Re: The bonding reflex and my daughter

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That is such a wonderful story. I remember several years ago when I discovered for myself that one of my reflexes that was not balanced was bonding. It took some time to get bonding strong again but it was a thrill when achieved so I know your excitement. Congratulations. Ann FarrisAuthor, The Other Side of Dyslexiawww.dyslexiadiscovery.com415 552 6330 From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of KayteSent: Friday, January 21, 2011 8:10 PM Subject: The bonding reflex and my daughter I wanted to share a little triumph we had in our home. I have been doing the bonding reflex on my daughter since last spring. I took the class to help my son. Every night I went to my hotel room and practiced on my kids. The first night I did bonding on my daughter she went to sleep without anxiety....first time in a very long time. Thank goodness! She also gets very scared when she has to deal with talking in class or getting up to talk when she has to present something to her homeschooling coop class. Last Monday she went up to the front of the class alone and did her presentation. First time ever. It took her a year just to be able to get up from her chair! I asked her how she did it. For the week prior we had been talking about how it would feel to not be afraid during the coop while I did the bonding reflex. I expected her to say she remembered that she was loved or something like what I had said to her. Her response was she remembered bonding. I am thinking she felt/remembered my embracing squeezing. Actually she said she felt she was pressing her knee into my hand. The part where they lean into your hand and they press the opposite knee into your other hand. It is nice to see your child's face when they experience a new level of freedom in the way they function. I look forward to her becoming more and more the person she was created to be without fear or anxiety.

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- This is wonderful. Thanks for sharing!!

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Thank you for sharing.I had a 8 years old client with selective mutism (she did not speak at all at school). The school psychologist wanted to start a system of pressure with removing privileges (punishments!) to force her to speak.... after few weeks of the mom doing the bonding reflex, this girl started talking at school....to the point that she had many friends....the problem was resolved...

Suzanne DayMember ofL'Ordre des psychologues du QuébecOntario Association of Consultants, Counsellors, Psychometrists and PsychotherapistsBCIA/EEG, Associate Fellowsuzanne.day@...Ph. 705-726-5971 and 450-663-6946Fax. 705-726-5958web: www.wisechoiceeducationalservices.com

On 2011-01-21, at 11:10 PM, Kayte wrote:

I wanted to share a little triumph we had in our home. I have been doing the bonding reflex on my daughter since last spring. I took the class to help my son. Every night I went to my hotel room and practiced on my kids. The first night I did bonding on my daughter she went to sleep without anxiety....first time in a very long time. Thank goodness! She also gets very scared when she has to deal with talking in class or getting up to talk when she has to present something to her homeschooling coop class.

Last Monday she went up to the front of the class alone and did her presentation. First time ever. It took her a year just to be able to get up from her chair! I asked her how she did it. For the week prior we had been talking about how it would feel to not be afraid during the coop while I did the bonding reflex. I expected her to say she remembered that she was loved or something like what I had said to her. Her response was she remembered bonding. I am thinking she felt/remembered my embracing squeezing. Actually she said she felt she was pressing her knee into my hand. The part where they lean into your hand and they press the opposite knee into your other hand. It is nice to see your child's face when they experience a new level of freedom in the way they function. I look forward to her becoming more and more the person she was created to be without fear or anxiety.

