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Dear ,

I read your post with great compassion and a loss for words. I did not know what

to say- thus I have not responded until now. I keep reading the responses by

several which seem solid and compassionate. I kept thinking that I needed to

reach out to you because, though I don't post often, I always enjoy your insight

and wisdom on the sites to which you post. I am sorry you are having to go

through this. It seems unfair in life, to have to deal with so many things at

once. It is as if CML should be enough on our plates!

I have found in the past when I have been rejected by some, that often times,

those same people came in time, to be clearer about themselves. What I mean

is, that your friend is likely to discover what he lost in you when the " youth,

beauty and money " are gone. He will see for himself that his motivation was as

shallow as what the girlfriend had to offer. I have always thought what goes

around, comes around.

I was dismissed from a job 7 months after diagnosis. 3 years later, the woman

who dismissed me- was dismissed. They saw right through her. There will be a

time when someone sees right through him also. It is his loss - his issues and

not yours. Try not to give him any more energy than you have to....

I also do not believe it will 'go away' . I don't think we ever forget these

kinds of violations to our inner selves, but I do think we move beyond them.

Might I suggest that when you are ready, you would do well to find a shelf to

put this on, and on occasion, as your heart heals, and your spirit grows

stronger and new doors open to you, take this down and look at it, and then

laugh into it - spit if you wish =]

The very fact that you went to see a professional to begin the work through it,

is the first step in healing your heart. My hat is off and my respect is to

you...

Barb S. In AZ

Message: 3

Date: Sat, 4 Jun 2005 23:18:30 -0400

From: " loewen1 " <loewen1@...>

Subject: Abandonment

Hi All,

I just need to take a few moments to tell you that I'm struggling with the

loss of a friend. He abandoned me for a woman (beautiful and young) who has

been harrassing me in many different ways for the last five years. She

makes tv commercials too. I'm sure you've seen her. He chose her instead

of a friendship with me and I don't know why. Probably because she's young

and beautiful and rich. There have been some Caifornians in town and they

let me know about it.

I'm devastated.. He didn't even tell me. Obviously, he'd rather have a

woman with very questionalble ethics who has made my life a living hell than

me. He left town with no notice. No warning. he's nowhere to be found.

Because of this woman and her stage mother (LA, you know), I have ended up

in a psychiatrist's office on antidepressants plus lithium. For days I

couldn't stop crying. Now that's stopped but I feel a very deep sadness and

I think it will take a very long time for it to go away because of this

unbelievable betrayal.

Thanks for listening.

L