's motd Tues July 15, 2008

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THE SABOTAGERS

Tuesday, 15 July 2008

There are two kinds of sabotage. There's sabotage caused by others and then there is the self-inflicted variety. I mean, there you are, making a dedicated effort to lose weight. You've decided that you just can't live in that obese body of yours any longer and you want out!

So you've gotten your measuring cups and spoons along with your lo-cal recipe cookbook all lined up. You've been to the store, stuck to your shopping list and only brought the best and healthiest of foods into your kitchen. So...you're ready to go!But, in spite of the great plans you've laid out for yourself, your husband decides to bring home sweets when he comes home from work. Or you have a husband who loves to take you out for dinner. Oh sure, he tells you how he really wants to see you lose the weight while, at the same time, he seems to be sabotaging your plans. Why does he do that?Maybe it's because he feels you have been trying so hard to lose weight that you deserve a little treat. And then there are those guys who think that if their wives lose weight, well...she'll dump them when she loses the weight and finds someone "better."

I know you've been sabotaged by family members and by people you call your friends. (Yes, they're only trying to be nice...sometimes!) But it's terrible to be sabotaged by people who know that you're on a weight-loss journey. But still, that's not as bad as sabotaging yourself!A very dear friend of mine looked into my eyes the other day and asked, ", why am I sabotaging myself when I really do want to lose this weight?" Well, we sabotage ourselves for many reasons. First of all, some people have a fear of getting to their goals. They're afraid they'll get too many compliments and don't know how to handle them. Or they fear, after losing weight, guys will begin coming on to them and they won't know how to handle that, either! Then there are those who actually don't think they deserve to lose the weight...that they don't deserve to be healthy. Now go figure!

Do you sabotage yourself? If so, then you need to figure out why you do. I want you to ask yourself these questions:

Are you afraid of losing weight? Do you think you don't deserve to have a healthy body? Do you think you don't deserve to feel attractive to others?Figure out why you're feeling this way about yourself. Then make up your mind that you will not sabotage yourself...ever again!

Hey! You deserve to look good. You deserve to feel good. And you deserve to be at the healthy weight you know you want to be at.So, sabotagers...be gone!Love,