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A Tantric Perspective on Premature Ejaculation. Part 1 of a Radio Interview with

Mukee Okan.

Copyright 2005 Mukee Okan

(Mukee Okan, acclaimed sexual healer and champion of sexual

fulfillment is interviewed about her work curing premature

ejaculation.)

D: Welcome. I'm Dr. Jeanette Case, and we're going to be

talking tonight with Mukee Okan.

Mukee describes herself as a transformation agent and

mentor to all dedicated to enhancing their intimate

relationships and experiencing their sexual energy as a

whole new level of positive experience.

Her focus is sex for more pleasure, creativity, energy, and

abundance in your life every day. Originally from

Australia, Mukee is a Sacred Sexuality teacher.

Her foundation is Tantra, a philosophy that encourages an

acceptance of sex as natural and life affirming. She is

also highly trained as a sexual surrogate partner therapist

in the Western medical model.

Mukee has guided many individuals and couples for many

years in simple ways to have more balance, happiness and

fulfillment in their sex lives.

She claims that she can guide any man to transform

premature ejaculation forever, so that you can last longer

every single time. She says this is essential to a better

sex life. So welcome, Mukee.

M: Thank you, Jeanette.

D: Let's go ahead and get started with some of these

questions. You know, tell me about the basis of the claim

that you make that you can help someone overcome the

problem of premature ejaculation, especially since you're a

woman.

M: Well, as you know, I'm absolutely dedicated to the

upliftment of the sexual well-being of humanity - that is

my work -and so the most frequent sexual concern that I'm

asked to help with is premature ejaculation.

So all of the techniques that I teach, the controlling

premature ejaculation and lasting longer, now I've been

using them very successfully with male clients for at least

the last ten years. So I know they work.

D: Well now, why is there such a focus on lasting longer?

M: Well, to focus on lasting longer, we really need to

look at a bigger perspective. So that would involve seeing

that sexual energy is our life force energy.

You know, it's not just a stress release thing, you know,

when we have sex with our partner. There is a much bigger

perspective.

So it's the same energy that makes everything possible

that's in existence, from the sun and the planets and the

oceans to human beings and the plants and the animals; the

driving force is our sexual energy. So that in a way is

our will to live.

And so the birthright of every human being is to fully

experience their infinite capacity for pleasure, for orgasm

and for intimacy. And so number one, most people don't

realize that your sexual energy is for your health.

Your health physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually,

and sexually. So when a man learns how to increase his

capacity to first of all experience pleasure by lasting

longer, they're able to experience longer periods of

arousal and his sex life has a totally different quality.

So rather than just being a stress release mechanism, it

can become a rich, fulfilling experience for a man, and his

partner of course.

D: Wow, that just puts a totally new light on it. So now

why do men experience premature ejaculation?

M: I would say the number one reason that men experience

it is anxiety of, " Oh my god, it's gonna happen again, " or

simply being totally back in the past and stressed out and

in a state of tension because that is what happens near

pretty much all of the time or all of the time.

And so in a way the cause of premature ejaculation, or why

men experience it, is psychological. It's to do with the

way that they're thinking, rather than being present in

their body.

And I'd actually like to define what premature ejaculation

is, because a lot of men ask me, " Well, my natural sexual

response, you know, I seem to come very very quickly.Is

that normal? How long should it be? "

And so really the definition of premature ejaculation is an

inability to delay ejaculation to the point where it's

mutually desirable for both partners.

And so you see the definition is quite subjective. So you

can't put, you know, a timed thing on what premature

ejaculation is. The crucial thing is that if a man and his

partner is satisfied with their sexual interaction or not.

And so, when we go back to the psychological causes of why

a man might experience that, let's look first of all at

anxiety and concern, usually about sexual performance.

So a man might have incredible anxiety about pleasing his

partner, he might have so much tension in his body that

he's not even really aware of the sensations in his body.

So that seems to be one of the key things that happens for

a man who's experiencing sex like this.

D: Well now, is there anything that a man can do to change

all of this?

M: There is a lot that a man can do to change this, and

really the basis of what I've found that works over and

over again for a man is to be able to experience more

relaxation.

Simple relaxation and letting go of any kind of outcome or

specific outcome of what it should look like and what's

meant to happen and how long he's meant to last for.

And so there are two key pieces, but also when you look at

the bigger perspective again, if a man can reframe sex as a

natural healing act, that can change his entire outlook on

letting go of the performance and what it should look like.

Then another key piece is actually educating himself about

his body first of all, and then obviously about his

partner's.

But the more that a man learns about his own physical body

and his own sexual response as intimately as he can, then

he's naturally going to have a lot more confidence in how

he has his sex life.

(In Part 2 of this interview Mukee Okan describes what

steps a woman can take to help her partner last longer in

bed. She also describes some straightforward techniques for

a man to practice in order to delay ejaculation.)

About the Author:

Mukee Okan's mission is to educate and inspire sexual

freedom, so people can open and surrender to self-love and

self-awareness and experience full presence and intimate

connection.

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