Re: Couple of probs in paradise/need advice

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Elaine

Sometimes I find it is best to not be too diplomatic. I don't mean

hollering, cursing, etc.. But it just seems that sometimes things have to

be put rather simply and bluntly for the message, and the importance of that

message to get across. In 's IEP a couple of weeks ago I had to be

blunt about 2 things, because they just weren't getting my message, and kept

repeating the same incorrect idea/plan over and over. In my mind, not being

diplomatic is very different from being rude. Maybe a simple, blunt

explanation is what is needed.

Sharon

Mom to (10, DS) and (6)

How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

General Patton.

Any help would be appreciated.

Elaine

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Elaine

Sometimes I find it is best to not be too diplomatic. I don't mean

hollering, cursing, etc.. But it just seems that sometimes things have to

be put rather simply and bluntly for the message, and the importance of that

message to get across. In 's IEP a couple of weeks ago I had to be

blunt about 2 things, because they just weren't getting my message, and kept

repeating the same incorrect idea/plan over and over. In my mind, not being

diplomatic is very different from being rude. Maybe a simple, blunt

explanation is what is needed.

Sharon

Mom to (10, DS) and (6)

How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

General Patton.

Any help would be appreciated.

Elaine

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In a message dated 12/14/01 4:10:36 PM Central Standard Time, huie@...

writes:

> How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

> son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

> self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

> General Patton.

> Any help would be appreciated.

> Elaine

>

>

Rather than saying something negative about the person in question I

diplomatically place it with a personality conflict between my son and the

adult. That way no one is to blame even though we know different. That is

something that the school can save face with and not have to discipline

someone and I achieved what I wanted.

Karyn

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In a message dated 12/14/01 4:10:36 PM Central Standard Time, huie@...

writes:

> How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

> son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

> self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

> General Patton.

> Any help would be appreciated.

> Elaine

>

>

Rather than saying something negative about the person in question I

diplomatically place it with a personality conflict between my son and the

adult. That way no one is to blame even though we know different. That is

something that the school can save face with and not have to discipline

someone and I achieved what I wanted.

Karyn

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In a message dated 12/15/01 8:39:01 AM Central Standard Time,

KVanRyzin@... writes:

> Rather than saying something negative about the person in question I

> diplomatically place it with a personality conflict between my son and the

> adult. That way no one is to blame even though we know different. That is

> something that the school can save face with and not have to discipline

> someone and I achieved what I wanted.

>

> Karyn

HI

Unless its a major issue (like the 3 hour time out thing uggg) I usually just

state what I don't want to happen. Like the time I saw a sad face on Sara's

chart for blowing bubbles in her milk carton. I pointed out at a meeting that

I NEVER want to see something like this again on her chart. The teacher who

did this knew who she was and I didn't have to embarrass her in the process.

Like Ive said before, IEP's need to be detailed, explaining what is

expectable and what isn't. I hate to have to be like this but I do have to

put my fortune teller hat on at the meetings and predict what might happen in

the future, to ward of any problems.

Oh well my take on this heehee

Kathy mom to Sara 10

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In a message dated 12/15/01 8:39:01 AM Central Standard Time,

KVanRyzin@... writes:

> Rather than saying something negative about the person in question I

> diplomatically place it with a personality conflict between my son and the

> adult. That way no one is to blame even though we know different. That is

> something that the school can save face with and not have to discipline

> someone and I achieved what I wanted.

>

> Karyn

HI

Unless its a major issue (like the 3 hour time out thing uggg) I usually just

state what I don't want to happen. Like the time I saw a sad face on Sara's

chart for blowing bubbles in her milk carton. I pointed out at a meeting that

I NEVER want to see something like this again on her chart. The teacher who

did this knew who she was and I didn't have to embarrass her in the process.

Like Ive said before, IEP's need to be detailed, explaining what is

expectable and what isn't. I hate to have to be like this but I do have to

put my fortune teller hat on at the meetings and predict what might happen in

the future, to ward of any problems.

Oh well my take on this heehee

Kathy mom to Sara 10

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My problem with diplomatic is I usually tell someone where they can stick their

ideas I am learning tho- I

usually vent and yell an scream at dh, then make a nice phone call to whomever

is involved, then vent at dh again..

I feel sorry for him sometimes-esp since being 32 weeks pg you tend to get

abit, oh how do you say nicely,

irrational??? hehehehehe

Sharon wrote:

> Elaine

> Sometimes I find it is best to not be too diplomatic. I don't mean

> hollering, cursing, etc.. But it just seems that sometimes things have to

> be put rather simply and bluntly for the message, and the importance of that

> message to get across. In 's IEP a couple of weeks ago I had to be

> blunt about 2 things, because they just weren't getting my message, and kept

> repeating the same incorrect idea/plan over and over. In my mind, not being

> diplomatic is very different from being rude. Maybe a simple, blunt

> explanation is what is needed.

> Sharon

> Mom to (10, DS) and (6)

>

> How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

> son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

> self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

> General Patton.

> Any help would be appreciated.

> Elaine

>

>

> Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for

messages to go to the sender of the message.

>

>

[Guest guest]

My problem with diplomatic is I usually tell someone where they can stick their

ideas I am learning tho- I

usually vent and yell an scream at dh, then make a nice phone call to whomever

is involved, then vent at dh again..

I feel sorry for him sometimes-esp since being 32 weeks pg you tend to get

abit, oh how do you say nicely,

irrational??? hehehehehe

Sharon wrote:

> Elaine

> Sometimes I find it is best to not be too diplomatic. I don't mean

> hollering, cursing, etc.. But it just seems that sometimes things have to

> be put rather simply and bluntly for the message, and the importance of that

> message to get across. In 's IEP a couple of weeks ago I had to be

> blunt about 2 things, because they just weren't getting my message, and kept

> repeating the same incorrect idea/plan over and over. In my mind, not being

> diplomatic is very different from being rude. Maybe a simple, blunt

> explanation is what is needed.

> Sharon

> Mom to (10, DS) and (6)

>

> How do I tell them I would rather she NOT discipline (even verbally) my

> son. I don't like her at all. She shouldn't be around kids who need

> self-esteem boosts, not constant criticism. I'm about as diplomatic as

> General Patton.

> Any help would be appreciated.

> Elaine

>

>

> Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for

messages to go to the sender of the message.

>

>