Guest guest Posted January 26, 1999 Report Share Posted January 26, 1999 Dear List Members, Just wanted to write a short note to welcome all of you to the list. We have five members thus far. As time passes others may join our ranks and our family of families may grow and hopefully many of us will be blessed by help and be blessed by helping. It is my hope that our shared experiences will be beneficial to one another as we seek to learn about OCD and it's effects on the lives of other families. My older son, Louis, is sixteen and was diagnosed with OCD at age twelve. Louis, my wife, Madelaine, and I, and our younger son, Doug, have learned much about OCD in the past four years from the OCD-L and books that have been recommended by list doctors. I remember how we felt when Louis was first diagnosed and a list like this would have been extremely beneficial at that time. It is my hope that we shall be able to help families through this time in their family lives through participation in this list. If this list accomplishes it's declared goal of supporting and informing parents of children with OCD it will be because of our willingness to share our experiences by participating in the discourse that develops. It is your list and it's success depends on each of us. Take care. Louis ocdnet@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 1999 Report Share Posted January 27, 1999 Dear List Members: I am really excited about the opportunity this list will provide me and our family. We live in an isolated, rural community and it is hard for me to find anyone, professional or otherwise, who knows anything about OCD beyond what is in an Abnormal Psychology textbook. Finding an OCD support group here is just out of the question. Our son, Steve, who is now 12, has severe OCD which is finally being successfully treated by a team which constantly needs replacements and coordination. We diagnosed him when he was 10 and he also has major depressive disorder and PTSD - Type 1. He is doing very well right now and we are amazed at his determination and courage. Of course I don't have to tell you that it has been a very rocky ride to where he is today. We also have a son, Mark, who is almost 15 and who has gone through a lot while we have all learned to cope with OCD in our family. Looking forward to participating in sharing and mutual support, warmest aloha, Kathy Louis wrote: Dear List Members, > >Just wanted to write a short note to welcome all of you to the list. >We have five members thus far. As time passes others may join our >ranks and our family of families may grow and hopefully many of us will >be blessed by help and be blessed by helping. > >It is my hope that our shared experiences will be beneficial to one >another as we seek to learn about OCD and it's effects on the lives of >other families. > >My older son, Louis, is sixteen and was diagnosed with OCD at age >twelve. Louis, my wife, Madelaine, and I, and our younger son, Doug, >have learned much about OCD in the past four years from the OCD-L and >books that have been recommended by list doctors. > >I remember how we felt when Louis was first diagnosed and a list like >this would have been extremely beneficial at that time. It is my >hope that we shall be able to help families through this time in their >family lives through participation in this list. > >If this list accomplishes it's declared goal of supporting and informing >parents of children with OCD it will be because of our willingness to >share our experiences by participating in the discourse that develops. >It is your list and it's success depends on each of us. > >Take care. > >Louis >ocdnet@... > > > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 1999 Report Share Posted January 28, 1999 Hi : I am one of the five new members on this list so I wanted to introduce myself. I am the mom of a soon to be l6 year old girl who has had ocd since about the age of 9. Her dad, my now ex, also had ocd. She did not go on meds until about l3 when her ocd got much worse. Now she is on prozac- 50 mg. Her therapist has tried BT but up til now she has refused to do the " homework " or exposures. Now I am pushing it because I recently got on the OCD-L list and have realized that she must have both meds and BT to really have the optimum success. School is a problem as she studies but fails tests. I know some of it is her ocd and some of it is using the ocd to be " lazy " . The hardest part is figuring out which is which. We are about to have her put on a IEP Program which I have tried not to do for many years but now feel she needs it. Anyway, sorry to drone on and on. Just wanted to let all know my experiences. Sheree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 11, 1999 Report Share Posted May 11, 1999 Dear , Welcome My name is Beth I have a 6yr. old (May 29th ) e I will forward you some of my old letters so I don't bore everyone who already read them.I know just what your talking about.I have found so much help from these wonderful people,I look forward everyday to read their letters,they are so wise, and I must say I have learned more from the people here and the great Doctors who give their time here,than from anyone else. Thank you all so much! And to all who have been gone ,You were Missed! Love Beth in IN. Introduction > From: " Stockman Vines " <lstockman@...