Living with -V- Dealing with Autism

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Hi all I am still so behind my email I do not feel I will every get caught up. I have been tempted to just delete and start fresh the next day. But than I would miss much information. I follow a thread until it turns in a direction that I am not dealing with and move onto the next topic. I can honestly say raising and working with other families dealing with autism and other disabilities has enlighten my world and blessed my soul and opened my heart. The Autism does bring along with it high level of stress, but when you sit back and just see things through the individuals eyes of the person living with Autism it is amazing what you see. Many would say this statement is confusing. It is simple. We ( Bob & I ) are dealing with Autism in raising , however is the one who is living with Autism. He sees the world in such a different light. Not rose

colored glasses or drug induced visions, but in a way that when you stop and try to see what he is seeing life becomes simple. When was the last time you laid on the ground next to your child and watch life at the ground level? I did today. was laying on the patio starring in to my freshly weeded flower bed. I laid next to him and ask what we were watching. He said "another world" I stopped and looked and not seeing anything other than dirt, flowers and ants ask "what world is that?" He looked up at me and said " They do not stop Mom, I have never seen an ant take a nap." He continued for 5 minutes telling me what the ants were doing in his mind, building houses, walking the kids, hunting for food, getting married, burying the dead. That one grabbed my attention hard and I ask what he meant. He pointed out an ant that was carrying another ant and he said the one on top is dead and see that (pointing to an ant carrying a grain of

rice left over from yesterday dinner on the patio) she is taking he egg home from the baby ant hospital. I just sat there and for the 1st time since I was child just watched the ants. It is a different world down here. Later we were at PT and a mother was trying to explain sensory issues to her son who looked to be about 9. , not looking at them and not speaking loudly said " your brain and body do not talk to each other" This floored me. I do not know where he every heard this explanation, I know not from me. But I thought back to all the times I tried to explain it to a parent a sibling and laughed. How much simpler can a statement be and still answer to the question completely? I later asked him about it, he said "that is how I work" I am not saying there are not days I just want to go to my room and cry or hide in my office with the huge NO sigh on the door. But after today I will stop 1st and try

to see what is seeing through his eyes. I have a feeling re-taught me a great life lesson today without even trying to be the teacher. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Check Out Make a Dream Come True Entry http://www.4pawsforability.org/dream.htm Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that

strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon

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