Teachers advice!

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Hello again - gee, i`ve been busy tonite!!

How great to hear from a teacher who had some good comments about how

to handle the school situation - see message 823 from Antoinette

Irwin. thankyou, Antoinette!!

I agree, talk lots to your child about their eyes but also all their

other great attributes, beautiful smile, great sharing/caring nature,

fantastic at singing etc etc etc!! Encouraging other children, who

are staring etc to play with your child or share a toy are some other

ideas for showing the `starees` (such a word?) that your child is

perfectly ok in other ways. How about asking `Would you like to hear

a story with us?` & have a childs storybook available. Probably are

some around that deal with this issue of someone looking a bit

different.

The worse thing for me also, was not knowing what was wrong with me

when I got the comments, questions, stares as I was growing up except

to say `I was born this way`. Didn`t really help much at the time,

especially as I was the only child of 7, who had bpes. All the

others are reknowned for their big beautiful blue or brown eyes!! How

nice to know now, that its got a name, & I`m an oldie in the group at

47! (almost) Was not given any `tools ` to deal with it myself so I

think I resorted to comments like `Well, you`ve got a big nose!` when

I got `You`ve got little eyes`, & also punching their lights out. I

don`t recommend these ideas though!

Having to deal with this condition as a child & teen really does give

you a strength later in life & a heart for those who suffer by being

diferent. You also learn to be very tolerant. I do feel for you

younger parents with bleph children, but not yourselves, as you can`t

really identify with their feelings but you all so obviously LOVE

your kids to bits & that is what will get them through the tough

times.

Anyway, thats me for tonite - time for bed at 1.00a.m.

Bye & God Bless

Maree