> > > My 8-year-old daughter was diagnosed with OCD in January of 1998. Zoloft + > therapy controlled her symptoms -- with some breakthrough -- for about a > year. Now, we're back where we were at the beginning: she's constantly > obsessed with worries of vomiting, she doesn't eat, doesn't sleep. She's > developing new rituals, too. > > We're going back for a medication reassessment; the doctors think it may be > time to switch meds. Also to find a good cognitive behavioral therapist. > > In the meantime, the issues of discipline, manipulation, " coddling, " > comforting, frustration, helplessness, etc. abound. That's why I joined > this list. I know of no one who parents an OC child... > > Looking forward to being an active member of the list. > > > lstockman@... > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Looking to expand your world? > > ONElist has over 145,000 email communities from which to chose! > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > The is sponsored by the OCSDA. You may visit their web site at http://www.ocdhelp.org/ and view schedules for chatroom support at http://www.ocdhelp.org/chat.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 1999 Report Share Posted May 12, 1999 Hi , Welcome to the list. It can be tough to " discipline " when you're struggling with the basics. I've been there with my 7-yr old daughter Kelsey who was diagnosed in March with OCD. I'm glad you're searching for a good CBT therapist as that has made a world of difference in Kelsey's progress. Kelsey's not operating at an age-appropriate level of independence right now either, but I have started to expect more as she's shown improvement in her symptoms. I guess I just tell myself that for now I'm making a conscious decision to put my energy into helping her sustain long-term improvement with her OCD. As she's able, I'll begin to work on all those other behaviors and skills I want for her to develop. It's all quite challenging, but you're in good company here on this list! in S.D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 1999 Report Share Posted May 12, 1999 Warning: Venting! Discipline and age appropriate expectations - my theme of the day. Last week it was helping Ava be okay with difficult feelings and meltdown episodes; this week it's back to dealing with MY annoyed feeling in dealing with her NOT age appropriate need for supervision. I weeded the garden for an hour yesterday and before I walked out the door I did not give her the " list of instructions " and decided to act as if she could be left alone for a minute and use good judgement. When I came back in the house to make dinner she had purple lips from eating candy for the past hour. She's 11, she knows better, she's been obssessed with candy lately, I am so tired of this! Done now, thanks, Dana in NC Roman wrote: > From: Roman <ChrisRoman@...> > > Hi , > > Welcome to the list. It can be tough to " discipline " when you're struggling > with the basics. I've been there with my 7-yr old daughter Kelsey who was > diagnosed in March with OCD. I'm glad you're searching for a good CBT > therapist as that has made a world of difference in Kelsey's progress. > > Kelsey's not operating at an age-appropriate level of independence right > now either, but I have started to expect more as she's shown improvement in > her symptoms. I guess I just tell myself that for now I'm making a > conscious decision to put my energy into helping her sustain long-term > improvement with her OCD. As she's able, I'll begin to work on all those > other behaviors and skills I want for her to develop. > > It's all quite challenging, but you're in good company here on this list! > > in S.D. > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Give back to your community through " Grow to Give. " > http://www.ONElist.com > See homepage for details. > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > The is sponsored by the OCSDA. You may visit their web site at http://www.ocdhelp.org/ and view schedules for chatroom support at http://www.ocdhelp.org/chat.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 12, 1999 Report Share Posted May 12, 1999 > From: Dana Carvalho <clayvon@...> > > Warning: Venting! > Discipline and age appropriate expectations - my theme of the day. Last week it was helping Ava be okay with difficult feelings and meltdown episodes; this week it's back to dealing with MY > annoyed feeling in dealing with her NOT age appropriate need for supervision. I weeded the garden for an hour yesterday and before I walked out the door I did not give her the " list of > instructions " and decided to act as if she could be left alone for a minute and use good judgement. When I came back in the house to make dinner she had purple lips from eating candy for > the past hour. She's 11, she knows better, she's been obssessed with candy lately, I am so tired of this! > Done now, thanks, > Dana in NC Hi Dana and all, my daughter is younger (51/2) but before ocd had a lot of common sense and her behavior was " too good " , if that's possible. A strong component of my child's ocd is compulsions to do bad things, which makes perfect sense if you think of the ego-dystonic nature of ocd. OCD also wants my daughter to get into trouble, which makes for a lot of provoking behavior and very challenging parenting: if I lose my temper, ocd wins, if Kellen is put in timeout or a privilege is revoked, ocd is estatic and Kellen actually gets some relief from ocd for a bit. So she's pretty motivated to misbehave. I've recently been using something called paradoxical response (suggested by Kathy H. on this list) which basically means I react the opposite of the way ocd would expect, this short-circuits the feedback loop and I have honestly seen this provoking behavior fall off this past two weeks. I don't know if any of this is helpful, hope so. Kathy in Indiana p.s. Candy and sweets became a huge issue with the onset of my girl's ocd symptoms, but I hadn't thought of this as an obsession. I thought it was a side-effect of meds maybe, or an attempt to make herself feel better, or ???