's motd Thurs April 24, 2008

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DOESN'T WANT TO BE SEEN...WITH ME

Thursday, 24 April 2008

Sheila walked her son to school every morning. It was only about six blocks but it was such a good time of day for a nice mother/son walk. They'd walk hand-in-hand all the way to his elementary school. The two of them had been taking their morning walk most of the school year until, one morning, Sheila's son had an unexpected announcement for his mother:

"Mom," he told her, "When you walk me to school, you don't have to walk me all the way to the front door of the school anymore. You can just walk me to the corner right before the school. I can walk by myself from there."A little puzzled, Sheila had to ask, "And why is that, sweetie?""Well," her son responded, "Because the other kids make fun of you when they see me with you. They always make fun of how fat you are. And I really don't want them to see you with me."Traci loved to go shopping at the mall, even though it was always so hard to find something to fit. She'd always go shopping with a group of her girlfriends. That was until one Saturday when she called her so-called "best friend" in the group.Her friend "politely" told Traci that since she had gained so much weight, the other ladies in their group had reached the point where they were all embarrassed to be seen with her at the mall. Traci had fallen out of favor with them and, sadly, she stopped going mall-shopping with them on Saturdays at all.

Judy and her husband of 14 years, loved to go out to eat on weekends. Over the years though, she had continued to gain weight, five pounds here and another five pounds there. Until one day, as Judy was getting dressed one Friday night, expecting a night out dining with her husband, he told her that since she had gained so much weight..."I'd really rather not be seen eating out with you right now, honey."Ever have any of these kinds of incidents happen to you? If so, don't they give you the most horrible feeling, deep down in your gut? I mean, imagine, someone telling you, especially someone you love, that they'd rather not be seen with you in public because of what you weigh?What can I say about these people and their insensitive remarks? Now to be honest, I think many of them say these things in the hope that their remarks will motivate you to lose weight. But their remarks really don't motivate you, do they? In fact, all their remarks do is make you feel like "poodle poop," I'm sure! Now please, don't try to lose weight because someone doesn't want to be seen with you. Oh, no. You should only work to lose weight...just for you!

I want you to forgive those children, girlfriends and spouses who make these kind of sad comments to you. You should let them know that their comments don't serve to help or motivate you to lose weight. Let them know that all their comments do is hurt and make you feel not so good about yourself. Remind them that you don't need that.Do let them know that you still love them. But for your own good, do be prepared to do something about your weight. And one more time, I want you to do it for you!I also want you to remember something and that is this...I only want to be seen with you!Love,