Re: Failed driving test - again!!!

[Guest guest]

It's probably not lessons you need (I'd certainly hope not by now lol) you need

experience. You need a lovely fellah like me to just let you drive here there

and everywhere as long and as often as you can. Not to teach but just to be

there so you can gain your own confidence at your own pace without watching the

clock. Few weeks of that you be like an old pro.....look out! I said left,

left..not that way! oh dear lol

Drving experience is the key, not lessons.

Good Luck.

Good Luck.

Good Luck. Just in case you need a few more tries :0

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> Well, I've just failed my driving test for the second time, despite having had

over 100 hours of lessons, because on the day I just can't control my nerves or

concentrate! I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed

and depressed.

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> Does anyone have any advice for a fog-brained, porridge-brained, nervous

test-taker? I realise that these tests are coming at a bad time, when I've yet

to optimise my thyroid replacement and my adrenals are all shot to pieces. But I

really, really need to pass!

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> Yours despairingly,

>

> Georgie

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[Guest guest]

Find a good hypnotherapist :)Jackie

(a hypnotherapist who is NOT looking for business, lol)On Tue, Jun 7, 2011 at 1:11 PM, littleeggcups <littleeggcups@...> wrote:

 

Well, I've just failed my driving test for the second time, despite having had over 100 hours of lessons, because on the day I just can't control my nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed and depressed.

[Guest guest]

Do you take HC?

MacG.

I just can't control my nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed and depressed.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

No I'm not taking any at the moment. I probably should be, considering the

parlous state of my adrenals. I am just a bit scared of it.

Why? Do you think that would help?

Thanks

Georgie

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> Do you take HC?

> MacG.

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> > I just can't control my nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just

> >doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed and depressed.

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[Guest guest]

Lol, thanks! Do you think that would help? I feel like it's the stress of the

day that really makes it hard.

Georgie

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> > Well, I've just failed my driving test for the second time, despite having

> > had over 100 hours of lessons, because on the day I just can't control my

> > nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore. I'm

> > so disappointed and depressed.

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[Guest guest]

You just need something temporarily to take the edge off..

I'd still recommend some lithium orotate or perhaps some 5HTP.

Cheers,

JOT

> > I just can't control my nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just

> >doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed and depressed.

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[Guest guest]

Oh yes! Ask around for someone recommended as well as taking the good advice from people here on the forum re supplements   (I'm a newbie on here)

Jackie xOn Tue, Jun 7, 2011 at 6:34 PM, littleeggcups <littleeggcups@...> wrote:

 

Lol, thanks! Do you think that would help? I feel like it's the stress of the day that really makes it hard.

Georgie

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> Find a good hypnotherapist

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> Jackie

> (a hypnotherapist who is NOT looking for business, lol

[Guest guest]

Actually, a very good friend of mine is a hypnotherapist. I'll ask her advice -

thanks

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> Oh yes! Ask around for someone recommended as well as taking the good

> advice from people here on the forum re supplements

[Guest guest]

Thank you JOT, I will look into those options. I think there was another woman

on here who had failed a couple of times, then passed on her third time, taking

beta blockers. I definitely think I need to be more relaxed next time!

Georgie

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> You just need something temporarily to take the edge off..

> I'd still recommend some lithium orotate or perhaps some 5HTP.

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> Cheers,

> JOT

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> > > I just can't control my nerves or concentrate! I feel like my brain just

> > >doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed and depressed.

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[Guest guest]

Hi Georgie,

I was that woman who had to take beta blockers, to help control my nerves.

I have never felt like that before, thought I was going to have a full blown

panic attack :0(

What can I tell you, well I did manage to pass, after my fourth attempt, on my

3rd I didnt even get out the test centre, as I nudged the examiners

car!.....oops!

Georgie, I know exactly how you feel, I too had brain fog bad when I started to

learn, and it continued on throughout my learning, and sometimes, my mind went

blank too!

I used to think it would never come, I mean how can you learn when your brain is

stuck in reverse!!

But you WILL get there,if your instructor has put you in for your test then he

thinks you are up to test standard.

On the day of my test I took my beta blockers as instructed, although I dont

know if it was shear determination that got me through it or not :0), however I

did just keep saying, " you've just got to hold it together for 30 mins " , then 20

mins and so on....and I did just get on with it.

Take it one step at a time, and don't think of what is up ahead.

After it I said to the examiner that it was the most stressful thing I have ever

done, and he said " I know its hard, but there is nothing we can do about

it " ....and he's right.