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 1999 Report Share Posted July 2, 1999 Hi, My name is and I have a 12 year old daughter who has been diagnosed with mild OCD and trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling). Two years ago my daughter got a sty on one eyelid, and proceeded to pull out a few eyelashes. It then became more and more, until she had pulled all the top and bottom lashes from both eyes. She then began pulling from the top of her head. I tried finding out what was wrong, but no doctor knew about it. We finally got her to a psychiatrist who gave it a name -trichotillomania- a spectrum disorder of ocd. He put her on medication-zoloft- but that did not seem to help. She started a behavior therapy program in April of 98 and within a few months she was almost pull free, but she developed a " Neck-snapping tic " which the doctors attribute to ocd. (She also is a hoarder and must have things " lined up evenly " . As of now her hair pulling comes and goes-especially the eyelashes- and the neck snapping continues,though not as much. The psychologist felt that " this is as good as it gets " and he has done all he can for her.He feels the skills he has taught her will help her. Of course our medical insurance changed, and he doesn't accept our new one. We do see the psychiatrist for a " med check " every 2 months. But for now we're on our own. I look forward to learning how parents deal with the everyday problems of these special children. D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 2, 1999 Report Share Posted July 2, 1999 Hi : Thank you for telling us about your daughter, . I also have a 12 year-od, Steve who has OCD and MDD and PTSD. He is on Paxil, mostly for depression as his OCD is being well managed right now with CBT. This has been a long haul for him and for our family. Families on this list have many ideas for how to cope day-to-day with our beloved OCDers. For now we are trying to have an OCD-free vacation as we travel to DC for the OCF conference. What has helped us in our family was to change a lot of things, e.g. expectations, coping strategies, parenting methods, to adapt to the needs (demands?) of OCD. Steve has been doing very well bossing back OCD and he is hoping to reduce his Paxil when we return home after this vacation. Take care, aloha, Kathy (Ha) kathyh@... At 08:40 AM 7/2/99 EDT, you wrote: >From: CGD219@... > >Hi, >My name is and I have a 12 year old daughter who has been diagnosed >with mild OCD and trichotillomania (compulsive hair pulling). Two years ago >my daughter got a sty on one eyelid, and proceeded to pull out a few >eyelashes. It then became more and more, until she had pulled all the top and >bottom lashes from both eyes. She then began pulling from the top of her >head. I tried finding out what was wrong, but no doctor knew about it. We >finally got her to a psychiatrist who gave it a name -trichotillomania- a >spectrum disorder of ocd. He put her on medication-zoloft- but that did not >seem to help. She started a behavior therapy program in April of 98 and >within a few months she was almost pull free, but she developed a > " Neck-snapping tic " which the doctors attribute to ocd. (She also is a >hoarder and must have things " lined up evenly " . > >As of now her hair pulling comes and goes-especially the eyelashes- and the >neck snapping continues,though not as much. The psychologist felt that " this >is as good as it gets " and he has done all he can for her.He feels the skills >he has taught her will help her. Of course our medical insurance changed, and >he doesn't accept our new one. We do see the psychiatrist for a " med check " >every 2 months. But for now we're on our own. > >I look forward to learning how parents deal with the everyday problems of >these special children. > > D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 1999 Report Share Posted July 12, 1999 Hello! Please post recipes too! For all of of. That would be nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 1999 Report Share Posted October 1, 1999 Hi K., You sound so frustrated! Can you tell us a bit more about what makes you doubt your parenting skills? what is going on at school - or possibly - what is not happeneing? ! Where do you live, perhaps someone on the list can help with a doc or with a support group. This is such a wonderful group to be associated with as everyone has diverse experiences, both positive and negative, and are so willing to share. You mention that you were in a support group before, great! Love to hear what you can pass on to us! Remember, rule #1: