Guest guest Posted August 27, 2006 Report Share Posted August 27, 2006 CHRISO, GET HIS BOWEL X-RAYED I GOTTA FEELING HE IS IMPACTED... LUV CAROLINE XXX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 28, 2006 Report Share Posted August 28, 2006 I would like to second what Mandi is suggesting here. Do try some CS to see if it helps. We had a problem recently with Oxypowder stirring up loads of nasties in our ds gut. We had to stop using the Oxypowder cos he was in such a bad way, he improved a bit by doing this, but the thing that got him back to his normal happy self was a 5 day course of CS, its wonderful stuff!!! Nikki > > > In a message dated 28/08/2006 08:22:17 GMT Daylight Time, > tryfonas@... writes: > > Remember i mentioned the ice cream and the little fizzy drink stephanos had > taken and now we have a wild screaming aggressive out of control 8 year > old well after 4 days of flucanozol 100 mg per day it isnt getting better, I > feel like pulling my hair out . Die off that i have read about how long does > that last for 2to 5 days? > > > > >>>>I guess it could be bacterial, agressive comes with bacteria for Sam. I > htink many of the DAN! docs do Flagyl with the antifungals so bacteria > doesn;t rear up while the bacteria is down. > > This sort of situation is when I go in with the short sharp course of > Collodial Silver which seems to bring it all back in line. Did you hear back from > Dr B? > > Mandi x > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2007 Report Share Posted August 9, 2007 Go above her. Talk to the principal, and have your state's exemptions ready and at hand. In fact, I would print them out and hand them to him and tell him you are concerned that this school nurse may faze a mom of lesser stubborness. It pisses me off to no end to be pushed into something and then regret it later because I didn't want to " make waves. " Make the waves, baby. All states have some sort of an exemption. When you talk to the principal and/or district administrator I would be very clear how upset you are that the school nurse, who should be informed, is pushing you to do something against your wishes. Stand strong. Advice Please Well I thought taht everything was okay for my son to start public Pre- K this Sept. I sent in our religious exemption at sign up time. Then sent in the forms from his last physical. My son only has 2 vaccinations from his 3 month checkup. Then we decided to not vax anymore. The Dr is aware of it and is okay with it, he does not argue with me. Well my point is today I recieved a letter from the school nurse(who was very upset with us at sign up) saying that we need to send in his immunization record or it will keep him from entering school. I don't know what to do. I want to call her and scream at her but that will not help. Is she doing this make me crazy and waht should I DO WITHOUT LOSING MY COOL. We are in NJ if that helps. Thanks Beth <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0;} #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both;} #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px;font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;margin:0;} #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px;} #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both;margin:25px 0;white-space:nowrap;color:#666;text-align:right;} #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left;white-space:nowrap;} ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;padding:15px 0;} #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana;font-size:77%;border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px;} #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:2px 0 8px 8px;} #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%;font-family:Verdana;font-weight:bold;color:#333;text-transform:upp\ ercase;} #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0;margin:2px 0;} #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none;clear:both;border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold;color:#ff7900;float:right;width:2em;text-align:right;padding-ri\ ght:.5em;} #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-vital a { text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px;background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px;margin:0;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square;padding:6px 0;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none;font-size:130%;} #ygrp-sponsor #nc { background-color:#eee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:0 8px;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;color:#628c2a;font-size:100%;line-height:122%\ ;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0;} o {font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal { margin:0 0 0 0;} #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%;} blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq {margin:4;} --> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2007 Report Share Posted August 9, 2007 Beth, I understand how you could see this as a personal attack from this school nurse, but you might want to cut her some slack. Probably, she has on her TO DO List: " Mail reminder to