motd Tues Apr 3, 2012

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THE MATING GAME

Tuesday, 03 April 2012

I receive a lot of e-mail from both

overweight men and women concerned about the whole

dating and marriage scene. But you know what's

curious? Some of them are writing because they want

to lose weight so they can have a boyfriend,

girlfriend or spouse some day. Then there are those

girls and guys who're overweight but also already in

relationships. Sometimes, only one of the partners is

overweight and, in some cases, they both are.

A lot of overweight people

have issues when it comes to their romantic interests.

That makes me think. Apparently, a lot of overweight

people have issues when it comes to their romantic

interests. They believe they'll never have a partner

because of what they weigh. While, at the same time,

others find true love with partners and weight is less

of an issue between them? Why is that, you think?

Here's an interesting note. Obese women have more

trouble finding a romantic partner than do women of a

more "normal" weight. But get this. Obese men don't

seem to face that problem as much as obese women.

Apparently, overweight men are more likely to have a

romantic partner than overweight women. Excuse me,

but that just seems a little unfair to me. In fact, I

think it's a societal issue that puts more pressure on

women that just doesn't seem right.

Obesity, by itself, can trigger depression and

low-self esteem in both men and women. But again,

that issue seems to be more of a problem with the

ladies. Very often, couples get married and, on their

wedding day, neither of them are overweight. But once

a woman begins having children, many of them begin

having weight-issues, too. Lots of women convince

themselves that a weight-gain during pregnancy is

normal and assume the weight will come off once the

baby is born. But I'm sure a lot of you ladies who've

become mothers know, that's not always the case. The

weight gained after having your first baby is still

there and, if you become pregnant again, you may end

up adding even more

weight.

You don't like looking at

yourself naked and may even get embarrassed when your

spouse sees you without any clothes on.

Soon, you end up living in a state of shame because

of what you weigh. You don't like looking at yourself

naked and even get embarrassed when your

spouse sees you without any clothes on. Because of

how lots of women feel about their weight, those

negative self-images can lead to problems in the

bedroom and, eventually, even cause problems in their

marriages. Well, that's no good!

One thing I've learned from reading my e-mail is that

true love is truly blind. Some men and women who

don't have weight problems do fall in

love with

partners, no matter what they weigh. And I say that's

a good thing.

You should not be losing

weight for the sole intent of finding a mate someday.

If you're living in depression because you think your

weight will prevent you from ever having a partner,

please don't think that way. True love will find

you. But may I tell you something? You should

not be losing weight for the sole intent of finding a

mate someday. You should be losing weight so you can

be healthy, happy and have many, many years with your

soul mate, once you find him or her. And the good

news is, by losing this weight, you'll be adding years

to your life. That means more years to share with

that perfect guy or gal you've finally found, just for

you! So, don't despair...

Your soul mate? He or she is

out there!

Love,