Take care of yourself welcome and best wishes, wendy in canada Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 1999 Report Share Posted October 1, 1999 Hi , Although Frustration has played a huge part in our lives for the past 6 years. There is Hope - please hold onto that. Our daughter, , was diagnosed at 3 and 1/2 and we also noticed OC behaviors before the age of two. It has been an incredible long journey - different doctors - different meds and lots of tears. Now that she is older - she is cognitively catching on and the right dose of meds are helping her to make it. Who knows how long this will last - but we will take it. We still have our days - but we are stronger than before and so is she. When you find a good behavior therapist and I hope soon - that will be the key to your child's functioning. And there has been thousands of times that I have been upset with my own parenting skills - it's a challenge filled with you own pain too. Prayer keeps us going and the trust of our therapist and each other. Good luck. in PA Introduction >From: Knod <kelly@...> > >Hi, my name is , I have a daughter with OCD, she will be 8 in a few >weeks. Her name is . She was diagnosed at age 4, we saw signs of >OCD before age 2. It was through a list like this one that I initially >found information and help for her. > >At the present time I am tired and frustrated with Doctors, school, my >parenting skills, or lack of them. Although frustrated I am still ever >vigilant and hoping for some advice, support and also hoping that I can >offer some of our experience to help others. > >Thank you, > > >-- > Knod > >mailto:kelly@... >mailto:kelly@... > >>You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing >listserv@... . >In the body of your message write: >subscribe OCD-L your name. >The archives for the OCD and >Parenting List may be accessed by going to > . >Enter your email address and password. >Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 1999 Report Share Posted October 1, 1999 Thank you . The story of my daughter and her OCD is a long one. Like everybody's I am sure. It has been 4 years of Medication so far. So many ups and downs. I have been such an advocate for her and have searched and searched for the correct treatment. It has helped a great deal, however we are going through a terrible time. Just the worst, I will have to write more details later, right now I am exhausted. is living under her bed a lot, just a whole bunch of NEW things. That is the most frustrating part. The OCD is constantly changing. I can handle the change but to have Doctors doubt that things are as bad as I say, or doubt that OCD can cause these many problems. Of course Abuse or neglect must play a role. It can't be OCD alone! (Sorry, being sarcastic here) Sorry for rambling. had a terrible episode today. Just terrible. She slept from 5:00p.m. until 11:00p.m.. Now it is almost 1:00 a.m. and she is taking another bath. So much more to say and so many questions to ask. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my story. I am not as down as I probably sound. I will never give up hope. Thank you again, abbottfamily wrote: > From: " abbottfamily " <abbottfamily@...> > > Hi , > > Although Frustration has played a huge part in our lives for the past 6 > years. There is Hope - please hold onto that. Our daughter, , was > diagnosed at 3 and 1/2 and we also noticed OC behaviors before the age of > two. It has been an incredible long journey - different doctors - different > meds and lots of tears. Now that she is older - she is cognitively catching > on and the right dose of meds are helping her to make it. Who knows how > long this will last - but we will take it. We still have our days - but we > are stronger than before and so is she. When you find a good behavior > therapist and I hope soon - that will be the key to your child's > functioning. And there has been thousands of times that I have been upset > with my own parenting skills - it's a challenge filled with you own pain > too. Prayer keeps us going and the trust of our therapist and each other. > Good luck. > > in PA > Introduction > > >From: Knod <kelly@...> > > > >Hi, my name is , I have a daughter with OCD, she will be 8 in a few > >weeks. Her name is . She was diagnosed at age 4, we saw signs of > >OCD before age 2. It was through a list like this one that I initially > >found information and help for her. > > > >At the present time I am tired and frustrated with Doctors, school, my > >parenting skills, or lack of them. Although frustrated I am still ever > >vigilant and hoping for some advice, support and also hoping that I can > >offer some of our experience to help others. > > > >Thank you, > > > > > >-- > > Knod > > > >mailto:kelly@... > >mailto:kelly@... > > > >>You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing > >listserv@... . > >In the body of your message write: > >subscribe OCD-L your name. > >The archives for the OCD and > >Parenting List may be accessed by going to > > . > >Enter your email address and password. > >Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > > > > > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing > listserv@... . > In the body of your message write: > subscribe OCD-L your name. > The archives for the OCD and > Parenting List may be accessed by going to > . > Enter your email address and password. > Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. -- Knod The Dental Site http://www.dentalsite.com mailto:kelly@... For Banner Advertising information: http://www.dentalsite.com/sponsors.html. