Re: school update

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone,

I appreciate your help with my daughter's school problems last year (Leigh).

I wanted to give you all a quick update. I moved this summer out of the

" evil " school district into one that had been recommended to me, buying a

house in the district to make sure she could go to school there. When I

called them, they said that they would not approve a transfer because of

funding, but if we lived in the district they would help us. I met with

Special Ed last Tuesday, had a full IEP review on Friday, and she started

school Monday the 21st. They have already moved her up a grade to 8th grade

art, and have her mentoring a 6th grader in math. They recognize she needs

more challenge academically and fewer interactions with her peers (but still

needs socialization skills) so she is in a computer based training that

allows her to learn at her own pace with only a few kids and adults in the

room and lots of flexibility for breaks and other needs. She attends gym and

choir/theatrics with a full class. So far everyone has worked with us

wonderfully, they seem to understand her and are working hard to give her a

good start in seventh grade. I feel like it's a breath of fresh air. Since

they have been putting attention to her SID, her ADHD symptoms have virtually

disappeared. The other disorders except for paranoia seem vastly reduced.

Wish me luck this year!!

Jay in Colorado

[Guest guest]

HI Jay:

Thanks so much for sharing your wonderful success with a new school. Your

total commitment to your child, even buying a home in the right school

district, reminds me so much of the incredible dedication to their kids

that I noticed in OCD parents at the OCF Conference.

Take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 09:17 AM 08/23/2000 -0400, you wrote:

>Hi Everyone,

>I appreciate your help with my daughter's school problems last year

(Leigh).

> I wanted to give you all a quick update. I moved this summer out of the

> " evil " school district into one that had been recommended to me, buying a

>house in the district to make sure she could go to school there. When I

>called them, they said that they would not approve a transfer because of

>funding, but if we lived in the district they would help us. I met with

>Special Ed last Tuesday, had a full IEP review on Friday, and she started

>school Monday the 21st. They have already moved her up a grade to 8th grade

>art, and have her mentoring a 6th grader in math. They recognize she needs

>more challenge academically and fewer interactions with her peers (but still

>needs socialization skills) so she is in a computer based training that

>allows her to learn at her own pace with only a few kids and adults in the

>room and lots of flexibility for breaks and other needs. She attends gym

and

>choir/theatrics with a full class. So far everyone has worked with us

>wonderfully, they seem to understand her and are working hard to give her a

>good start in seventh grade. I feel like it's a breath of fresh air. Since

>they have been putting attention to her SID, her ADHD symptoms have

virtually

>disappeared. The other disorders except for paranoia seem vastly reduced.

>Wish me luck this year!!

>Jay in Colorado

[Guest guest]

Jay, in Colorado

What wonderful news about Leigh! I cant mention loud enough how student

focused learning is the answer for our kids! This has been a big summer for

Leigh: starting a new school, adolescence, new house, etc., and having the

opportunities to explore who she is as a person. I'm sure she will make you

so proud!

take care, eh? wendy, in canada

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[Guest guest]

Gail,

I am so sorry to hear that your daughter's school is doing this to

her! How awful to play with a child this way. I surely hope you

won't have to switch schools and they'll come around soon.

-Jean

> Despite very clear objectives and accomodations listed in

's

> evaluation report, the school has not put ANY in place yet. It

seems that

> they are purposefully dragging their feet so that they can use

's poor

> performance as justification for not having her return. As it is a

private

> school, they CAN do that.

>

> I am furious at the gameplaying going on around the issue of my

daughter

> and her education. The p-doc is now pushing the school to give us

some solid

> feedback so that we can make plans for next year. The psychologist

who

> evaluated was called today by the principal. She had the gall

to tell

> him that the school has already tried ALL of the accomodations he

> recommended. He was not convinced, thank goodness. He told me that

it

> appears that the school is now looking for justification for not

meeting

> 's needs.

>

> I am looking into other schools, but it is so hard to know what

to do

> with the school stringing us along. will be heartbroken at

having to

> switch schools, so I am gently planting the idea that there may be

other

> schools that are even better than her present one. She gets so

upset,

> though, when I bring this up.

>

> BTW, this school promotes itself as being flexible and

responsive to the

> individual needs of each child there...HAH!

>

> Gail in N'Awlins

[Guest guest]

Gail, what a frustrating situation for you and to be in. I can get so

angry when the supposed " helpers " (schools, etc.) end up being our kids'

biggest hurdles. A big part of me thinks, to hell with this school, but yet

how unfair for to have put forth all the effort and patience in the

testing and at school, only to have to face transferring or further

foot-dragging to deny her the accomodations that she needs to succeed. I'm

concerned that she will pick up on this and feel unwanted there, how can any

student succeed under those circumstances??

I know this is a small comfort, but reading over time of your and 's

struggle with this school, I have thought long and hard about my idea of

enrolling Kellen in a private school. It seems to me, having the force of

law behind accomodations in the public school system is an ace in the hole.