all parents of children who are not fully vaccinated, so we don't have to throw them out after school starts. " Then she asks her computer to give her a list, and your name is on the list of maybe 50 names...even though she has your exemption on file, and she knows you won't be getting any shots, the computer spits it out. She doesn't check the list, she just mails off the form letters. If this is the case, and you call and remind her, she'll probably say " Oh, yes. I remember. You're fine. " Of course, she may use the opportunity to try to convince you again. But, what I am saying is, don't yell at her too much. You don't want to make an enemy if you don't have to. Be firm, but friendly. Maybe she's just trying to do her job! Here's hoping that's the case! Best wishes for you and your son as he begins school this year! Carolyn P Mother of 4 boys, ages 10-1/2 yrs, 8-1/2 yrs, 6-1/2 yrs, and 2-1/2 yrs old 1 drug free vaginal birth, vaxxed up to 6 mos. 3 water births, not vaxxed First two breastfed 18 months each, last two breastfed 2-1/2 years each (yes, I'm newly free, and once again, just about as flat as a pancake....Our family is complete now, but it sure was nice to have breasts for 10-1/2 years of my life!) ************************************** Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL at http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2007 Report Share Posted August 9, 2007 ly, I would not cut her slack. The reason I would see this as a personal attack is because the nurse can and will toss your children out of school, but she can also contact CPS and make your life miserable. I have been there and done that. I have four children. The youngest is in high school; whenever I enrolled them, I took a copy of the law with me in case I had a secretary who thought it was her business to tell me what to do with my children. I never had a problem. My mom had nine of us in public school in Burbank. The nurse sent home a note reminding my mom that we needed to be vaccinated. DUH! Nine of us in public school and she just noticed we were not vaccinated? She looks at those vaccination papers all day and it says clearly on the California vax paper that you can sign a philosophical or religious exemption. Why didn't she check the paper? --- Family6Pac@... wrote: > Beth, > I understand how you could see this as a personal > attack from this school > nurse, but you might want to cut her some slack. > Probably, she has on her TO > DO List: " Mail reminder to all parents of children > who are not fully > vaccinated, so we don't have to throw them out after > school starts. " Then she asks > her computer to give her a list, and your name is on > the list of maybe 50 > names...even though she has your exemption on file, > and she knows you won't be > getting any shots, the computer spits it out. She > doesn't check the list, she > just mails off the form letters. If this is the > case, and you call and > remind her, she'll probably say " Oh, yes. I > remember. You're fine. " Of course, > she may use the opportunity to try to convince you > again. > But, what I am saying is, don't yell at her too > much. You don't want to > make an enemy if you don't have to. Be firm, but > friendly. Maybe she's just > trying to do her job! Here's hoping that's the > case! Best wishes for you and > your son as he begins school this year! > > Carolyn P > Mother of 4 boys, ages 10-1/2 yrs, 8-1/2 yrs, 6-1/2 > yrs, and 2-1/2 yrs old > > 1 drug free vaginal birth, vaxxed up to 6 mos. > 3 water births, not vaxxed > First two breastfed 18 months each, last two > breastfed 2-1/2 years each > (yes, I'm newly free, and once again, just about as > flat as a pancake....Our > family is complete now, but it sure was nice to have > breasts for 10-1/2 years of > my life!) > > > > ************************************** Get a sneak > peek of the all-new AOL at > http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > Maureen R. Gradvohl ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Games. http://sims./ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2007 Report Share Posted August 10, 2007 I’d just call her back and say “I sent in the exemption form already. Find it and put that in his file” and then just for good measure, copy in the law and say “here!? See that. I did that” if they’ve lost it, tell them to find it Nita, yes my hands are full, but not my heart: 14, Jon 12, 10, 8, 6, Christian (RIP: 7/16/03 to 8/22/04), 1, and due 2/08 Some minds are like concrete: Thoroughly mixed up and permanently set. _,_._,___ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.476 / Virus Database: 269.11.11/944 - Release Date: 8/9/2007 2:44 PM No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.476 / Virus Database: 269.11.11/944 - Release Date: 8/9/2007 2:44 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2007 Report Share Posted August 10, 2007 And yk what else, why does he need PRE K anyway?! Age 6 is plenty old enough for them to leave mom.. before that. Nope. I wouldn’t do it. You don’t need their services. Nita, yes my hands are full, but not my heart: 14, Jon 12, 10, 8, 6, Christian (RIP: 7/16/03 to 8/22/04), 1, and due 2/08 Some minds are like