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Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic.

Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Thanks.

Jill

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> Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have

any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Hi Jill - I am , mom to Jimmy (15, DS, PDD-NOS, and ADHD) - we

are just starting to deal with this, but I do have a GREAT resource.

His name is Dave Hingsberger, and his vocation in life is teaching

appropriate sexuality to people with DD. In particular, he has

written a book called " Just Say Know " for parents and caregivers that

is excellent. Here is the website of the company that publishes a

lot of his stuff: http://www.diverse-city.com/display.htm

Just click on the " books " link to find the book....

If anyone ever has the chance to see Dave speak, I would highly

recommend it!! His classes for individuals with developmental

disabilities are also wonderful. Jim was too young to participate

the last time he was here in town, but maybe next time.

Good luck to your friend...

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Hi, Jill,

Does the boy have a father to discuss this with? Or any other male relative or close friend? Maybe a doctor? Mark took some sex ed classes at school from two male teachers who taught health classes and are also coaches. I liked both men teachers, and trusted them completely with whatever information they gave Mark. (my other sons knew these teachers and liked them very well) The mom should contact the school and see if this is possible for her son. She could also talk to the teachers involved to get her concerns discussed first. I found it was easiest to discuss sex with Mark when doing his science homework. This way the topic is very academic, but the adult can go in any direction the child might need at the time.

I think the mom needs to find some men to help her with this.

Barbara

Sexuality

Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic.

Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Thanks.

Jill

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Hi, this is Trish. We haven't had that problem with Andy since he is so childlike in his thinking. However, unfortuantely, some other DS grown ups in the Group Home he lived in exposed him to some very nasty magazines of the kind I am so surprised their parents would allow. Anyway, we tell Andy when he started kissing on some of his female DS friends in Los Alamos that he should not be kissing anyone or hugging them until the day he says "I Do" when he gets married. He will probably never get married but still, we instill in him that fact that there is no kissing and no touching unless your married like the Bible says. He is good with that. I can see that mother is in need of some serious help since her son is 18. Prayerfully, he has a Dad who will tell him to talk to him instead of his mother concerning those matters. If the Dad tells him the same thing the mother does, then perhaps the son will drop the subject and realize that sex is for

marriage and unless your married, that subject is not up for discussion unless in the appropriate manner. Perhaps he has a Dad who will turn his son in the proper direction. My husband says she just needs to play that all down and not really get into explaining everything It is up to the Dad or the male figure in his life he is close with to discuss that with. That's our take on it! We hope it helps. God Bless! Jill <thrill@...> wrote: Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr.

old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic. Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could

share with her? Thanks. Jill Mom to Mac and Kit

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Dad is uncomfortable about the whole situation--which isn't a good reason, I know. Plus, the boy doesn't even talk about sex "stuff" when his dad is around--it's almost entirely when he's with his mom. She will ask his older brother to talk to him when he's home as she thinks he'd be willing and do a good job with him on the subject. She is trying not to make a big deal about it and does a lot of as you suggested reminding him that that (sex, etc..) is for when he's married.

Thanks.

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Hi, this is Trish. We haven't had that problem with Andy since he is so childlike in his thinking. However, unfortuantely, some other DS grown ups in the Group Home he lived in exposed him to some very nasty magazines of the kind I am so surprised their parents would allow. Anyway, we tell Andy when he started kissing on some of his female DS friends in Los Alamos that he should not be kissing anyone or hugging them until the day he says "I Do" when he gets married. He will probably never get married but still, we instill in him that fact that there is no kissing and no touching unless your married like the Bible says. He is good with that. I can see that mother is in need of some serious help since her son is 18. Prayerfully, he has a Dad who will tell him to talk to him instead of his mother concerning those matters. If the Dad tells him the same thing the mother does, then perhaps the son will drop the subject and realize that sex is for marriage and unless your married, that subject is not up for discussion unless in the appropriate manner. Perhaps he has a Dad who will turn his son in the proper direction. My husband says she just needs to play that all down and not really get into explaining everything It is up to the Dad or the male figure in his life he is close with to discuss that with. That's our take on it! We hope it helps. God Bless! Jill <thrill@...> wrote:

Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic.

Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Thanks.