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 1999 Report Share Posted October 2, 1999 (((()))), I am sending you lots of hugs. We were at a very bad place with Ian this summer and I am remembering the frustration, pain and confusion I felt just from reading your post. We have a very good therapist but often remark on how hard it is to convince people just how bad an OCD experience is for our child. We feel fortunate that Ian has totally lost it in front of Dr. Hatton so that he can truly see the struggle we sometimes have. At times Ian can be so frightened or so blocked by OCD that he is not really there. He gets a look in his eye that is truly frightening. I wish I had more to offer in the way of help. What I can offer is support and understanding. You are doing the best job you can as a parent and I'm sure knows how much love, support and compassion you have for her even if you are not at your best. Joy in SD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 1999 Report Share Posted October 2, 1999 Dear , Knod wrote: > > > going through a terrible time. Just the worst, I will have to write more > details later, right now I am exhausted. is living under her bed a lot, > just a whole bunch of NEW things. That is the most frustrating part. The OCD> is constantly changing. My heart goes out to you and to all of us on this list. As parents we would surely throw ourselves in front of a moving train in order to protect our precious children, and yet there are times when we cannot remove them from the clutches of OCD. I can tell from your writing that you have not given up hope. At least it may help you to know that there are others on this list who understand, so you will not feel so alone. Take care, Lesli (S.F.Bay) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 1999 Report Share Posted October 2, 1999 , I feel for you - I know it must be so hard right now - esp. with all the " new stuff " - just when you think she has something under control. The OC sneaks into something else -doesn't it. I wrote this poem awhile ago and I cried and cried over it. Than I felt better. I feel like your an Evil Demon trying to pull us away. I can not rest - cause I know you want to stay. But in this home you shall not roam. I'll fight you till my dying breath. For then she will be at Peace.... And I will be at rest...................... I hope your weekend went better. Let's pray... in PA Introduction >> >> >From: Knod <kelly@...> >> > >> >Hi, my name is , I have a daughter with OCD, she will be 8 in a few >> >weeks. Her name is . She was diagnosed at age 4, we saw signs of >> >OCD before age 2. It was through a list like this one that I initially >> >found information and help for her. >> > >> >At the present time I am tired and frustrated with Doctors, school, my >> >parenting skills, or lack of them. Although frustrated I am still ever >> >vigilant and hoping for some advice, support and also hoping that I can >> >offer some of our experience to help others. >> > >> >Thank you, >> > >> > >> >-- >> > Knod >> > >> >mailto:kelly@... >> >mailto:kelly@... >> > >> >>You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing >> >listserv@... . >> >In the body of your message write: >> >subscribe OCD-L your name. >> >The archives for the OCD and >> >Parenting List may be accessed by going to >> > . >> >Enter your email address and password. >> >Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. >> > >> >> > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing >> listserv@... . >> In the body of your message write: >> subscribe OCD-L your name. >> The archives for the OCD and >> Parenting List may be accessed by going to >> . >> Enter your email address and password. >> Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > >-- > Knod > >The Dental Site >http://www.dentalsite.com >mailto:kelly@... > >For Banner Advertising information: >http://www.dentalsite.com/sponsors.html. > >>You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing >listserv@... . >In the body of your message write: >subscribe OCD-L your name. >The archives for the OCD and >Parenting List may be accessed by going to > . >Enter your email address and password. >Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 1999 Report Share Posted October 2, 1999 ,Give a big hug for me and then tell her to give you one from me.How long has she been going under the bed? Last year right after Christmas (I guess that's this year) e had to stay in water for a week I kept the bathtub full of water because she had to get in it so much ,she couldn't walk on the carpet. And I sure know what your talking about when you say her OCD keeps changing. Don't worry about the DR. I think the only way you can understand ocd is to have it, or live with someone who has it. I'm praying for both of you.Love Beth in IN. Introduction > > > > >From: Knod <kelly@...