My cry for help

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I'm just about at my wits end with my sons. I need some advice, desperately.

I don't know if I'm expecting too much from 's (ds) siblings, I don't

think I am, but if his own brothers bash him and make fun of him around other

kids, don't I have the right to be upset?

We socialize with these two other couples, who have children our kids ages,

pretty regularly. All the kids have known one another for a good number of

years. usually goes off on his own to watch videos when we visit, and

occasionally some of the kids join him by the end of the night. My middle

son (next in line after ) does NOTHING with and therefore the

youngest (who idolizes the middle child) follows suit. I'm sick and tired of

this. And others say I'm expecting too much and that it isn't their

responsibility just because they were born into having a brother with ds. I

DISAGREE! I'm sorry, but it is their brother!

Well, tonight we were at the one couples house and I told to go play

instead of watching videos by himself....and he did! I got his shoes on and

all the kids were playing upstairs together ( I checked on them once, which

makes angry, and all seemed fine). Later the woman that lives there and

I were out at the back of her property looking in on all the kids through the

picture window and saw all the kids running around acting crazy. We came

around and came inside to settle them down and all they said was " did

this, and did that " Bullshit! (sorry) I saw it, and I told them I saw

them all doing the very things was doing. I get so sick of these kids

blaming .

Then about 20 minutes later I came in to check again, and all the kids were

sitting around in the family room....no in sight, and the kids didn't

see me as I was eavesdropping and I heard (my middle son) make a

comment " Yeah, and I have to live with him! Imagine that. " Then my little

guy (who's only 6) made a remark too! I was horrified to hear his own

brothers bashing him in front of the very children my husband and I go in to

speak to at the beginning of the school year.

Needless to say, my heart was broken and I was furious. is damned when

he participates in play and damned when he watches videos by himself. I

don't know how much more I can take of children, including his own brothers,

ignoring him and not helping him. I'm ready to become a hermit, and I know

this isn't the right answer either. Is it time for us to seek counseling?

Jackie, Mom to 12ds, 10, and Bradley 6.