Totally non plagio...anybody know a good argument for having another baby?

[Guest guest]

Weird question, guys...

My sons are now 15 months old and I am feeling that ol' biological urge again for the third and probably final member of my family. My DH is perfectly happy with two boys (I wonder, though, if we had had GIRLS) and is reluctant to have another. Anybody know some good arguments, either for or against having another baby at this point? I could use some advice, since everybody around here( as in my family) thinks I ought to rest on my laurels and get "snipped"!

Jill Ramos, Las Vegas, NV

[Guest guest]

Jill-

When the boys get old enough, teach them to ask dad for another baby!

Dane's mom

[Guest guest]

Jill,

We were

blessed with a girl and then a boy and then I turned 35 and began to panic that

I was getting old (hormonal, I guess). 

Plus, my husband was discussing vasectomy because he didn’t want any

more.  I pushed the issue and last year

we had our plagio baby, ph.  I have NEVER

regretted having little (and neither has my husband) and feel

content.  I was raised in a family with

3 girls, so I guess that number just seemed right for me.  My husband just wanted me to be happy,

because, you know, “when momma ain’t happy, nobody is”!!

Good luck

with this!  J

[Guest guest]

Hi there. I am sorry to hear that dh is reluctant to have any more

babies. My suggestion is to just put it the same way you put it in

your post. Explain your feelings on wanting to try one last time for

a girl. Say if we had two girls wouldnt you want to try to have a

boy. He may understand where you are coming from if you explain it

that way.

Luckily my dh wants as many as Ill give him. We had a boy then a girl

and then our plagio girl. And in another year or so we will start

trying for another. Not quite sure how many we will end up with.

Taking it day by day. But if you want another child and your dh is

just reluctant and not dead set against it. Then Im sure you will

have a good chance at getting your way Good luck

Christi mom to Mya (DOC band 3/6/02)

> Weird question, guys...

> My sons are now 15 months old and I am feeling that ol' biological

urge again

> for the third and probably final member of my family. My DH is

perfectly

> happy with two boys (I wonder, though, if we had had GIRLS) and is

reluctant

> to have another. Anybody know some good arguments, either for or

against

> having another baby at this point? I could use some advice, since

everybody

> around here( as in my family) thinks I ought to rest on my laurels

and get

> " snipped " !

>

> Jill Ramos, Las Vegas, NV

[Guest guest]

Yikes Jill, this is a tough one! Whether or not to add to one's

family is such a huge and extremely personal decision. On the one

hand, I can see 's point of view. I know that if we had had

our twins first, I'm sure would have been scared sterile!!! I

know that would be afraid of us having more sets of twins and

that really would have turned him off of parenting more. Considering

that my maternal grandmother had three sets of twins, it was a very

valid concern for us. Don't get me wrong, we love all of our

children and couldn't imagine life without any of them here with us,

but we are both breathing big sighs of relief that there will be no

more babies in our future.

But on the other hand, I understand your point of view so much more.

I have never felt so fulfilled as a person and as a woman, as I did

when I brought a new life into the world and became somone's Mommy.

And I love watching my kids interact with each other. Kellie had a

wonderful point about twins needing to interact with other kids too.

I know I'm probably not helping here at all with giving you a good

argument. But I think that you know what is right for you and your

family. Don't 'rest on your laurels and get snipped' because your

family says so, do it because YOU want to. You will never regret

anything more than something you let your family talk you into.

You can always do what I did. and I were trying to decide

which one of us was going to get neutered. I told Kev that he should

be the one to get snipped because I might want to have more kids with

my next husband ;o) And yet he still loves me!

Good luck Jill, let us know how it goes.

Niki

Kaylie & Danny (STAr grads)

Phila., PA

> Weird question, guys...

> My sons are now 15 months old and I am feeling that ol' biological

urge again

> for the third and probably final member of my family. My DH is

perfectly

> happy with two boys (I wonder, though, if we had had GIRLS) and is

reluctant

> to have another. Anybody know some good arguments, either for or

against

> having another baby at this point? I could use some advice, since

everybody

> around here( as in my family) thinks I ought to rest on my laurels

and get

> " snipped " !

>

> Jill Ramos, Las Vegas, NV