 6 children DX with ASD > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Don't pick lemons. See all the new 2007 cars at Autos. http://autos./new_cars.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 Bonnie I also enjoy getting together with members of this group when possible. It is so nice to put a face, and a voice to the person you have been corresponding with. Can't wait to hear more about Patty's trip, glad you had a good time! Sharon H. Mom to , (15, DS) and , (11) South Carolina " Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. " Making friends Hi everyone, Just wanted to share this with you. I had the great pleasure of spending a whole day, last Thursday, with Patty and her family, during her visit to Belgium. How nice it is to be able to make friends with someone with whom we have something in common, and this was made possible because of being part of the group! Of course, for most of you in America, is a lot easier to get together, but see, there are still chances that we meet each other, even if we are in different continents! Well, I don't know if I'll ever go to Australia, but to the States is more likely. I'll let Patty tell you all about her trip when she gets back, I think she is now in Paris or on her way to Spain. I am sure she will have a lot to tell you Bonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 I know how you feel- because of this list I have met 2 new families- and we are actually off to spend 2 days with Kim in Port Pirie tomorrow!! 3 adults and 7 kids (2 with ds) - lord help us all!!!! Aussie Leis- mum to 9 , Natasha 5 and 3. Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing. Abraham Lincoln, Ana wrote: > > Hi everyone, > > Just wanted to share this with you. I had the great pleasure of > spending a whole day, last Thursday, with Patty and her family, during > her visit to Belgium. How nice it is to be able to make friends with > someone with whom we have something in common, and this was made > possible because of being part of the group! Of course, for most of > you in America, is a lot easier to get together, but see, there are > still chances that we meet each other, even if we are in different > continents! Well, I don't know if I'll ever go to Australia, but to > the States is more likely. I'll let Patty tell you all about her > trip when she gets back, I think she is now in Paris or on her way to > Spain. I am sure she will have a lot to tell you > > Bonnie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 Hello, Is anyone on this list from Virginia? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 - we just moved out of Virginia - but Tim and I both still work there. Are you from VA? Re: Making friends Hello, Is anyone on this list from Virginia? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 We live in Lynchburg. Where did you move to ? Michele, where are you located? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2007 Report Share Posted April 16, 2007 We moved across the river and into West Virginia. I work in Leesburg. I've been to Lynchburg one time - probably 6 years ago or so. It's lovely in that area. Re: Making friends We live in Lynchburg. Where did you move to ? Michele, where are you located? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2008 Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Hello! My name is Cristina I'm 28 and I'm still pretty new to these boards. I have only posted a couple of times. I was banded on 8/5/08, at Northwest Weight Loss, and I'm scheduled for my first fill on 9/02. I'm not a native seattlite and have only lived here for a bout a year and a half. I'm a pretty social person but have found it extremely difficult to make a new circle of friends in the area. This probably sounds really lame but does anyone have any tips or ideas to break the ice in the NW? Thanks in advance. Cristina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2008 Report Share Posted August 27, 2008 Carol, what kind of hobbies and interests do you have? There are the Mountaineers if you like to go hiking, they have all levels of difficulty, there are knitting clubs, political parties that would welcome your participation with the upcoming election, various church groups, book clubs, and Toastmasters. Your local food bank or homeless shelter would welcome you as a volunteer, too. These are the things I can think of right off the top of my head. Follow your own interests and you'll find like-minded people. Barb in Monroe, who is so busy she rarely has time to read a book! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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