Re: Re: developmental outcomes article

[Guest guest]

Dana,

I wouldn't put too much stock in some of those research articles either.

doesn't seem to have a single developmental delay at all! She walked at

8 months and is currently talking up a storm! I think those studies are so

subjective. They study kids with plagio, but whose to say that those kids

wouldn't have had those problems anyways!! Yes, some problems MAY arise, but

that certainly does not mean that they will. I know that it is easy to say

" don't worry " , but sometimes that really is the best we can. Pray for the

best and deal with the rest! Hang in there - everything is going to be just

fine!

Marci (Mom to )

Oklahoma

[Guest guest]

Yep, me too! Skippin' it - I'm the queen of paranoid!

Marci

[Guest guest]

Sue,

I really enjoyed reading your perspective on kids hitting the milestones too early or too late! Thanks for sharing that, it really hit the nail on the head!

' Mom

[Guest guest]

Dana:

I understand your frustration and worry about the development of your son.

My twins were 29 weekers and one had several small and medium brain bleeds

in the first few weeks of life. He was one sick little boy and of course,

the one with tort and plagio. I racked my brain for months trying to

analyze his every move, trying so hard to not compare him to his twin and to

his full term sisters. The harsh reality I have learned while raising four

children is that NO baby fits on the chart all of his/her development. We

try so hard to make them, but sooner or later, they will be " too early " or

" oh so late " in reaching a goal.

My six year old is the tallest in her kindergarten class, just tested on a

first grade reading level but was one of the last ones to loose a tooth.

She was SOOOOOO sad that the short five year olds were missing 3 teeth and

hers weren't even wiggling. Sounds silly, but it was a HUGE issue in this

house.

I will not say that you are overreacting, but please consider...here is

another way of looking at this...your son is so lucky to have parents who

recognized a problem (plagio), and sought treatment (probably with some

challenges along the way). You are so far ahead of the parenting curve that

your son WILL NOT suffer because you have already proven your dedication to

him. You HAVE NOT failed him!!!!!!

Please know that some days he will be ahead of the curve (plagio or not) but

some day he might be that 6 year old eating every carrot in the house and

dreaming about the tooth fairy. You set the tone for what those

accomplishments and delays mean!!

Have a great day,

Sue Luck

Cleveland, OH

Re: developmental outcomes article

> OK, so I decide to check the board last night before going to bed

> and come across this article. Foolishly, I read it. The results of

> the study seem to lean towards a higher risk that our children will

> have subtle developmental challenges as they get older b/c of their

> plagio. I spent most of the night crying. If he grew up and had

> developmental challenges in a normal situation, I would have been

> able to deal with it. However, since he has been diagnosed with

> plagio...I have felt extremely guilty. My only relief was that

> everyone was telling me his condition is mostly cosmetic. I figured

> the helmet would help correct any potential jaw or vision problems

> that may have come up later in life.

> I don't think I can express to everyone how upset I am over this.

> I may be overreacting but as a parent we are suppose to give our

> children the best possible start in life. I feel as though I have

> failed. I am also a first time " paranoid " parent. I will probably

> spend the next 4-5 years analyzing everything he does and blame

> myself for any little setbacks. Maybe ignorance is bliss

> sometimes. My husband tells me I read too much...maybe he is right.

> (sighhhh) Sorry everyone for the long message. Please tell me I am

> over reacting

>

> Dana (mom of )

> Ont.

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> > <A

> HREF= " http://www.pediatrics.org/cgi/content/full/105/2/e26 " >Click

> here: Pediatrics -- and Clarren 105 (2): e26</A>

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> For more plagio info