Re: Handicap Placard - Deb/ support dog

[Guest guest]

Kim and ,

I am in a 100 year old home and my car wont fit in the garage or the

driveway without blocking the sidewalk, which is also illegal. The

neighbors that complain just choose not to park in their driveway. The

bigger problem is the fact that in a 2 family flat (condo) they have 15

family members with 10 cars and they park none in the driveway.....and when

they park on the street they park in such a way that no one else can park in

the space cause they park right in the middle...when their family member

comes home they pull forward ..its a way that they save street parking.

The lady across the street made it known that she has lived here 40 years

and aint going anywhere.....I am however looking for a new place. I just

dread moving.

You also hit the nail on the head with the dog. I have a dog, he is 130

lbs. of course I have to take him out, the neighbors equate me being able

to take out the dog therefore I can park further away,. That is smart pro

active thinking with not taking your dog out with your cane.

Aggressive dogs may scare me more then aggressive people. Either is

unpredictable .

I have looked into getting a support dog. I wonder if people would just

tell me the dog is fraudulent as well. That would compound the problem.

Does anyone on this list have a support dog?

Deb

From: Stimulator [mailto:Stimulator ] On

Behalf Of kimleach

Sent: Tuesday, December 02, 2008 6:41 PM

Stimulator

Subject: Re: Handicap Placard - Deb

Gee I am so fortunate to not have to put up with stuff like that. It really

makes me so thankful that we have our own home and driveway that we park in!

The biggest problems we have had are with the neighbor across the street

having aggressive dogs. They attacked our dogs amongst others in the

neighborhood. They also have gone after people. The bit a little boy and the

judge told the guy to fence them. Well he did for a while then no more SIGH.

Anyway last time the cops came to their house they told them that the next

time they had to come out someone was going to be charged.

I have not seen the dogs out since.

They are supp to move and hopefully they will! We have a great neighborhood

otherwise. I know it could be different and I am very thankful that it is as

good as it is!

I hope Deb you and get rid of your problem neighbors and soon! That

has to be a major pain in the butt!

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>

[Guest guest]

It looks like you're in a no win situation with your neighbor. Who knows what

has made her so bitter and nasty. I know what you mean about dreading moving.

I've only been in my apartment 2 months and it was a nightmare. And I can

barely afford it since I'm on SSD. My mother, who sounds a lot like your

neighbor (and God forgive me for saying this, but she has always treated me bad,

always favored my " perfect " brother) is already complaining to me every week

that I need to move at the end of the lease. My father passed away 9 years ago

and while he was still here, he pretty much kept her in check, but since he's

been gone, she's brought out the big cannons and I get blasted by her

constantly. I try to explain that some of my conditions cause me more pain when

I'm stressed and she isn't helping in that department, but she doesn't care. So

I'm sitting here, I love my apartment, and I know I am probably going to have to

move next November. In her

defense, she does, just out of the blue, sometimes, send me a couple hundred

dollars (this means she has done something for my brother and feels obligated).

And it really helps me when she does this, and I know if I don't move next year,

she will stop. Some of you reading this are probably thinking I'm exaggerating,

but I'm not. She told me she hated me when I was in HS. I just never lived up

to her expectations. My father was one of the top sports players in HS and my

mother was a cheerleader. My brother also excelled in sports, I tried out for

cheerleading and never made it. I played basketball in HS but they never came

to watch me (never missed a game for my brother). To this day, and I'm 53, I

have no idea why she feels about me the way she does. My grandmother (when she

was alive) noticed it and she told me she felt it was because my mother got

pregnant with me right before my father was sent on an 18 month tour of duty

with the Air

Force in Japan. So my mother went through the whole pregnancy and had me and

my toddler brother alone for 9 months before my father came back. My mother

doesn't know her mother told me this, but apparently she complained all the time

about how much work it was, what a horrible baby I was, etc. So it all probably

stems from that. At least you could move and get away from your nasty neighbor.

My mother lives in IL and I'm in Texas, but I get that phone call every weekend

wanting to know what I'm doing, how I'm spending my money, do I still have " that

dog " (she wants me to get rid of my only companion who makes me feel safe and

secure). But as to your question about a support dog, I would imagine your

neighbor would still complain (just my opinion). Sorry I got off track there.

I do feel better getting it off my shoulders though.

Take Care,

B. in TEXAS

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>

[Guest guest]

Wow it just never ceases to amaze me the things people will do to make other

people's lives miserable. You would think they would have better things to do.