concrete: Thoroughly mixed up and permanently set. No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.476 / Virus Database: 269.11.11/944 - Release Date: 8/9/2007 2:44 PM No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.476 / Virus Database: 269.11.11/944 - Release Date: 8/9/2007 2:44 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, what kind of sugar, how much sugar how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. zoe > Hi, > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > brews are pretty much flat. > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > Any advice would appreciated. > Thanks > Bruce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, what kind of sugar, how much sugar how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. zoe > Hi, > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > brews are pretty much flat. > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > Any advice would appreciated. > Thanks > Bruce Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Might not be enough sugar. I tend to use a little over 1 cup sugar for 10 cups of tea. Let us know what type of tea you're using and how much sugar. - -------------- Original message ---------------------- From: zoe w <ilovegrafix@...> > Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, > what kind of sugar, how much sugar > how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. > zoe > > > Hi, > > > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > > > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > > brews are pretty much flat. > > > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > > > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > > > Any advice would appreciated. > > > Thanks > > Bruce > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Might not be enough sugar. I tend to use a little over 1 cup sugar for 10 cups of tea. Let us know what type of tea you're using and how much sugar. - -------------- Original message ---------------------- From: zoe w <ilovegrafix@...> > Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, > what kind of sugar, how much sugar > how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. > zoe > > > Hi, > > > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > > > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > > brews are pretty much flat. > > > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > > > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > > > Any advice would appreciated. > > > Thanks > > Bruce > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Whoops, sorry about the lack of details. I used the following: 2 litre glass jug for brewing (0.53 US gallons) 160 grams sugar (5.62 ounces) 3 organic tea bags (standard black tea) brewed for 10 minutes. I cover the jug with a close weave tea towel, place the jug in a box (with open top) and put it on top of a wardrobe in a warm room. Thanks again Bruce > > Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, what kind of sugar, how much sugar > how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. > zoe > > > Hi, > > > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > > > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > > brews are pretty much flat. > > > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > > > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > > > Any advice would appreciated. > > > Thanks > > Bruce > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 11, 2007 Report Share Posted December 11, 2007 Whoops, sorry about the lack of details. I used the following: 2 litre glass jug for brewing (0.53 US gallons) 160 grams sugar (5.62 ounces) 3 organic tea bags (standard black tea) brewed for 10 minutes. I cover the jug with a close weave tea towel, place the jug in a box (with open top) and put it on top of a wardrobe in a warm room. Thanks again Bruce > > Bruce, you didn't give us any particulars as to what kind of tea, how much tea, what kind of sugar, how much sugar > how large is your brew, etc. This info will help trace your problem. > zoe > > > Hi, > > > I have brewed two batches so far, number three is brewing now. > > > The tea produced tastes good, but it does not have any bubbles. The > > commercial Kombucha I tried needed to be opened very carefully, but my > > brews are pretty much flat. > > > Should I try brewing for longer? The first brew I left for 12 days, > > the second for 10 days. There were bubbles under the scoby. > > > Or should I bottle the brew and leave the bottles out of the > > refrigerator for a day or so. I use bottles with the Grolsch type cap. > > > Any advice would appreciated. > > > Thanks > > Bruce > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 -Stick to your ASIAN traditional diet. Lots of fish, veggies, etc. Fish oil and Vitamin E are good blood thinners. Asians who stick to their traditional diets are way more healthier than folks with a Western Diet. 220 TC is not high at all and statins have a multitude of harmful side effects (congestive heart failure, memory loss, muscle loss, etc) phine. > > What to do about this cholestrol? 