Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Hello I didnt fall in love after being DX, but I did get married 2 years after. She needs to keep the faith and not worry that she is ill. > > Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that has been > troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in Johannesburg South > Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously beautiful, intelligent 46 year old > woman with CML could have a chance to love again? A 'friend' recently told > her that she should face reality and forget about any man wanting to get > involved with her now that she is ill. > > Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this group are > blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive spouses. I am just > wondering whether anyone had the experience of falling in love after being > diagnosed.... > > Wishing everyone much love, > > Iris > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Thanks , that is encouraging! All the best to you, Iris On 2/15/07, formiga101 <formiga101@...> wrote: > > Hello > I didnt fall in love after being DX, but I did get married 2 > years after. She needs to keep the faith and not worry that she is > ill. > > > > > > Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that > has been > > troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in Johannesburg South > > Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously beautiful, intelligent > 46 year old > > woman with CML could have a chance to love again? A 'friend' > recently told > > her that she should face reality and forget about any man wanting > to get > > involved with her now that she is ill. > > > > Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this > group are > > blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive spouses. I am > just > > wondering whether anyone had the experience of falling in love > after being > > diagnosed.... > > > > Wishing everyone much love, > > > > Iris > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Hello Iris I am so sorry to hear that someone that was considered a 'friend' could be as careless to say something like that! I have so much to say about it, but instead, please just tell your sister that I send a big cyberhug and that she should know that she has not changed from that gorgeously beautiful, intelligent woman to a 'thing' with cml! She is still who is she was before hearing those words, just even more special, because she is fighting a battle that will strengthen her and make her grow in ways that her " friend " will probably never understand! The person she will find to love will be a strong man, someone who can handle her illness as well as the regular life issues. How wonderful to have a man that can handle all that! From what I am reading - they are definately out there. And those South African men..... :-) She is who she is. She is not cml - thats just a part of her. Here's wishing for her a really special man! Love and light Annie 's mom www.livingwithcml.blogspot.com > Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that has been> troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in Johannesburg South> Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously beautiful, intelligent 46 year old > woman with CML could have a chance to love again? A 'friend' recently told> her that she should face reality and forget about any man wanting to get> involved with her now that she is ill. > > Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this group are> blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive spouses. I am just> wondering whether anyone had the experience of falling in love after being> diagnosed.... > > Wishing everyone much love, > > Iris > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Hi Annie, Thank you for the wonderful words! I totally agree with you. Thank you also for the cyberhug (which I will pass on) and good wishes. All the best, Iris On 2/15/07, Annie <ibannie@...> wrote: > > Hello Iris > > I am so sorry to hear that someone that was considered a 'friend' > could be as careless to say something like that! > > I have so much to say about it, but instead, please just tell your > sister that I send a big cyberhug and that she should know that she > has not changed from that gorgeously beautiful, intelligent woman to > a 'thing' with cml! She is still who is she was before hearing > those words, just even more special, because she is fighting a > battle that will strengthen her and make her grow in ways that > her " friend " will probably never understand! > > The person she will find to love will be a strong man, someone who > can handle her illness as well as the regular life issues. How > wonderful to have a man that can handle all that! From what I am > reading - they are definately out there. And those South African > men..... :-) > > She is who she is. She is not cml - thats just a part of her. > > Here's wishing for her a really special man! > Love and light > Annie > 's mom > www.livingwithcml.blogspot.com > > > Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that > has been> troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in > Johannesburg South> Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously > beautiful, intelligent 46 year old > woman with CML could have a > chance to love again? A 'friend' recently told> her that she should > face reality and forget about any man wanting to get> involved with > her now that she is ill. > > > > Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this > group are> blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive > spouses. I am just> wondering whether anyone had the experience of > falling in love after being> diagnosed.... > > > > Wishing everyone much love, > > > > Iris > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Love is a drug and like a drug it cares not who it affects. I've loved before the diagnosis and lost that one to other things not related to my illness. This happened again after the diagnosis which the relationship lasted 3 years and just before I was about to pop the question we realized that we had some differences, again not related to my illness. Now I've been so fortunate to have found another woman who is falling in Love as am I. You see, Love is a Drug and Drugs do not discriminate...Drugs love you if you love it...So to all those folks that say forget about it, I submit they've never been in love for to have been, you want it again, and again, and again, and again...Like a Drug..... Ikidunot Iris Colyn <iris.colyn@...