I did however ask my instructor to come with me on my test, and this I felt

helped enormously, as I felt I wasn't " alone " in the car,

Georgie, I wish you the best, in sitting your test next time, I really can

sympathise, but you will come out at the other end, and Its the best feeling in

the world when they say " I'm pleased to tell you you've PASSED " !

Then you have to get your head around driving all by

yourself...........ARGHHHhh! x

[Guest guest]

I passed my driving test on 3rd attempt, Jan 2nd 1976. The date is relevant

because I'd failed the first two tests through nerves.... my foot was shaking

on the accelerator... So, as it was early January my mum gave me a glass of

christmas sherry along with my breakfast...!!

Probably wouldn't get away with it now, so beta blockers or HC look like your

best bet

x

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I definitely think I need to be more relaxed next time!

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> Georgie

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[Guest guest]

LOL!!!! Best not risk it, eh?!!

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> I passed my driving test on 3rd attempt, Jan 2nd 1976. The date is relevant

because I'd failed the first two tests through nerves.... my foot was shaking

on the accelerator... So, as it was early January my mum gave me a glass of

christmas sherry along with my breakfast...!!

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> Probably wouldn't get away with it now, so beta blockers or HC look like your

best bet

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> x

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[Ed]

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

Thanks for your response - It's crazy how hard it's been to learn something so

simple, and I still make stupid mistakes all the time because I lose

concentration or I just panic. On the test I get the nerves, shaky, dry mouth,

can't seem to fully concentrate on what I'm doing at all.

So happy for you that you passed! I must say I feel like it may never happen for

me, and the expense of more lessons and more tests is also very hard to bear. I

will take heart from your words! Well done!

Georgie

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> Hi Georgie,

> I was that woman who had to take beta blockers, to help control my nerves

What can I tell you, well I did manage to pass, after my fourth attempt

Its the best feeling in the world when they say " I'm pleased to tell you you've

PASSED " !

[Guest guest]

don't be harsh on yourself - it is very difficult to learn to drive in my

opinion/experience. it took me 3 attempts to pass my test (3rd time lucky) and

many lessons, prob 18 months worth.

so now you know what to expect in your mind from a driving test, can you

rehearse it but this time visualise it going well, and you passing? can you

keep imagining this and really going through it mentally? " whatever the mind

can believe, it can achieve " - napoleon hill

maybe EFT tapping might help you work on this too? i'm just thinking you have

some stored negative memories and expectations now which your mind is latching

onto and making you think you'll fail again perhaps?

have you looked at things like rescue remedy or emergency essence?

chris

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> Hi ,

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> Thanks for your response - It's crazy how hard it's been to learn something so

simple, and I still make stupid mistakes all the time because I lose

concentration or I just panic. On the test I get the nerves, shaky, dry mouth,

can't seem to fully concentrate on what I'm doing at all.

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Chris. I have tried the positive visualisation thing and I think it's

helped a bit (not enough!). I think I would need a big bottle of rescue remedy

for that to have any effect on me!

After talking to my sister yesterday, I decided to try some lessons with a more

experienced driving instructor, in the hope that she will be able to help me

learn better reactions and habits. I like my current instructor, but she only

qualified last year and I think maybe I need someone who knows how to deal with

a nervous driver! (How will I explain this to my current instructor, I don't

know :/)

Georgie

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> have you looked at things like rescue remedy or emergency essence?

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> chris

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[Guest guest]

Hi Georgie

Like I'd recommend Bach's Rescue Remedy. I find it really works for me,

and my sister found it helped her relax to pass her driving test. I find it just

takes the edge off of the nerves rather than dulls everything, and I like it

because it's natural.

Good luck for next time

Liesha xx

p.s. Don't tell anyone, but I took FOUR tests to pass (stop laughing at the

back!!))And no, I hadn't found Rescue Remedy at that time ;(

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> Well, I've just failed my driving test for the second time, despite having had

over 100 hours of lessons, because on the day I just can't control my nerves or

concentrate! I feel like my brain just doesn't work anymore. I'm so disappointed

and depressed.

>

> Does anyone have any advice for a fog-brained, porridge-brained, nervous

test-taker?

[Guest guest]

i think the instructor has a lot to do with it.

mine was awful, and very intimidating - he was horrible. i should have changed,

but didn't

let us know how you get on!

chris

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> Thanks Chris. I have tried the positive visualisation thing and I think it's

helped a bit (not enough!). I think I would need a big bottle of rescue remedy

for that to have any effect on me!

