Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 Another week gone. LOL I have finally come to the conclusion WW meetings is not going to happen. TIME, money, and just him being a pill. So I bit the bullet and emailed my brother who goes near a WW center and confessed my dark secret. I am obese. LOL No really that I need to do something because I feel like I am dying inside. My HBP is up which is not good. So he went and got me a journal. He is mailing it to me today. Next step is hubby is off tomorrow and I told the girls it is time to clean there rooms and declutter stuff. I know your sick of hearing this. I cant imagine what my house would be like if I didn't do what I do. Also I did some shopping yesterday and made some good choices. Menu is done for next week. Trying 3 new recipes from Joanne Lund books I have. ACCOUNTABLILITY is key for me. This is what I have to work on. So a bit of EMOTIONAL ACCOUNTABILITY. There are certain things I am not comfortable saying or discussing BUT I figure where I cant afford therapy I have to start somewhere. I was mulling over my mind and emotions things that bother me. AND two things are always up front. My Weight. and My marriage. I am working on my weight. BUT the marriage part scares the hell out of me. We fight alot. Over stupid stuff. I feel like his 3rd kid. I have never confessed this before AND it is hard to admit but I have a sexless marriage. BUT it is do to my weight. I am not comfortable in my own skin. Lets face it hubby isnt either. HE CAN BE A PILL... Ok enough therapy for today. LOL I have to much on my list to get teary all day. Thanks for listening. TTFN N.H.Start the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2008 Report Share Posted January 12, 2008 I understand what you mean about your marriage being the scary part of working on your " issues. " My husband and I have not been intimate in almost 2 years. He says he's not attracted to me since I gained the weight (almost 80 lbs.). If I hear him say I need to take better care of myself one more time... I'm sure you can understand. I work, run a business, and take care of the shopping, bills, cleaning, laundry, etc, etc. What gets me through is the little things that go right. Rejoice and reward the good things he does. I hope it gets better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 Hi,You are not the only one that has the problems in that area. My husband rejected me physically for more than 2 years and this is right when we were newlyweds! I got so fed up I threatened divorce. He swears it's not because of the weight, and it sure wasn't because I had lost a lot of weight, and I was bigger when I met him then I was when we were having problems.We did a lot of therapy, but what helped was for me to be nicer to him, which was hard because I was very angry, but I had to get out of that vicious cycle. I was seriously planning on divorcing him, but now he is chasing me and wooing me and it is nice.. might work out after all. You are not alone..Luv,DebbySan , CA147 pounds lost! 100% of health issues reversed!Find out about the diet that helped me:Group: curingcandida/Website: http://www.naturallythriving.comStudying nutrition for 13 years. Currently pursuing Nutritional Consultant license.----- Original Message ----From: "Jase0157There are certain things I am not comfortable saying or discussing BUT I figure where I cant afford therapy I have to start somewhere. I was mulling over my mind and emotions things that bother me. AND two things are always up front. My Weight. and My marriage. I am working on my weight. BUT the marriage part scares the hell out of me. We fight alot. Over stupid stuff. I feel like his 3rd kid. I have never confessed this before AND it is hard to admit but I have a sexless marriage. BUT it is do to my weight. I am not comfortable in my own skin. Lets face it hubby isnt either. HE CAN BE A PILL... Ok enough therapy for today. LOL I have to much on my list to get teary all day. Thanks for listening. TTFN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2008 Report Share Posted January 13, 2008 I know an easy way you can lose weight.. divorce the husband .. Grr.. that is so not nice, and there are plenty of men out there that will like you just as you are. Luv, Debby San , CA 147 pounds lost! 100% of health issues reversed! Find out about the diet that helped me: Group: curingcandida/ Website: http://www.naturallythriving.com Studying nutrition for 13 years. Currently pursuing Nutritional Consultant license. ----- Original Message ---- From: rhondaann74 I understand what you mean about your marriage being the scary part of working on your " issues. " My husband and I have not been intimate in almost 2 years. He says he's not attracted to me since I gained the weight (almost 80 lbs.). If I hear him say I need to take better care of myself one more time... I'm sure you can understand. I work, run a business, and take care of the shopping, bills, cleaning, laundry, etc, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 - if you want me to ever pick you up WW things too, let me know ...I am there weekly on Sat Hugs - p.s. I been there and done that with the sexless marriage issues. I don't know if we have asked in the group before and forgive me for going over any boundaries: will dh go to counseling? Or is it a case of "Hell to the NO!" ? There may be places in your area that work on a sliding fee if finances are a problem. Heck, a lot of employers even cover things like this to keep their employees work-able (LOL is that a word??) so might be something to look into through his employer, if you are a sahm. Can I mail you my FLY Lady book: "Body Clutter"?? I'm done with it and would GIFT it to you. If you could work on some of that stuff, maybe that will help on the diet front and maybe even with the relationship. Email me your address off post hon :-) Hugs, in WAStart the year off right. Easy ways to stay in shape in the new year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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