220 - I am kind of concerned! > (225 lbs- 5'9 " - 55 years- Asian Male -only other medication is " walrafrin " for blood clots) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 >bommer,read my other post I just posted,on what I take ,mervyn > Two years ago- when I tried the Statins (Crestor and the Lipitor), I ended up with 'dead' legs and 'painful' ankles. I realized this quickly since I run regularly to keep fit and not get fatter. After consulting with my physician, I discontinued the Statin therapy and started Niaspan (slow relase Niacin). There was minimal reduction, albeit a reduction, in the cholestrol. Niapsin gave me lots of energy. > > Two weeks ago- a friend of mine convinced me to give another try of the STATINS. I started with Lipitor. And.. BINGO.,. ankle pain started. I started to feel funny in the head. I could not concentrate. I had to stop everything in the middle of the day and slept. > > Two days ago- I stopped taking Lipitor. I feel back to normal (in the head department). My ankles still hurt - but hurt less. > > What to do about this cholestrol? 220 - I am kind of concerned! > (225 lbs- 5'9 " - 55 years- Asian Male -only other medication is " walrafrin " for blood clots) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 2, 2008 Report Share Posted February 2, 2008 bommer ,sorry didnt read your message correct ,serrapeptase ,an nattokinase will take care of the blood clots > > -Stick to your ASIAN traditional diet. Lots of fish, veggies, etc. > Fish oil and Vitamin E are good blood thinners. Asians who stick to > their traditional diets are way more healthier than folks with a > Western Diet. > 220 TC is not high at all and statins have a multitude of harmful side > effects (congestive heart failure, memory loss, muscle loss, etc) > phine. > > > > > > > > What to do about this cholestrol? 220 - I am kind of concerned! > > (225 lbs- 5'9 " - 55 years- Asian Male -only other medication is > " walrafrin " for blood clots) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 Shirley. There are many ways to go. I am no lawyer. I will just tell you what our family did. There are so many different options. This is only one.... Beth is 26. She is her own guardian but she has a Power Of Attorney for Health Care and I am her named advocate for health care for her. She also has named me Rep payee for SSI. We have a joint checking account and a joint credit card, as Beth can't read or write. There are many solutions but this is working for us right now. We set up a special needs trust for her. I am the trustee and my husband is the " funder " of the trust. (I am sure there is a better legal word for that, but I don't remember it). My oldest daughter wanted to be named successor trustee. Her god father wanted to be named successor trustee. My brother wanted to be named successor trustee. As you can see, Beth is well loved. So we decided to name a special needs pooled trust as successor trustee. That way the pool knows all the laws and knows how to handle payouts. The pooled trust can serve as trustee and her sister, god father and uncle can be her family, friends, and advocates. Your attorney can advise you about all the many options..... Good luck. Plus we never had problem getting invited to the IEP after age 18. The notices came to our house. We read them to Beth. She said, your coming with, right? Terrill From: IPADDUnite [mailto:IPADDUnite ] On Behalf Of momofchris2007 Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2008 9:27 AM IPADDUnite Subject: Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 I was in a similar situtation and has set up myself as my daughter's trustee. In the event of my passing, I put my husband (not her father) and my brother as co-trustees. I know he was hurt but I explained to him that should something happen to me, my brother would always be part of her life where as much as he loves her, I could not take a chance on my husband remarrying and his spouse...well what happens if he then passes. I have also set up basically two life insurance policies. One for my spouse and one for my kids. This way each one can be separted for two specific needs. Hope this helps you. jean -------------- Original message -------------- From: " momofchris2007 " <slpanda2@...> Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 I am my son's representative payee and I was told that the checking account his SS benefits went into could not be a joint account.? He has another checking account that is joint with me, but that is for his paychecks and birthday money, etc. Also, the vast majority of school districts would (and certainly should) respect the role of the parent even after the child turns 18.? The problem comes when a parent is requiring a school district to do things the school district?does not want to do.? That's why it is so important that?parents now have a legal option besides guardianship. Christensen Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 , I am the payee for his SSDI (can not read or write very much) and I just have the checks go into my account. has his own checking account for his pay checks etc. I will get a Health Care Power of Attorney, that seems like a great idea. I never had problems at school. Thank you for your info. Shirley Ficker Terrill <cathyfickerterrill@...