> > > > > > >Hi, my name is , I have a daughter with OCD, she will be 8 in a few > > >weeks. Her name is . She was diagnosed at age 4, we saw signs of > > >OCD before age 2. It was through a list like this one that I initially > > >found information and help for her. > > > > > >At the present time I am tired and frustrated with Doctors, school, my > > >parenting skills, or lack of them. Although frustrated I am still ever > > >vigilant and hoping for some advice, support and also hoping that I can > > >offer some of our experience to help others. > > > > > >Thank you, > > > > > > > > >-- > > > Knod > > > > > >mailto:kelly@... > > >mailto:kelly@... > > > > > >>You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing > > >listserv@... . > > >In the body of your message write: > > >subscribe OCD-L your name. > > >The archives for the OCD and > > >Parenting List may be accessed by going to > > > . > > >Enter your email address and password. > > >Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > > > > > > > > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing > > listserv@... . > > In the body of your message write: > > subscribe OCD-L your name. > > The archives for the OCD and > > Parenting List may be accessed by going to > > . > > Enter your email address and password. > > Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > > -- > Knod > > The Dental Site > http://www.dentalsite.com > mailto:kelly@... > > For Banner Advertising information: > http://www.dentalsite.com/sponsors.html. > > > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing > listserv@... . > In the body of your message write: > subscribe OCD-L your name. > The archives for the OCD and > Parenting List may be accessed by going to > . > Enter your email address and password. > Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 1999 Report Share Posted October 5, 1999 Huh oh, Hi . I'm pretty sure we were on another list together. The 2 's thing. Welcome to the group! Don't know if you remember, my son is 9 with GAD and OCD, and a daughter 15 with GAD and Trich. L.=} From: Knod <kelly@...> Hi, my name is , I have a daughter with OCD, she will be 8 in a few weeks. Her name is . She was diagnosed at age 4, we saw signs of OCD before age 2. It was through a list like this one that I initially found information and help for her. At the present time I am tired and frustrated with Doctors, school, my parenting skills, or lack of them. Although frustrated I am still ever vigilant and hoping for some advice, support and also hoping that I can offer some of our experience to help others. Thank you, -- Knod mailto:kelly@... mailto:kelly@... You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. The archives for the OCD and Parenting List may be accessed by going to . Enter your email address and password. Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 1999 Report Share Posted October 6, 1999 Dear , I can't offer much knowledge as I am also new here. But I will say you happened upon a good place. It is wonderful to have other Mom's & Dad's to talk to. You sound so overwhelmed, I hope you find some strength and hope here. Welcome, Patti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2000 Report Share Posted January 21, 2000 Hello & welcome. We have a 7yr old daughter who was diagnosed w/ ocd at 3. Her main problems are with clothing(including shoes & socks). She was also diagnosed w/ bipolar & we recently added depakote sprinkles to her prozac. She has had her first " major " improvement since we have been seeking help. The depakote seems to be the correct medication for her. It can be so flustrating trying the different meds & waiting it out - then after the weeks of waiting, you find out it's not the one that will help. This list has been very helpful to me. It sound bad, but it does help to know that others are going through the same things you are. And you see that there is hope by hearing the " success/improvement " stories. I would love to hear more about your child, (oc symptoms etc). Good luck, Wanda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2000 Report Share Posted January 21, 2000 Hi there , (vinlin@...) We all know how you feel. It is a shock to know that your child has something in them that we cant control, and that they must learn to control. Its hard, but we do get over it. I have 3 ocd kids and an ocd hubby - and instead of being overwhelmed, I try and funnel my energy towards ocd advocacy and education, and my work. Medication is given to children when the doc's are having difficulties connecting with them through therapy. There may be some more on going diagnostic work done too. Meds could be prescirbed because of ocd being so severe, or perhaps depression. But whatever it is, meds are a matter of trial and error. Not all work for everyone. The amount used for ocd tends to be higher than the amount prescribed for depression, btw. Your sons therapist should be using cognitive behavioural therapy with a technique called Exposure and Response Prevention. It is now the best treatment for ocd availble. I wont overwhelm you with too much info - but please, feel comfortable asking lots of questions!! You will get a difference of opinion on some things - which is healthy and encouraged here! Our #1 rule is: take care of yourself, because if you arent doing well, then the whole system falls apart! take care, wendy in canada wb4@... PS - it helps if you put something with your name to help identify which , or Michele, or wendy, or kathy... that you are!!!! ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2000 Report Share Posted January 21, 2000 Dear , Welcome to the list. How old is your son? You are where we were about a year and a half ago. I felt a lot of grief and many other emotions when my daughter (now age 6) was first diagnosed, and learning about treatment options was difficult and confusing. But now, looking back, her OCD diagnosis and subsequent treatment was the best thing that ever happened to our family. Please write with any questions you may have and we will try to help and share what we've learned (so far!) with you. Take care, Lesli (S.F. Bay) Losavio wrote: > > From: vinlin@... ( Losavio) > > Hi Everyone, > > My name is . I have a son who was just diagnosed with OCD. We > have suspected for some time now that something was wrong with him. It > has just gotten so bad that we knew we needed to see what we could do > about it. I am hoping to learn a lot from all of you as most of you > seem to have been dealing with this for awhile and seem to know how to > handle it. We are having a rough time. > > We have only been to our therapist twice. So we haven't actually gotten > much done beyond figuring out he has a problem. We saw the Child > Psychiatrist yesterday and they put him on Zoloft. > > Well I really don't know how much I will be able to help anyone but I > will try if I can. I am looking forward to the support and help that I > think I will find here. It is nice to know we are not alone. > > Thanks, > > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2000 Report Share Posted January 21, 2000 Welcome Dana, I am sure you will find this list a great source of help and support. I think your daughter would be a great age to use the teen list. I know what you mean about trying to figure out what is going on. It seems like I am always trying to decide if it is ocd or not. Frustration is something I think all of us parents would say we experience. Hang in there! Take care, in PA K12m10d42@... wrote: Please click above to support our sponsor --------------------------------- You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. The archives for the OCD and Parenting List may be accessed by going to . Enter your email address and password. Click on the highlighted list name and then click on index. --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2000 Report Share Posted January 21, 2000 Dana, I highly recommend the teen list. My son will be 14 next month and I've been trying for a while to get him to at least subscribe and read. He is so shy.... but he definitely needs some kind of interaction with others his age (he's been on homebound for a year) and I think it would do him so much good to at least read the posts from other kids that suffer with the same issues that he does. Take care and good luck! mary from La. K12m10d42@... wrote: > From: K12m10d42@... > > Hello everyone, my daughter has OCD also. I have a hard time trying not to > get frustrated with her when she won't do things around the house I take for > granted. She picks her eyelashes and germs are a problem. I have a feeling > there are more, but she is so suddle about them it's always a challenge to > figure out what is going on. I'm a single parent and it is so hard for > anyone to understand what it's all about. My daughter is almost 14 and I'm > trying to get her to use the teen list to communicate with others. Does > anyone think she's too young for this? > > Thank you for any feed back > > Dana > > --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2000 Report Share Posted January 22, 2000 Wow - so many new people this week!Was our name posted somewhere new?? It helps us get to know you if you include Where you live? If your child is seeing a therapist? If they are on any meds? Dont worry if your posts are long.... Hello Dana (K12m10d42@...) I also have a daughter, adi, who will be 14 in 2 weeks. She is active on the teen list and has been for over a year. It has been a very productive sounding board for her. She likes to support others and turns to the list for their opinions when she needs it. Perhaps your daughter could just 'lurk' for awhile and when she's ready - jump in! Adi says that picking eyelashes and discussions on germs come up all the time - so your daughter should feel comfort knowing there are kids like her. We all know how hard it is to parent our ocd kids. Being a single parent must be exhausting to you. Your daughter is also being a typical adolescent so manipulating, testing and avoiding are pretty average for the role!! Sometimes we need to stand back and let them try and when they make mistakes, pick up the pieces with patience. I should mention here that I have 3 ocd kids and an ocd hubby. The kids are 16, almost 14 and 10). When I look at ocd things, I ask myself: How much is this effecting their lives? Does it effect the people around them? If I step in, will that be enabling them? Should I ask them if this is an OCD THING and encourage them to " boss it back " ? most of the time, I follow my instinct. Dana, how about giving an example that we can all jump in and comment on?? The most important question I have for you is: Are you taking care of yourself????? take care, wendy, in canada wb4@... ______________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free Email at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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