THat is just selfish and childish on their parts.

Sorry that you have to put up with that. I do not blame you one iota for looking

for another place to live. I do not have a therapy dog but I do know a lady who

is currently training her therapy dog and runs a list for those who do their own

training.

I would be happy to get you two together if you would like. She is great. What

part of the country are you in? I know she is in Utah. If you are in that part

of the country she might know of some other resources that would help you there.

Kim

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>

[Guest guest]

Kim,

I would love the name of the list that the lady runs for training service

animals. I went to court last night and the ticket was dropped. I have

realized that the neighbor is mentally ill.....and lord knows that I cant

fix that.....I hope that you are having a pain free day....

Deb

From: Stimulator [mailto:Stimulator ] On

Behalf Of kimleach

Sent: Wednesday, December 03, 2008 11:18 AM

Stimulator

Subject: Re: Handicap Placard - Deb/ support dog

Wow it just never ceases to amaze me the things people will do to make other

people's lives miserable. You would think they would have better things to

do. THat is just selfish and childish on their parts.

Sorry that you have to put up with that. I do not blame you one iota for

looking for another place to live. I do not have a therapy dog but I do know

a lady who is currently training her therapy dog and runs a list for those

who do their own training.

I would be happy to get you two together if you would like. She is great.

What part of the country are you in? I know she is in Utah. If you are in

that part of the country she might know of some other resources that would

help you there.

Kim

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>

[Guest guest]

,

Not only do we have the same neighbor problems but we have the same mother

problems as well.....except for the fact that I decided she was toxic...so

it has been since 1/5/06 since I have spoken with her and I never plan on

speaking with her again. I decided that toxic people make me toxic. You

are lucky that you live so far...I hope that you are having a pain free d

From: Stimulator [mailto:Stimulator ] On

Behalf Of B

Sent: Wednesday, December 03, 2008 7:46 AM

Stimulator

Subject: Re: Handicap Placard - Deb/ support dog

It looks like you're in a no win situation with your neighbor. Who knows

what has made her so bitter and nasty. I know what you mean about dreading

moving. I've only been in my apartment 2 months and it was a nightmare. And

I can barely afford it since I'm on SSD. My mother, who sounds a lot like

your neighbor (and God forgive me for saying this, but she has always

treated me bad, always favored my " perfect " brother) is already complaining

to me every week that I need to move at the end of the lease. My father

passed away 9 years ago and while he was still here, he pretty much kept her

in check, but since he's been gone, she's brought out the big cannons and I

get blasted by her constantly. I try to explain that some of my conditions

cause me more pain when I'm stressed and she isn't helping in that

department, but she doesn't care. So I'm sitting here, I love my apartment,

and I know I am probably going to have to move next November. In her

defense, she does, just out of the blue, sometimes, send me a couple hundred

dollars (this means she has done something for my brother and feels

obligated). And it really helps me when she does this, and I know if I don't

move next year, she will stop. Some of you reading this are probably

thinking I'm exaggerating, but I'm not. She told me she hated me when I was

in HS. I just never lived up to her expectations. My father was one of the

top sports players in HS and my mother was a cheerleader. My brother also

excelled in sports, I tried out for cheerleading and never made it. I played

basketball in HS but they never came to watch me (never missed a game for my

brother). To this day, and I'm 53, I have no idea why she feels about me the

way she does. My grandmother (when she was alive) noticed it and she told me

she felt it was because my mother got pregnant with me right before my

father was sent on an 18 month tour of duty with the Air

Force in Japan. So my mother went through the whole pregnancy and had me and

my toddler brother alone for 9 months before my father came back. My mother

doesn't know her mother told me this, but apparently she complained all the

time about how much work it was, what a horrible baby I was, etc. So it all

probably stems from that. At least you could move and get away from your

nasty neighbor. My mother lives in IL and I'm in Texas, but I get that phone

call every weekend wanting to know what I'm doing, how I'm spending my

money, do I still have " that dog " (she wants me to get rid of my only

companion who makes me feel safe and secure). But as to your question about

a support dog, I would imagine your neighbor would still complain (just my

opinion). Sorry I got off track there. I do feel better getting it off my

shoulders though.

Take Care,

B. in TEXAS

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>

[Guest guest]

You are so right. Every time my mother calls me, she is so ugly when I hang up

I cry.