[Guest guest]

I am a 46yr old non-driver. After 3 different instructors and hundreds of

lessons, I gave up. Even the thought of the lesson was enough to make me throw

up. I would be drenched with sweat and have a pounding headache at the end of

the lesson. My instructor suggeted beta-blockers for the driving test, but I

needed them for the lesson!! Btw I started lessons at age 24 and gave up for

good at 36.would be helpful to drive, but I just couldn't face it. Jan x

[Guest guest]

Hi Georgiesaid:so now you know what to expect in your mind from a driving test, can you

rehearse it but this time visualise it going well, and you passing? can you keep imagining this and really going through it mentally? "whatever the mind can believe, it can achieve" - napoleon hillI think this is the way to go.I failed my driving test at 21 before I was ever aware of hypo or adrenal issues, but I felt very much as you described - shaky, dry mouth etc, unable to think. The fact that the examiner looked like a stern old headmaster did not help!Maybe that was the beginning of my adrenal fatigue?If you let me know when you re-test, I'll send you positive vibes to help you overcome your nerves. Remember, keep calm and carry on!Sue x

[Guest guest]

Hi Liesha,

I've tried the rescue remedy and it didn't seem to make any difference .

Well done on passing your test in the end. I'm comforted to know I'm not the

only one who has found it hard!

Georgie

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> Like I'd recommend Bach's Rescue Remedy. I find it really works for me,

and my sister found it helped her relax to pass her driving test.

[Guest guest]

Thank you Sue! Positive vibes are very welcome! I will keep doing the positive

visualisations, too.

Georgie

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> If you let me know when you re-test, I'll send you positive vibes to help you

overcome your nerves.  Remember, keep calm and carry on!

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> Sue x

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[Guest guest]

Hi Jan,

So sorry it didn't work out for you in the end. Luckily I only get really

nervous on the test, and I'm okay on lessons - I can't concentrate and I make

stupid mistakes constantly, but I only panic when an examiner comes near me!

I've also had 3 different instructors and about to change to my fourth!!! The

first one was nice but she kept standing me up because her boyfriend needed the

car! The second one was an old school kind of chap, very knowledgeable, but he

shouted at me every time I made a mistake and made me cry! The current one is

lovely, but she only qualified in September and I think she is still learning

the ropes. The next one seems like a real character, has been doing it for 20

years and has a brilliant reputation, so I'm hoping that she will be able to

help me.

Phew! I feel exhausted today after all the stress of the test yesterday.

Thanks for your words, Jan, and everyone xx

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> I am a 46yr old non-driver. After 3 different instructors and hundreds of

lessons, I gave up. Even the thought of the lesson was enough to make me throw

up. I would be drenched with sweat and have a pounding headache at the end of

the lesson. My instructor suggeted beta-blockers for the driving test, but I

needed them for the lesson!! Btw I started lessons at age 24 and gave up for

good at 36.would be helpful to drive, but I just couldn't face it. Jan x

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[Guest guest]

try the whole thing from start to finish, whilst feeling like you are calm,

capable, etc. sometimes playing things in your mind backwards can reduce the

emotional intensity of them

may sound stupid but....

c

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> Thank you Sue! Positive vibes are very welcome! I will keep doing the positive

visualisations, too.

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[Guest guest]

Hi Georgie, and commiserations on failing your test. I remember what that was

like, albeit many years ago for me now.

has made an excellent suggestion to you. Earlier this year, I was

suffering from severe anxiety and was recommended to try relaxation therapy

whenever I felt anxious. It worked wonders for me, so maybe worth a try for

you?

x

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> try the whole thing from start to finish, whilst feeling like you are calm,

capable, etc. sometimes playing things in your mind backwards can reduce the

emotional intensity of them

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> may sound stupid but....

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> c

[Guest guest]

i was thinking about this earlier, and though i suggested some kind of

visualisation, i do think it's very hard to get out of the anxiety/stress thing,

once you're in it. I had a lot of problems with this during my 20s, and i was

so far gone that visualisation couldn't help, so i realise it's not the full

answer and may not be any of the answer....

I hope you can find some way round your problems soon

Chris

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> has made an excellent suggestion to you. Earlier this year, I was

suffering from severe anxiety and was recommended to try relaxation therapy

whenever I felt anxious. It worked wonders for me, so maybe worth a try for

you?