Jill

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It is a sad thing when parents leave it up to teachers to teach their child what only they should be teaching! Unless the parent is present, God only knows what a child is going to be taught. That to us is even more frightening! In this day and age, one never knows what their child will be told and the parents needs to hold the reins of responsibility. We would never trust anyone to tell our son such things, it would be leaving him wide open to whatever the individual decided to teach him. It could also put him in a dangerous situtation. My husband is a former Police Chief and the stories he has to tell would make a grown man cry and then make him fighting mad! Parents need to be responsible and too bad if they are "uncomfortable" with such things. It is their job to be the parent, not someone else. Parents need to take responsibilty for the child they brought into this life and not expect someone else to do their training for them. No wonder

so many terrible things happen to some children today. You really can't trust anyone! I for one tell you a story of something that happened that if I hadn't been watching as a parent, my son would have been in danger. It was the man next door in Nebraska and he went to prison for molesting the boys in the neighborhood and going further to tell them that he would kill them and their parents if they told anyone. Thankfully, a child told and the man went to prison. He lived right next door and was looking in our daughters window in the country at night knowing full well the Police Chief lived there. Now, that takes guts! Yes, I had curtains up but he was a peeping Tom too and those curtains became thicker and closed before dark after that. We learned about his sordid acts three years after we moved away. It sent chills up my spine and goosebumps upon goose bumps thinking how nice that man was yet he was a molester. He molested his own children and grandchildren! I

watched my son ride his bike next door and never left the step where I watched he and his sisters go get eggs from that man and his wife. Thank God I was being a responsible parents or a different story would be told! Watch out for those you think are so nice yet are out to hurt someone you love. So, that trust issue, sorry but we have learned not to trust anyone we don't really know and proceed with caution those we think we know. Anyway, we know it isn't your problem what another does and you are a good friend to try to help your friend. That's our two cents worth! God Bless! Trish : )Jill <thrill@...> wrote: Yes, his father is in the picture. (the boy) does not question his father or express his interest in sex to his father. The father is thankful as he is uncomfortable talking about it. He does have two older brothers and one of them is "better" than the other at dealing with but he lives out of town/state and they don't see each other much. We are looking at finding a semi-local person who works primarily with kids in the juvenile justice system, but has an interest and semi-expertise dealing with sexual issues. He is a man and this may help if the guy is still around--he came and talked to parents of my students about sexuality issues about 10 years ago--now we're just trying to relocate him. has not had any male

teachers and this fall he will be starting school at a new school in a new town (he will be at my school) so we will have to see. Thanks. Jill Sexuality Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle

his questions and extreme interest in the topic. Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her? Thanks. Jill Mom to Mac and Kit No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.1.394 / Virus Database: 268.10.1/389 - Release Date: 7/14/2006

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One more thought. Perhaps your friend ought to see she isn't alone with her son if she is senses something there that could put her in a situtation she has a gut feeling about. Not knowing either of them, well, I think I would just be quickly changing the subject and give my son something else to occupy his mind while removing myself from the room or house temporarily. It seems like maybe he may be watching something on TV or seeing something he shouldn't be. For my son, well, I have it fixed so his innocent eyes don't see things on TV he shouldn't. He is really happy with Disney channel and I still have to watch with that, unfortuantely. I have everything blocked I can so that even my grandchildren can't watch things none of us should. My 15 year old grandson asked me for my password. Is he kidding???????????????????? Have a lovely rest of the day and stay cool! God Bless! Trish

:)Jill <thrill@...> wrote: Dad is uncomfortable about the whole situation--which isn't a good reason, I know. Plus, the boy doesn't even talk about sex "stuff" when his dad is around--it's almost entirely when he's with his mom. She will ask his older brother to talk to him when he's home as she thinks he'd be willing and do a good job with him on the subject. She is trying not to make a big deal about it and does a lot of as you suggested reminding him that that (sex, etc..) is

for when he's married. Thanks. Re: Sexuality Hi, this is Trish. We haven't had that problem with Andy since he is so childlike in his

thinking. However, unfortuantely, some other DS grown ups in the Group Home he lived in exposed him to some very nasty magazines of the kind I am so surprised their parents would allow. Anyway, we tell Andy when he started kissing on some of his female DS friends in Los Alamos that he should not be kissing anyone or hugging them until the day he says "I Do" when he gets married. He will probably never get married but still, we instill in him that fact that there is no kissing and no touching unless your married like the Bible says. He is good with that. I can see that mother is in need of some serious help since her son is 18. Prayerfully, he has a Dad who will tell him to talk to him instead of his mother concerning those matters. If the Dad tells him the same thing the mother does, then perhaps the son will drop the subject and realize that sex is for marriage and unless your married, that subject is not up for discussion unless in the appropriate manner.