I try so hard to be respectful, she is one of those type people that if you

don't agree with

her you are wrong and she blasts you with both barrels (so to speak). But she

is always

obnoxious, belligerent, condemning....she is never nice to me. I have NEVER

done one

thing she is proud of or right (according to her). I think I mentioned that

when my father

was living he kept her in check and wouldn't let her treat me like this. When I

got the

phone call my father had passed, after I cried for hours and managed to pull

myself

together, I am not kidding, the first thought I had was fear.......fear of my

mother. I

wondered how she was going to start treating me. She started at the funeral! I

know

this is a site for discussing our stimulators, but I'm hoping everyone

understands how

we need to vent also. I have one more thing to point out about how petty my

mother

is. My father was retired military and retired from Phizer (sp?). My mother is

retired

Federal Civil Service (GS-14 which is very high). They were very well off, I

wouldn't

say they were rich, but they were very, very comfortable. My mother gets her

retirment,

plus retirement from Phizer, 1/2 of my father's military retirement. Their

house was paid

for - a very nice house!! My mother did sell the house after my father passed

and moved

to a really, really nice apartment (huge!!), because she didn't want to be

bothered with the

maintenance. She is in perfect health at the age of 73. Never been sick other

than a cold

her entire life. When I was married my husband made a lot of money and we had a

huge

house, pool, you name it. My mother came every summer so she could swim (so she

said).

When my husband left me when I started getting sicker, she blamed me, sided with

him. I

eventually lost everything, lost the house I bought after the divorce, all my

retirement from my

job......because I had to sell the house (couldn't afford it not working),

needed the retirement

$$ to pay medical bills (I went for a while without insurance). She throws that

in my face that

I had this huge beautiful house and everything I had and says she could have had

a house

just as nice but SHE didn't want to waste her money. My husband found the

house, picked

the house, not me. I think she does it to rub it in my face because now I'm

living on SSD, have

Medicare with an expensive supplement, live paycheck to paycheck. And my mother

sneaks

behind my back and calls my oldest daughter to see if I'm spending any money on

things I

shouldn't (like buying something for my grandson from my other daughter). She

blames me

for my condition, my situation. She calls me monthly to ask how much my bills

were for the

month, EVERY bill; electric, medications, etc. Why do I put up with this?

Because I'm weak

and she does send me money sometimes when she thinks I really need it. I found

out I'm diabetic

and everyone knows how expensive it is to really eat correctly. I'm trying, and

she told me I

shouldn't be doing that, my doctor is stupid, if I can't afford it I should just

eat what I can afford to

eat. Right now I'm controlling it with diet and a pill, I darn sure don't want

to have to give myself

shots!!!! She doesn't understand that....she says I would just have to deal

with it.

OK, I'm sorry, I apologize to everyone. I hope most of you just deleted this

when you saw it was

a sob story. I won't do it again. I should be stronger like you, Deb, and just

break off contact.

But her occasional money comes in handy, so I just tolerate it. But the day

might come.

Take Care,

B. in TEXAS

Re: mad > Mike

-Thank you sue. The ticket due on dec 15 I see my doctor on 10 so I

will get him to sign a new handicap tsg then take it to motor vechile

get the tag take it to court and the fine will be void. Mike group

owner-- In Stimulator <mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

<mailto:Stimulator%40>

, " Sue Elvins " <apageor2@...>

wrote:

>

> Sorry you had to deal with the cop who decided he needed to get his

> quota in for the end of the month Mike. Unfortunately, that is how a

> lot of them are any more. I was watching a show the other day called

> Parking Wars and let me tell you they need to earn a day's pay just

> like everyone else and even though I don't always agree with some of

> the things which they do, Being as everyone needs to make a living

> sometimes it can be understand the other person's shoes in the heat

of

> the moment.

>

> Rather than raise a fuss about it wouldn't it be better to resolve

it

> and move forward? From what I have been reading in your postings, it

> sounds like you don't need any more stress than you currently have.

> So, with that being said, how would you best assume this matter be

> closed so you can take care of the business at hand? No one wants to

> admit we have done something wrong or possibly made a mistake

however

> the one thing many professionals (including doctors) forget is we

are

> human. It is okay to feel sad if you are sad, it is okay to be

> frustrated it you are frustrated and it is surely okay to say " I

have

> had enough " when someone has gotten on that last and final nerve.

>

> I give you credit for doing what you do every day. I wish I had 1/2

of

> the strength which most of you show when going through a 3 year back

> nightmare with my back specialists. I don't think I would be where I

> am now.

>

> Hang in there Mike, I will always keep you in my thoughts.

>

> Sue Lynn

>