motd Sunday Jan 8, 2012

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SENSITIVITY

Sunday, 08 January 2012

As I read my e-mail, it's one of the problems

I read about most often. Someone is writing about a

loved one who needs to lose weight but...they're

afraid to say anything to them. Why? Well, it's

because the person they love is so sensitive about their

weight.

The people who're so

sensitive about their weight should be thinking about

the feelings of those people who love them.

Oh my, it's a tough balance, isn't it? You know,

trying to walk that very fine line and talk to someone

you love about their weight. But, as soon as you try,

they immediately go on the defensive. Oh, look! Now

you've gone and hurt their feelings. Shame on

you! (Oh, really?)

You know what? The same people who're so sensitive

about their weight should be thinking about the

feelings of those people who love them. From reading

my mail, it's obvious that the person writing is

contacting me out of love for that oh-so sensitive

person in their lives. They may even be feeling

desperate as they reach out for help. They see what

the weight is doing to the person they love and,

there's no other way to put this...it scares them!

They don't want to lose their loved one.

Is there someone in your life who's super sensitive

about their weight? Well, when you get up the courage

to talk about it with them, let them know that you are

sensitive, too. Remind them that this really is a

two-way street.

I mean, if you weren't sensitive,

would you even be talking to them about their weight?

If you weren't

sensitive, you wouldn't even care about what

they weighed. But the bottom line is...you do!

Let them know that.

Approach them with concern

and love. No scolding, no finger-pointing, no

shame-on-you's!

Approach them with concern and love. (That shouldn't

be hard to do.) No

scolding, no finger-pointing, no shame-on-you's!

Remember, it's all about love. Oh I know, some of

them will still get upset that you have the nerve to

bring up their weight. But remind them that the only

reason you've brought up the subject is that you want

them in your life, happy and healthy...for a long,

long time.

And here's something else to think about. Even though

you may leave that conversation feeling you haven't

made any progress, there's good chance you have.

That's because you would have planted a seed of love

in their hearts. And even after you've left the room,

that seed is still inside them and, who knows, now

that the seed has been planted...maybe it will

grow.

Love,