Re:Termination of pregnancy of an HIV positive women

[Guest guest]

Dear Radhika,

Though stigma and discrimination are rampant and may, as you say,

prevent you from finding a provider who will carry out a surgical

abortion on a positive woman, you are asking AIDS india, in your

request for information, to be complicit in your inexusable lies

to both your wife and your doctor about your positive status.

You are more worried about whether or not the abortion was

successful than the life of your wife whom you may have infected.

Your disregard for her humanity is appalling. From what you say it

appears that your wife accepted your excuse that you are

not " ready for a child " and sacrificed her own flesh for your

apprehensions, all the while not knowing that the real reason you

didn't want a child was because then she would find out you are

HIV positive.

As her husband it is your moral duty to inform her of your

positive status and the possibility that you have infected her, so

that if possible, she may seek out treatment. Treatment is most

effective in the earliest stages of infection. I urge you to do

the right thing.

Joya Banerjee

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Joya Banerjee

President Columbia Global Justice

E-mail: joya.banerjee@...

Mobile: 212.945.8071

[Guest guest]

Subject: Re: [] Re:Termination of pregnancy of an HIV positive

women

Dear Ms banerjee,

I would strongly suggest that you come down from your high moral ground and a

preachers throne and dont arrive at your own conclusions and pass a moral

judgement .

Though i was tested positive couldnt it be possible that my wife could have

infected me. And i was tested positive in a routine health checkup and not that

i suspected my status and got myself checked . Even if she had infected me i

hold nothing against her . You are strongly suggesting that i have infected her

as if i had shared with you my medical status before infecting her.I am more

concerned about status of abortion at this moment because than i might be faced

with a situation where i will have a infected womb with no where to go because

everywhere i expect to find people preaching with high moral grounds and acting

as if they are immune to it.

Do you understand what will your condition be when you come to know after six

months of you marriage that you are incurable disease no matter who gave it to

whom .I am not hiding any fact from anybody neither my medical care provider nor

my wife and i am not lying or asking anybody to be a compliance in my lies.The

reason i was asking for help was that i wanted a doctor somebody who doesnt

treat me like a untouchable after he knows my HIV status.

Instead of passing judgement when you dont know a iota about my situation . I

would strongly suggest that Why dont u ask the doctor first why does he need to

know HIV status of a person. Does any doctor need to have extra precautions for

treating a HIV + person leave alone when he is terminating a pregnancy ? Why

dont u ask the society why is there a stigma attached to HIV.

Regarding your Knowledge of HIV even if i assume that i have infected my wife

after the marrriage which is a few months old . It will be at least 5 years

before her body will need ARV treatment and i might need it more urgently . I

would strongly urge you to not decide for other people what is right

and what is wrong and rather stop this presidential rhetoric and dont

discourage people if you cant encourage them .

It is very easy to write preaching mails and tell people what is wrong or right

for them.

Thanks

Anil

E-mail: <radhika1234567@...>