Perhaps he has a Dad who will turn his son in the proper direction. My husband says she just needs to play that all down and not really get into explaining everything It is up to the Dad or the male figure in his life he is close with to discuss that with. That's our take on it! We hope it helps. God Bless! Jill <thrill@...> wrote: Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate

questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic. Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her? Thanks. Jill Mom to Mac and Kit

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Trish,

I agree that this is the parents' job, and we shouldn't depend on other people to do it. But, most high schools have sex education as part of the health classes. I trust the teachers who taught this, because I know other kids would tell their parents if anything was strange about the class or the teacher. This was a total inclusion class, with typical kids who already know a lot about sex. The teachers also sent home the material they were using. I live in a small community where most of the parents, families, and teachers go to the same churches, so in our case, I do trust these teachers. It's horrible to hear about the kind of man you wrote about, and I know this happens. I agree parents need to be cautious about these things.

I would worry more about what kids see on TV, movies, and in magazines.

Barbara

Sexuality

Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic.

Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Thanks.

Jill

Mom to Mac and Kit

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The Christian schools do not teach a class on sex education nor does Sunday Schools or Church services. I still maintain, it isn't the teachers who should be teaching about sex to our kids, it is the parents full responsibility. That is only one incident, there are so many others people are not aware of. There is also the older kid who torments the younger one and things happen sexually that shouldn't. It is the child of close friends that does it to so many younger kids. That is an actual case that happens in so many other homes unbeknown to the parents until many years later or never. Only the children knows it and has a horrible life trying to sift out their thoughts. So, as I said, beware because life holds more than most ever thought! Most never think it could happen in their home but it does. As I said before, parents need to

really watch what their children are watching on TV, etc. Bottom line is that when it's all said and done, we are all responsible for our own actions. Our special needs kids are responsible to a certain degree, we just have to watch out for them. Anyway, life is full of things people never thought could happen. To each his own, regrets weigh a whole lot. I am not talking about myself here although I could have had regrets and still could. We never know what is around that next corner nor do I look for something. I just try to keep a watchful eye no matter how old my son gets. Hey, his eldest sister is so protective of her Brother that she will push the door open on the men's bathroom in a public place and stand right in the mens room telling her brother to hurry up, sissy is there! Talk about bold and careful when her brother is in her care! So, another 2 cents worth that may not be worth anything to someone else. Oh well,

life goes on! God Bless! Trish : )bmitchell <bmitchell@...> wrote: Trish, I agree that this is the parents' job, and we shouldn't depend on other people to do it. But, most high schools have sex education as part of the health classes. I trust the teachers who taught this, because I know other kids would tell their parents if anything was strange about the class or the

teacher. This was a total inclusion class, with typical kids who already know a lot about sex. The teachers also sent home the material they were using. I live in a small community where most of the parents, families, and teachers go to the same churches, so in our case, I do trust these teachers. It's horrible to hear about the kind of man you wrote about, and I know this happens. I agree parents need to be cautious about these things. I would worry more about what kids see on TV, movies, and in magazines. Barbara -----

Original Message ----- From: Trish Down Syndrome Treatment Sent: Saturday, July 15, 2006 4:55 PM Subject: Re: Sexuality It is a sad thing when parents leave it up to teachers to teach their child what only they should be teaching! Unless the parent is present, God only knows what a child is going to be taught. That to us is even more frightening! In this day and age, one never knows what their child will be told and the parents needs to hold the reins of