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WOW and WOW!  PalastiRDI Program Certified ConsultantDevelopmental Guide / Parenting Coachlisapal@...Business (519) 895-0228Fax          (519) 895-1632Cell          (519) 575-5323 From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Suzanne DaySent: January 24, 2011 8:52 AM Subject: Re: The bonding reflex and my daughter Thank you for sharing.I had a 8 years old client with selective mutism (she did not speak at all at school). The school psychologist wanted to start a system of pressure with removing privileges (punishments!) to force her to speak.... after few weeks of the mom doing the bonding reflex, this girl started talking at school....to the point that she had many friends....the problem was resolved... Suzanne DayMember ofL'Ordre des psychologues du QuébecOntario Association of Consultants, Counsellors, Psychometrists and PsychotherapistsBCIA/EEG, Associate Fellowsuzanne.day@...Ph. 705-726-5971 and 450-663-6946Fax. 705-726-5958web: www.wisechoiceeducationalservices.com On 2011-01-21, at 11:10 PM, Kayte wrote: I wanted to share a little triumph we had in our home. I have been doing the bonding reflex on my daughter since last spring. I took the class to help my son. Every night I went to my hotel room and practiced on my kids. The first night I did bonding on my daughter she went to sleep without anxiety....first time in a very long time. Thank goodness! She also gets very scared when she has to deal with talking in class or getting up to talk when she has to present something to her homeschooling coop class. Last Monday she went up to the front of the class alone and did her presentation. First time ever. It took her a year just to be able to get up from her chair! I asked her how she did it. For the week prior we had been talking about how it would feel to not be afraid during the coop while I did the bonding reflex. I expected her to say she remembered that she was loved or something like what I had said to her. Her response was she remembered bonding. I am thinking she felt/remembered my embracing squeezing. Actually she said she felt she was pressing her knee into my hand. The part where they lean into your hand and they press the opposite knee into your other hand. It is nice to see your child's face when they experience a new level of freedom in the way they function. I look forward to her becoming more and more the person she was created to be without fear or anxiety.

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Dear Members of the ChildrenwithChallenges Group,

I want to share the example that I had in my practice in Poland at one of Camps in 2007. We had a 16-th year old girl with major mutism and complete loss of speech at 6 year old. She looked very tiny teenager, strong muscle tension, poor postural control, strong protection response, poor visual contact, many refusals, and escape of communication, completely non-verbal for 10 years.

She went through MNRI Program - 5 hours a day for 12 days. On the day 6-th in the evening she was sitting in the chair waiting for her session. I was walking fast in hurry for some child, passed near by her and heard: "G o o d e v e n i n g" with some smile. I responded automatically: "Good evening, my dear", and hurried up further. Then in next 3 seconds I realized that she - non-verbal child - pronounced the words. I could not believe this - my joy was springing out my mouth/throat - I hold back all my joy and seriously turned back and asked, "sorry, what did you say, I didn't hear I think, sorry that I was not attentive, I was

in a hurry ..." Very distinctly she repeated "Good evening". I looked at her like all is so usual and with no surprise I told again "Oh, I see, G o o d e v e n i n g".

Next I was requesting all people I saw on my way (some 10 or more) to greet her and just to tell 2 words: "Good evening" (with no any other talking or celebration). I wanted to trigger the 'speech pattern/construction' she was able to express, before she would move to next expressions (I wanted her to create 'speech the anchor'. This was the evening when her speech "recovered" back. She talks now.

I hope that parents of children that experienced speech recovery in their children will share their amazing stories - we have some - in Canada, USA and Europe.

Programs that help this children: Neuro-Structural, Upper Limb Reflex and Manual Skill Integration, Reflex Re-Patterning (Foot Tendon Guard, Babinski, Grounding, Fear Paralyses, Hands Grasp and Hand Pulling, Hand Supporting, ATNR, Galant and some others). The best, for sure, to get a complex of Programs that our Family Conferences Program proposes.

I hope my English is clear.

Wish you all the best,

with great respect for Parents and Specialists,

Svetlana Masgutova.

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From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Suzanne DaySent: January 24, 2011 8:52 AM Subject: Re: The bonding reflex and my daughter

Thank you for sharing.

I had a 8 years old client with selective mutism (she did not speak at all at school). The school psychologist wanted to start a system of pressure with removing privileges (punishments!) to force her to speak.... after few weeks of the mom doing the bonding reflex, this girl started talking at school....to the point that she had many friends....the problem was resolved...

Suzanne Day

Member of

L'Ordre des psychologues du Québec

Ontario Association of Consultants, Counsellors, Psychometrists and Psychotherapists

BCIA/EEG, Associate Fellow

suzanne.day@...