> wrote: Shirley. There are many ways to go. I am no lawyer. I will just tell you what our family did. There are so many different options. This is only one.... Beth is 26. She is her own guardian but she has a Power Of Attorney for Health Care and I am her named advocate for health care for her. She also has named me Rep payee for SSI. We have a joint checking account and a joint credit card, as Beth can't read or write. There are many solutions but this is working for us right now. We set up a special needs trust for her. I am the trustee and my husband is the " funder " of the trust. (I am sure there is a better legal word for that, but I don't remember it). My oldest daughter wanted to be named successor trustee. Her god father wanted to be named successor trustee. My brother wanted to be named successor trustee. As you can see, Beth is well loved. So we decided to name a special needs pooled trust as successor trustee. That way the pool knows all the laws and knows how to handle payouts. The pooled trust can serve as trustee and her sister, god father and uncle can be her family, friends, and advocates. Your attorney can advise you about all the many options..... Good luck. Plus we never had problem getting invited to the IEP after age 18. The notices came to our house. We read them to Beth. She said, your coming with, right? Terrill From: IPADDUnite [mailto:IPADDUnite ] On Behalf Of momofchris2007 Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2008 9:27 AM IPADDUnite Subject: Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 thank you for your info. Great ideas. Shirley jbbrandt@... wrote: I was in a similar situtation and has set up myself as my daughter's trustee. In the event of my passing, I put my husband (not her father) and my brother as co-trustees. I know he was hurt but I explained to him that should something happen to me, my brother would always be part of her life where as much as he loves her, I could not take a chance on my husband remarrying and his spouse...well what happens if he then passes. I have also set up basically two life insurance policies. One for my spouse and one for my kids. This way each one can be separted for two specific needs. Hope this helps you. jean -------------- Original message -------------- From: " momofchris2007 " <slpanda2@...> Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 this is all great info. Regarding school, we do have " Delegation of Rights " law in Il. since this summer. Once your son/daughter turns 18 you can ask your child if they want you to be present at IEP meetings. The child signs the " Delegation of Rights " . Now the district is legally g ordained to invite the parents. This is good for a year, is renewable.. Parents dont have to feel the pressure to move to gardianshp. I also am not an attorney. This all came through advocacy from the Arc. Cindi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 Shirley, I'm pretty sure SSDI checks should not go into a joint account.? I have a February 2006 SS publication, No. 05-10076, that is " A Guide for Representative Payees. " ? You can find it at www.socialsecurity.gov. I think the government can be very picky about how you account for this money. Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 It is a joint account that only contains my daughters money. I am on has a co-singer since she cannot write. SSI is okay with it. There is no co-mingling of funds. From: IPADDUnite [mailto:IPADDUnite ] On Behalf Of clchristensen100@... Sent: Tuesday, February 12, 2008 1:12 PM IPADDUnite Subject: Re: Advice Please Shirley, I'm pretty sure SSDI checks should not go into a joint account.? I have a February 2006 SS publication, No. 05-10076, that is " A Guide for Representative Payees. " ? You can find it at www.socialsecurity.gov. I think the government can be very picky about how you account for this money. Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 My husband does the same thing with our son's SSI money...He writes all the checks from the joint account as our son is not able to do that. The requirement is that we must keep meticulous records of how the money is spent and it is all spent specifically on our son. Ellen Ellen Garber Bronfeld egskb@... Advice Please Good Morning everyone. We have an appointment with Rubin next week and I thought I would ask your adivce. Many of you have done this already and may have a few ideas for us. I want to get a SN Trust, a will and whatever else I may need. My son is 26 with DS (and his own guardian) and I have a son who is 22 who is still at home working full time. Their father passed away and I have been married to their step father for almost 15 years. He has no other children. How would you set up a will and SN trust without any hurt feelings? If something happens to me I want to make sure my boys are taken care of. Don't get me wrong my husband loves them but what if he ever got married again? I know will answer any questions we have but I just wanted a few things to think about before we go. Any ideas or advice would be great. Thanks, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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