responsibility. We would never trust anyone to tell our son such things, it would be leaving him wide open to whatever the individual decided to teach him. It could also put him in a dangerous situtation. My husband is a former Police Chief and the stories he has to tell would make a grown man cry and then make him fighting mad! Parents need to be responsible and too bad if they are "uncomfortable" with such things. It is their job to be the parent, not someone else. Parents need to take responsibilty for the child they brought into this life and not expect someone else to do their training for them. so many terrible things happen to some children today. You really can't trust anyone! I for one tell you a story of something that happened that if I hadn't been watching as a parent, my son would have been in danger. It was the man next door in Nebraska and he went to prison for molesting the boys in the neighborhood and going further to tell them that he would kill

them and their parents if they told anyone. Thankfully, a child told and the man went to prison. He lived right next door and was looking in our daughters window in the country at night knowing full well the Police Chief lived there. Now, that takes guts! Yes, I had curtains up but he was a peeping Tom too and those curtains became thicker and closed before dark after that. We learned about his sordid acts three years after we moved away. It sent chills up my spine and goosebumps upon goose bumps thinking how nice that man was yet he was a molester. He molested his own children and grandchildren! I watched my son ride his bike next door and never left the step where I watched he and his sisters go get eggs from that man and his wife. Thank God I was being a responsible parents or a different story would be told! Watch out for those you think are so nice yet are out to hurt someone you love. So, that trust issue, sorry but we have learned not to trust anyone we

don't really know and proceed with caution those we think we know. Anyway, we know it isn't your problem what another does and you are a good friend to try to help your friend. That's our two cents worth! God Bless! Trish : )Jill <thrill@...> wrote: Yes, his father is in the picture. (the boy) does not question his father or express his interest in sex teachers and this fall he will be starting school at a new school in a new town (he will be at my school) so we will have to see. Thanks. Jill Sexuality Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in sex and

she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic. Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her? Thanks. Jill Mom to Mac and

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im in total agreement it is up to the parents to see there child ds or not gets the right information as a mum of 11 altogether i my self have answered questions from my children in my opinion if a child is old enough to ask u shud try to answer u do not have to go in to graphic detail but in away your child will understand it will b me who explain to alex when the time comes

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I wanted to say that we do not hold the door open at public restrooms waiting for Mark. I think parents need to be cautious, but not this frightened of someone molesting their child.

Barbara

Sexuality

Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in se she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic.

Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her?

Thanks.

Jill

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Sorry you got the impression we are so frightened of someone molesting our child. That is not what I was trying to say. We just know a whole lot about things that have actually happened and parents really ought to be more than cautious as the mother who waited outside the restroom for her child thinking she was right there so nothing could happen to her child with her standing there. Someone was actually in there murdering her precious son. Not trying to scare anyone but reality is, that happens more times than you know. It is my daughter's choice to watch over her brother the way she does. She is 37! I tell ya, the things you learn when your husband is a Police Chief! Another case is (speaking of coachs) a friend of mine has a Granddaughter who is presently going through a terrible ordeal with a coach who has been molesting the granddaughter and other girls at the school for years. He has just been found out. So, the true stories

go on and I am sure you are also aware of many since the news keeps everyone up to date on missing children, molesters, etc. Anyway, It is the person who is not aware of their surroundings by paying close attention who becomes the victim of some criminal act. To each his own so that's all I have to say on the subject. God Bless! Trish : )bmitchell <bmitchell@...> wrote: I wanted to say that we do

not hold the door open at public restrooms waiting for Mark. I think parents need to be cautious, but not this frightened of someone molesting their child. Barbara Sexuality Looking for some resources, ideas here. I have a friend with an18 yr. old son who does not have Ds--but is developmentally delayed and diagnosed with PDD (pervasive developmental disorder) with all around delays. Right now he is very interested in se she is trying to handle it be the best she can, but is having a very hard time. He is CONSTANTLY questioning her about sexual things...some appropriate and some very inappropriate questions/comments. He is not discussing these things

with other people--just his mother--and she is worried that she may be becoming like a sex object to him. She's asked for help from MR/DD and gotten little, she has a "kit" designed for teens/adults with disabilities about sex education, etc...from Planned Parenthood, but is still in need of more resources/ideas of how best to handle his questions and extreme interest in the topic. Has anyone else had to deal with this yet and, if so, do you have any ideas or resources that I could share with her? Thanks. Jill Mom to Mac and Kit No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.1.394 / Virus Database: 268.10.1/389 -

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<< I think parents need to be cautious, but not this frightened of someone molesting their child. >>

Well, Barb, if you live in South Florida you do. Almost every single day there is an article in the paper of a person with special needs or a child being molested. It's horrendous. Our favorite agency where we have gotten our PCAs for years just ended up in the paper when one of their bacground checked, fingerprinted "wonderful" workers was discovered to have been molesting his 21 yo autistic client for the past 2 months. He didn't realize the nonverbal client could type and he told the whole story at the police station (not facilitated communication). He's been at the agency for 2 years and we expect more clients to come forward. This agency is run by our friends who do a thorough job of investigating their employees.

