Tired of people thinking I'm a nut

[Guest guest]

I guess this might be sort of OT, but I'm sure many of you in this vaccines

group have been shunned and ridiculed. I just need to know you guys are out

there for me. Sometimes it feels like you guys are the ONLY ones out there for

me! LOL

Just had a phone conversation with my best friend. It didn't go too well. It

didn't get heated, but I could tell that she was uncomfortable.

Her son is 10 and good friends with my son. We were pregnant together.

He is a brilliant child. Genius. But he's always had eczema, asthma and now

he's got a whopping case of ADHD. I mean the kid can't do any work without his

meds.

My friend hated to put him on the meds but, like everyone, she had instant

results and all of a sudden he was living up to his potential and liking himself

and making friends. Gotta admit - that's hard to refuse.

But they're seeing that they have to keep upping his meds. She's

uncomfortable as she knows somewhere deep down that these meds aren't good.

So the school counselor referred her to an outside counselor. Get this: She

advises her to read Ritalin Free Kids (WHICH I HAD GIVEN HER TO READ!!!) and

referred her to a well-known naturopath in one of the bigger cities.

So when she tells me this I was thrilled! I thought - hallelujah - she's

getting it!

I said that hopefully this person can start treating what is really wrong with

him instead of just masking symptoms. Her reply was, " Do you think that they'll

ever really know what causes it? " To which I replied, " Yeah, I think they do

know what causes it but nobody likes the answers. " So she retorted, " Well what

if it IS the vaccinations? It's not like they can undo them at this point. " So

I said that maybe it's food intolerances or environmental toxins... could be a

ton of stuff, but nobody really wants to know what - just how to make it go away

enough to get through a school day.

But then she complained that the intitial fee wasn't covered by insurance,

yada yada yada. OK, this lady is living in a BEAUTIFUL home that is decorated

like you wouldn't believe, drives nice cars, dresses to the nines and she isn't

willing to pay $150 for her kid's health? So I tried to nicely say that yes, I

like nice things too and that it's my true weakness, but that we've determined

that our family's health is so much more precious.... The line almost went

dead.

She went on to say that she just can't see spending money that she could be

saving for his college when there is no proof that any of it works. She can

understand how my sister can do it with an autistic child because it's not like

he's ever going to be normal or anything. ARRGGGH!

I think part of the problem is that she is remarried and this child is not the

biological child of her husband. He is a great step-dad, but I know that he

wants a nestegg and financial security is VERY important to him. The real dad

has just been diagnosed as bi-polar and is on a boatload of drugs.

We tried to switch the subject and lightly talk about other stuff but it just

wasn't the same. I know she thinks I'm a judgmental nutcase and I think she's a

spoiled nincompoop even though I just want to be friends. But it hurts so bad

when a truly good friend of over 10 years thinks you're crazy. And when you

know you're right and that they're hurting their child.

Sigh.

Just needed to write it down.

Thanks guys!

Sheri B.

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