Although I have learned through this list, there are still any number of

ways the school can place obstacles in the path and confound an OCDer's

learning experience.

Since my daughter is a first-grader, we are just starting down this road. I

always snap to when a post concerns problems with a school or educating our

OCDers. Thanks to you and others who have posted their experiences, I have

what I think is a healthy skepticism when it comes to dealing with teachers

and the school. I want to believe they have my daughter's best interests at

heart, but they will also have to show this in her day-to-day experiences

there. I'm not exactly looking for trouble, but very alert to that

possibility.

(((hugs Gail))) Let us know which way things go.

Kathy R. in Indiana

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> Despite very clear objectives and accomodations listed in 's

> evaluation report, the school has not put ANY in place yet. It seems that

> they are purposefully dragging their feet so that they can use 's

poor

> performance as justification for not having her return. As it is a

private

> school, they CAN do that.

>

> I am furious at the gameplaying going on around the issue of my

daughter

> and her education. The p-doc is now pushing the school to give us some

solid

> feedback so that we can make plans for next year. The psychologist who

> evaluated was called today by the principal. She had the gall to

tell

> him that the school has already tried ALL of the accomodations he

> recommended. He was not convinced, thank goodness. He told me that it

> appears that the school is now looking for justification for not meeting

> 's needs.

>

> I am looking into other schools, but it is so hard to know what to do

> with the school stringing us along. will be heartbroken at having

to

> switch schools, so I am gently planting the idea that there may be other

> schools that are even better than her present one. She gets so upset,

> though, when I bring this up.

>

> BTW, this school promotes itself as being flexible and responsive to

the

> individual needs of each child there...HAH!

[Guest guest]

> we've increased dosage of Risperdal from .5mg to 1.0mg and spread

it throughout the day. we shall see if it helps curb the latest

outbursts. If not, we may need to change meds.

> it is funny how school was hysterical yesterday, but today - even

though ds may be just as explosive- they are not asking him to stay

home or me to stay in school - just because I said we increased the

dosage......magic.

> I know it is not magic, it is the fact that they have something or

someone else to lean the responsibility on. I don't blame them. but

it just shows how subjective is the system's willingness to cope.

> F

Keeping you in my prayers, Fania.

Kathy

[Guest guest]

sorry you are having these problems - I have found that my kids

schools' do very little about compliants of any kind-whether health,

safety or scholarly issues. They are only concerned about the image

and the money-

Val

> Hello Everyone,

> Thought I would update everyone about our school situation. Well,

today

> after being re-assured by the school that our children would not

be put back

> in the portable for the rest of the year. They announced to the

class,

> before the parents were notified that they are putting the

children back in

> the room Monday morning. They once again just don't seem to get

it. I

> called this afternoon, and voiced my opinion and said that my

daughter would

> not under any circumstances be going back into the room. I have

now also

> obtained a letter, from a doctor that says she cannot be in any

room that is

> environmentally unsafe or unstable. I was told this is impossible

by the

> principal, I imformed him that this wouldn't be the best week to

go that

> route. That is not impossible, and please don't push me this

week. Then

> today they do this. My fuses are all about blown. I am hoping

that someone

> replaces a few of my fuses before tomorrow. So now I am faced

with that

> too. I hope this finds all as well as can be. Thank you for all

your

> support, and concern.

>

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[Guest guest]

you're welcome- just don't let them try to make you think you are

crazy- that's probably the next thing they'll do- saying they have

done everything possible and everything is perfect now!

as for the wish for one week - boy that would be great! I would like

to add my wish for that to yours for everyone here-

crazy Val

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> you're welcome- just don't let them try to make you think you are

> crazy- that's probably the next thing they'll do- saying they have

> done everything possible and everything is perfect now!

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> as for the wish for one week - boy that would be great! I would like

> to add my wish for that to yours for everyone here-

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> crazy Val

For my weeks vacation I would like to be on a warm beach with nice clean

sand. Don't know where I will sleep, maybe on the beach.

[Guest guest]

count me in- sounds great!

Val

> HEHEHE!!!!!

> Wow, that sounds great. I'll bet that beach will be full of

moldies.

> hehehe

> I can feel it now.

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> >> you're welcome- just don't let them try to make you think you

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like

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Maybe that would be fun, a mold free weekend with fellow mold-

aversaries.

> > HEHEHE!!!!!

> > Wow, that sounds great. I'll bet that beach will be full of

> moldies.

> > hehehe

> > I can feel it now.

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That's great! lets all go to Hawaii- I know my kids would want to go

too-

> Well, after my letters last night and today. The kids will

staying in their

> new room. Not returning to the building. FINALLY!!!!!

> My daughter wants to know if kids can join this dream, we have

been making

> up today. She thinks it sounds pretty good in Hawaii!!!! hehehe

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> > you're welcome- just don't let them try to make you think you

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have

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like

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Sounds like a deal.I think.After I make my first $100k and we are

almost there just another $999,980k to go.Not bad,maybe by next week.

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