Positive Behavior Support

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Thanks for the website..... it has a ton of helpful information! I am very

frustrated right now because is becoming more determined (who'd

have thought THAT was possible) about two things: running away (and

laughing when she hears " stop " ), and refusing (by saying " no " , flopping

down, you guys know the routine :-) when asked to do ANYTHING she'd not in

the mood to do. We've tried giving her choices, trying " First......,

then....... " with an established routine, positive feedback for cooperating,

timeouts, and even a little swat of the bottom, and she when she'd not going

to do whatever it is, I have to carry, move, drag, fight her thorough the

motions. Problem is, she's getting heavy!!!!!

School district won't help out because she's usually pretty good at school,

and if she is in a " no " mood, all the teacher has to do is put on her

" stern " voice, and responds. Obviously, she regards her parents

differently from her teachers LOL! Regional center provided (~6 months ago)

a " behaviour consult " , which was pretty much useless. The consultant told

me to " practice " stopping, like training a dog. If didn't know

what the word meant, that might have been useful. Problem is, she knows it,

but thinks it's funnier to keep running! Our case worker was surprised that

we had no behaviour plan after the behaviour specialist came out, and is

going to request another consult with a different person.

If the locks aren't on the doors and gates, she's putting on her backpack,

dress-up clothes, or sister's shoes and taking off down the driveway. I've

returned the " Parent Pager " , which was supposed to work up to 50 ft., but

that (apparently) is ONLY if the child as still as the rock I set the pager

on to test it, AND is in a perfect line of sight (like that would happen

anywhere...... If you can see the child, you don't need an alarm!!!!!).

Please tell me she will outgrow this very long, frustrating stage! Thanks

for listening.

, mom to (6), (4 DS), and (2)

[Guest guest]

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See if you can get a behavioral psychologist. also has a history of

wandering behaviors and does the stop/drop/plop routine. We are just

hypervigilent about the doors being locked. is almost 9 and I can let

him go outside to play without me being right there. I do check on him alot,

even from a window. I could not do that 6 months ago.

For the stop/drop/plop, I do tons of redirection, ignoring, etc...depends on

where we are at the time. This morning it was in the living room after I told

him the bus is coming. He refused to budge, so I said, fine..I'll go out and

wait for the bus myself. I came back in a minute later and he was peaking out

the window laughing. I told him " hey, you funny kid, you're teasing me this

morning, lets's go " and he happily trotted out the door. No power struggles.

We do start transitions before we actually have to go somewhere.

[Guest guest]

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Your sounds just like my ! He was 3 in April and looks to be

headed in the same direction as . He constantly runs away, laughs

whenever he knows he's in trouble or doing something wrong, and does the whole

stop drop and flop no matter what surface he is on!! It's getting very

difficult to handle him sometimes. And he is so heavy now and so strong. I

have just started looking into a Baby Jogger because he has also become Houdini

with escaping from every traditional stroller. I think the baby jogger would be

a good investment with both the 5 point harness to keep him in and also the fact

that it holds up to around 65 lbs so it will last as he grows!!!

I am headed to that website for some ideas. I have to say it's comforting to

know I'm not the only one going through this type of behavior.

thanks,

jayne

Mom to three including my little escape artist,

Re: Positive Behavior Support

Thanks for the website..... it has a ton of helpful information! I am very

frustrated right now because is becoming more determined (who'd

have thought THAT was possible) about two things: running away (and

laughing when she hears " stop " ), and refusing (by saying " no " , flopping

down, you guys know the routine :-) when asked to do ANYTHING she'd not in

the mood to do. We've tried giving her choices, trying " First......,

then....... " with an established routine, positive feedback for cooperating,

timeouts, and even a little swat of the bottom, and she when she'd not going

to do whatever it is, I have to carry, move, drag, fight her thorough the

motions. Problem is, she's getting heavy!!!!!

School district won't help out because she's usually pretty good at school,

and if she is in a " no " mood, all the teacher has to do is put on her

" stern " voice, and responds. Obviously, she regards her parents

differently from her teachers LOL! Regional center provided (~6 months ago)

a " behaviour consult " , which was pretty much useless. The consultant told

me to " practice " stopping, like training a dog. If didn't know

what the word meant, that might have been useful. Problem is, she knows it,

but thinks it's funnier to keep running! Our case worker was surprised that

we had no behaviour plan after the behaviour specialist came out, and is

going to request another consult with a different person.

If the locks aren't on the doors and gates, she's putting on her backpack,

dress-up clothes, or sister's shoes and taking off down the driveway. I've

returned the " Parent Pager " , which was supposed to work up to 50 ft., but

that (apparently) is ONLY if the child as still as the rock I set the pager

on to test it, AND is in a perfect line of sight (like that would happen

anywhere...... If you can see the child, you don't need an alarm!!!!!).

Please tell me she will outgrow this very long, frustrating stage! Thanks

for listening.

, mom to (6), (4 DS), and (2)

[Guest guest]

Unless you need a larger stroller, you might try the harness from " Right Start " .

It is more expensive than the type you get at Walmart ($15), but it works great

to keep a wiggler in the stroller. It's called a Safetey Harness, Baby Buddies

and it comes with straps/clips that go around the stroller and clip to the

harnass. I've pasted in the info.... hopefully the picture will show up.

Unfortunately, you can't keep them strapped into the stroller at the playground

:-) I also used this to " attach " both my little ones to the wagon so that I

could walk to school without worrying someone was going to jump out along a busy

street! My next challenge is going to be the car seat. is now

slightly over 40 pounds, and needs to move from the 5-point harness in the

carseat to using the shoulder belt with the carseat.... I'm dreading even

starting that, but 40 pounds is the cutoff, and she needs to transition. Too

bad... she can finally get into the van and buckle herself into her seat!

http://www.rightstart.com/default.cfm?SID=10001

, mom to (6), (4 DS), and (2)

[Guest guest]

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Make sure the child lock is on the doors of your cars.

THis will keep from opening the door from

the inside. Also, make sure you lock your car at home

in the driveway or garage to keep her from getting

into the car and being stuck inside.

There is also a way to fit part of a plastic soda

bottle over the seatbbelt latch to prevent the child

from being able to undo the belt. I cannot visualize

this now and was lucky enough to never have to use it.

Bridget actually says " Uh Oh " (when she has unbuckled

or I forget to buckle her in) as soon as we start the

car.

Some of the larger carseats still have the 5 point

harness, then transition into the regular seatbelt

(Graco makes one. The 5 point system is used based on

height and not weight.

mom to Bridget 9 ds

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if anyone can give more info on this plastic bottle safety idea i would

appreciate it. I have two that is always undoing the belts.

Dorothy Mom to 9 wonderful children

wrote:

There is also a way to fit part of a plastic soda

bottle over the seatbbelt latch to prevent the child

from being able to undo the belt. I cannot visualize

this now and was lucky enough to never have to use it.

Bridget actually says " Uh Oh " (when she has unbuckled

or I forget to buckle her in) as soon as we start the

car.

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[Guest guest]

Here is a website on Positive Behavior Support: http://www.pbis.org/main.htm

I haven't gone through it, but it looks interesting.

ette

mom to Faith'(10)DS