Ph. 705-726-5971 and 450-663-6946

Fax. 705-726-5958

web: www.wisechoiceeducationalservices.com

On 2011-01-21, at 11:10 PM, Kayte wrote:

I wanted to share a little triumph we had in our home. I have been doing the bonding reflex on my daughter since last spring. I took the class to help my son. Every night I went to my hotel room and practiced on my kids. The first night I did bonding on my daughter she went to sleep without anxiety....first time in a very long time. Thank goodness! She also gets very scared when she has to deal with talking in class or getting up to talk when she has to present something to her homeschooling coop class. Last Monday she went up to the front of the class alone and did her presentation. First time ever. It took her a year just to be able to get up from her chair! I asked her how she did it. For the week prior we had been talking about how it would feel to not be afraid during the coop while I did the bonding reflex. I expected her to say she remembered that she was loved or something like what I had said to her. Her response

was she remembered bonding. I am thinking she felt/remembered my embracing squeezing. Actually she said she felt she was pressing her knee into my hand. The part where they lean into your hand and they press the opposite knee into your other hand. It is nice to see your child's face when they experience a new level of freedom in the way they function. I look forward to her becoming more and more the person she was created to be without fear or anxiety.

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,Thank you for sharing about the success you had with your daughter in working with the bonding reflex.The Bonding Reflex is one of the first reflexes I worked with on my son after taking my first class with Svetlana.  I had taken the Integration and Dynamic and Postural Reflexes from Svetlana in Minnesota and left for home to California the day after the class.  Being away from home was very difficult.  My son was very attached (very much in need of hand supporting in accepting others) and would become anxious every morning when taking him to preschool.  He would repeatedly ask if I was going to pick him up and what time over and over again while driving to the preschool.  I had never been late picking him up, nor forgotten, or given him any reason to worry.  Even in our own 2-story home, I could not reach the third step going upstairs before he was right there beside me following me up.  After working the Bonding Reflex with him his repeated questioning dramatically reduced and one day I realized that I was able to go upstairs and have a conversation with my husband for about a minute before noticing he wasn't there right beside me.  I think we worked the Bonding reflex 3-4 times maybe.  It only continued to improve from there.  Since then, although we have worked many of the other reflexes, we have not worked that reflex since.  He was almost five years old then and now he is 10.  He can attend homeschool classes without being anxious and has become quite a talented public speaker. 

Recently, he has developed anxiety about other things, and your post has reminded me that he could benefit from working the bonding reflex again.  Thank you for reminding me of how powerful that reflex can be and of the awareness that I do have the work with that reflex at my disposal to use to help him.

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The wonderful thing about this reflex is that you do not have to be the parent! I have a student with Autism (mostly non-verbal) that tends to be aloof. He does sometimes sit in my lap and I do what I can, yesterday he allowed me to do some gentle core tendon guard reflex work near his shoulders. He moved into my arms like a baby, I was only able to get eye contact for a short amount of time, later that day and today he has approached me and my assistant using more language and eye contact, less crying and screaming when he didn't get his way. Best Regards,On Jan 30, 2011, at 11:51 PM, Freitas wrote:

,Thank you for sharing about the success you had with your daughter in working with the bonding reflex.The Bonding Reflex is one of the first reflexes I worked with on my son after taking my first class with Svetlana. I had taken the Integration and Dynamic and Postural Reflexes from Svetlana in Minnesota and left for home to California the day after the class. Being away from home was very difficult. My son was very attached (very much in need of hand supporting in accepting others) and would become anxious every morning when taking him to preschool. He would repeatedly ask if I was going to pick him up and what time over and over again while driving to the preschool. I had never been late picking him up, nor forgotten, or given him any reason to worry. Even in our own 2-story home, I could not reach the third step going upstairs before he was right there beside me following me up. After working the Bonding Reflex with him his repeated questioning dramatically reduced and one day I realized that I was able to go upstairs and have a conversation with my husband for about a minute before noticing he wasn't there right beside me. I think we worked the Bonding reflex 3-4 times maybe. It only continued to improve from there. Since then, although we have worked many of the other reflexes, we have not worked that reflex since. He was almost five years old then and now he is 10. He can attend homeschool classes without being anxious and has become quite a talented public speaker.

Recently, he has developed anxiety about other things, and your post has reminded me that he could benefit from working the bonding reflex again. Thank you for reminding me of how powerful that reflex can be and of the awareness that I do have the work with that reflex at my disposal to use to help him.

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