> wrote: Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that has been troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in Johannesburg South Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously beautiful, intelligent 46 year old woman with CML could have a chance to love again? A 'friend' recently told her that she should face reality and forget about any man wanting to get involved with her now that she is ill. Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this group are blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive spouses. I am just wondering whether anyone had the experience of falling in love after being diagnosed.... Wishing everyone much love, Iris Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 16, 2007 Report Share Posted February 16, 2007 Thank you and best of luck with your new love. This is one drug that one can never overdose on! On 2/16/07, Yrulooknback <yrulooknback@...> wrote: > > Love is a drug and like a drug it cares not who it affects. I've loved > before the diagnosis and lost that one to other things not related to my > illness. This happened again after the diagnosis which the relationship > lasted 3 years and just before I was about to pop the question we realized > that we had some differences, again not related to my illness. Now I've been > so fortunate to have found another woman who is falling in Love as am I. You > see, Love is a Drug and Drugs do not discriminate...Drugs love you if you > love it...So to all those folks that say forget about it, I submit they've > never been in love for to have been, you want it again, and again, and > again, and again...Like a Drug..... > > Ikidunot > > Iris Colyn <iris.colyn@... <iris.colyn%40gmail.com>> wrote: > Valentine's Day has just passed and I have a related question that has > been > troubling my twin sister (dx Dec 2006, living in Johannesburg South > Africa): Is it possible that a gorgeously beautiful, intelligent 46 year > old > woman with CML could have a chance to love again? A 'friend' recently told > her that she should face reality and forget about any man wanting to get > involved with her now that she is ill. > > Reading your postings, it is clear that many of the people in this group > are > blessed with incredible, strong, loving, supportive spouses. I am just > wondering whether anyone had the experience of falling in love after being > diagnosed.... > > Wishing everyone much love, > > Iris > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2007 Report Share Posted February 18, 2007 In a message dated 2/15/2007 7:59:31 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, formiga101@... writes: Hello I didnt fall in love after being DX, but I did get married 2 years after. She needs to keep the faith and not worry that she is ill. I know this is an old thread, but my computer had been clogged with over 1000 emails and I'm just now finding " hidden " posts, I thought this one I could address. I got married 2 years post diagnosis. There IS hope. My boyfriend at the time of dx broke up with me, but 2 years later I did find love again. It has not been easy, but the marriage is still going. CML is a " chronic " disease and if someone loves you, they will understand. It's the people who have no heart, no soul that walk away from someone who is sick...people like that have no idea what it is like and don't want to know how to care for and stick with a person with a disease such as ours. In 2001, I told the list about the man that left me high and dry during my first week of treatment.I remember being curled up in a ball crying on the floor of the oncologist's office thinking my love life was over for good. By the way, we named that boyfriend " Frying Pan Man " cuz the women on the group wanted to hit him over the head with a cast iron skillet for leaving me in my greatest time of need, haha. I remember thinking no one would ever want a woman with leukemia, but it is just not true. So don't give up. - Lynne A. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2007 Report Share Posted February 18, 2007 Thanks Lynne A. It is good to hear that there ARE exceptional people out there amongst the 'Frying Pan Men'... Sorry about what you had to go through and wish you much love and happiness! Iris On 2/18/07, MoonQn1@... <MoonQn1@...> wrote: > > > In a message dated 2/15/2007 7:59:31 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, > formiga101@... <formiga101%40> writes: > > Hello > I didnt fall in love after being DX, but I did get married 2 > years after. She needs to keep the faith and not worry that she is > ill. > > > I know this is an old thread, but my computer had been clogged with over > 1000 emails and I'm just now finding " hidden " posts, I thought this one I > could > address. > I got married 2 years post diagnosis. > There IS hope. My boyfriend at the time of dx broke up with me, but 2 > years > later I did find love again. It has not been easy, but the marriage is > still > going. > CML is a " chronic " disease and if someone loves you, they will understand. > > It's the people who have no heart, no soul that walk away from someone who > is > sick...people like that have no idea what it is like and don't want to > know > how to care for and stick with a person with a disease such as ours. > In 2001, I told the list about the man that left me high and dry during my > > first week of treatment.I remember being curled up in a ball crying on the > > floor of the oncologist's office thinking my love life was over for good. > By the way, we named that boyfriend " Frying Pan Man " cuz the women on the > group wanted to hit him over the head with a cast iron skillet for leaving > me > in my greatest time of need, haha. > I remember thinking no one would ever want a woman with leukemia, but it > is > just not true. So don't give up. - Lynne A. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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