It's wonderful that where you live you can be trusting and Mark can communicate to you what happens but that is not the way things work down here.

Paranoid in FloridaSherry

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--- bmitchell <bmitchell@...> wrote:

> I wanted to say that we do not hold the door open at public

> restrooms waiting for Mark. I think parents need to be cautious,

> but not this frightened of someone molesting their child.

> Barbara

>

Well I heard Dobson (Focus on the Family radio broadcast) say a

number of years ago (after children being snatched from their

bedrooms) that it was his opinion that parents now could not be too

over protective nowadays --he used to say they could, but he said he

had changed his mind. I agree with him judging from all the things

I've read/experienced/heard about.

And besides nowadays there are schoolteachers, therapists, priests,

preachers, doctors, parents, etc. about every day in the papers being

convicted of these heinous crimes. Sadly our kids are not safe

anywhere. We must be vigilant.

Priscilla Kendrick, married 28 years to Darrel and parents of 9 kids including

Evan, 10, born with Down Syndrome and Spina Bifida

" My strength is made perfect in weakness. "

" My grace is sufficient. " II Corinthians 12:9 KJV

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A red hat salute to you Sherry! It's great to know there are those out there who know what I am talking about and do take it serious that terrible things can and do happen to so many and especially our precious children. No one is exempt from the terrible crimes that happen everyday. Florida is one among so many States that has reports of children missing, murdered, molested, etc. continually. Life anymore is a jungle out there! Just go to familyatchdog.us to see where a molester lives near you. You may be in complete SHOCK! God Bless! Trish : )gldcst <gldcst@...> wrote: << I think parents need to be cautious, but not this frightened of someone molesting their child. >> Well, Barb, if you live in South Florida you do. Almost every single day there is an article in the paper of a person with special needs or a child being molested. It's horrendous. Our favorite agency where we have gotten our PCAs for years just ended up in the paper when one of their bacground checked, fingerprinted "wonderful" workers was discovered to have been molesting his 21 yo autistic client for the past 2 months. He didn't realize the nonverbal client could type and he told the whole story at the police

station (not facilitated communication). He's been at the agency for 2 years and we expect more clients to come forward. This agency is run by our friends who do a thorough job of investigating their employees. It's wonderful that where you live you can be trusting and Mark can communicate to you what happens but that is not the way things work down here. Paranoid in FloridaSherry

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A red hat salute to you too Priscilla! I love that verse and we listen to Dobson everyday too. You said it all so well! God Bless! Trish : ) PS my husband is the youngest of 9 siblings! You are one busy and blessed Mom to have nine children!Priscilla <priskend1@...> wrote: --- bmitchell <bmitchellwoh (DOT) rr.com> wrote:> I wanted to say that we do not hold the door open at

public> restrooms waiting for Mark. I think parents need to be cautious,> but not this frightened of someone molesting their child. > Barbara> Well I heard Dobson (Focus on the Family radio broadcast) say anumber of years ago (after children being snatched from theirbedrooms) that it was his opinion that parents now could not be tooover protective nowadays --he used to say they could, but he said hehad changed his mind. I agree with him judging from all the thingsI've read/experienced/heard about.And besides nowadays there are schoolteachers, therapists, priests,preachers, doctors, parents, etc. about every day in the papers beingconvicted of these heinous crimes. Sadly our kids are not safeanywhere. We must be vigilant.Priscilla Kendrick, married 28 years to Darrel and parents of 9 kids including Evan, 10, born with Down Syndrome and Spina Bifida"My strength is made perfect

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i must admit i do tend to take my boys in the ladys with me and r local swimming pool is unesex so we r lucky i think the goverment is starting to wise up to all the strange people around????????

sylvia