Re: why do my loved ones make me feel bad/trying to get better?

[Guest guest]

Oh Terry, I know how you feel. I was with a good friend the other

night and she told me I should get a job. I said how long could I

keep a job. I have alot more good days, but I still have flares and

how many times can you call in sick. She said " well aren't you

better now, you took the implants out " Its like ok you should be

better now. My brother thinks Im a nut case (but he still loves me)

an my mother, who is the best worrier in the world calls me a couple

times a day to see if Im fine NOW.

Thank God we have each other here. And one day soon the world will

know, I know this to be true in my soul.

We have to keep the faith. I do believe that God had a purpose in

mind when he brought this group together. I have never met so many

strong, detrimened women before. WE WILL MAKE A DIFFERANCE.

Love Cricket

--- In , " dimonds68 " <Dimonds6881@h...>

wrote:

> Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing

right

> now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me

feel

> like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now

> let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY

> RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy.

I

> mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do

> detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do

believe

> every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who

really

> wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I am

> in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have a

> better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the

medical

> community has not offered me anything. I would not be this

improved,

> if it were not for MY willpower, MY research and determination to

> get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this.

I

> would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing.

> Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are

> like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am

> allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little support

> like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health.

> Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better, and

I

> will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I try

> and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something

> wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving

off.

> Thanks for the vent..TERRY

[Guest guest]

Terry,

Sorry you're having a bad day. dimonds68 <Dimonds6881@...> wrote:

Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing right now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me feel like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy. I mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do believe every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who really wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I am in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have a better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the medical community has not offered me anything. I would not be this improved, if it were not for MY willpower, MY research

and determination to get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this. I would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing. Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little support like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health. Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better, and I will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I try and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving off. Thanks for the vent..TERRY

[Guest guest]

Hey girl, I feel ya! Same thing happens here. I'm looking much

better lately and my family is making me crazy with the " you need to

go back to work, why don't you go to school, why don't you blah blah

blah blah blah... " !

Just wanted you to know you're not alone!

Pam

--- In , " dimonds68 " <Dimonds6881@h...>

wrote:

> Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing right

> now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me

feel

> like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now

> let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY

> RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy. I

> mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do

> detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do believe

> every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who really

> wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I am

> in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have a

> better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the

medical

> community has not offered me anything. I would not be this

improved,

> if it were not for MY willpower, MY research and determination to

> get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this. I

> would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing.

> Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are

> like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am

> allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little support

> like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health.

> Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better, and

I

> will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I try

> and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something

> wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving off.

> Thanks for the vent..TERRY

[Guest guest]

Cricket...you are so right...WE WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!!!!

Pam

> > Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing

> right

> > now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me

> feel

> > like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now

> > let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY

> > RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy.

> I

> > mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do

> > detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do

> believe

> > every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who

> really

> > wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I

am

> > in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have

a

> > better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the

> medical

> > community has not offered me anything. I would not be this

> improved,

> > if it were not for MY willpower, MY research and determination to

> > get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this.

> I

> > would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing.

> > Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are

> > like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am

> > allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little

support

> > like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health.

> > Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better,

and

> I

> > will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I

try

> > and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something

> > wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving

> off.

> > Thanks for the vent..TERRY

[Guest guest]

Dimonds,

Hey girl I hear ya and symptathize with your situation. I think

that it is really hard for others esp ones who are not sick, to

understand all this stuff we do. Esp when we appear to be fine on the

outside and all. I mean they think what is it going to hurt if you

eat some sugar or some well, whatever it is your trying not to eat. I

think a big part of why I never did allot of this stuff is right when

I got my implants out I was only single a few months and then got

married and wanted to be normal and just make normal meals for my new

husband and not have him feel he married a freak or something. For me

it has worked out cause I did get better without allot of that

detoxing stuff, I mean I did and still do some things, just not 100%

living that life style. Personally I don't seem to do too bad with

eating allot of stuff like wheat and dairy, I just don't seem to eat

allot of it. My main issue really is sugar, I eat too much of it and

I know it is bad but, oh well what can I do, except just keep on

trying. It is hard though with family and friends telling you what to

do. I think you need to lay down the law with them in a nice way and

just say this is what I need to do for myself right now, I am sorry

if you don't understand but if you love me you will give me the time

and space to do what I need to do. You should not have to say more

than that. That should be enough for them and if it is not than you

may have to just detox on your own and hide it from others, sad but

it will probably never go over big with them, until you have been

where we have nothing seems like it could be that bad to other

people. They just don't get it.

hang in there girl, do what you need to do for yourself. that is the

best advice I can give ya.

hugs

wrote:

> Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing right

> now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me

feel

> like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now

> let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY

> RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy. I

> mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do

> detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do believe

> every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who really

> wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I am

> in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have a

> better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the

medical

> community has not offered me anything. I would not be this

improved,

> if it were not for MY willpower, MY research and determination to

> get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this. I

> would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing.

> Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are

> like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am

> allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little support

> like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health.

> Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better, and

I

> will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I try

> and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something

> wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving off.

> Thanks for the vent..TERRY

[Guest guest]

Pam and others:

For some of us working is and always has been someting we either had

to do, like when I was single I had no choice, and even once I got

married I new I needed and wanted to work. I am a unit secretary on a

busy floor but compared to working back at Stanford on the ICU this

job is cake, lot less stressful, just busy and at times somewhat

stressful. There is a lot of clicks and groups at my work and that

becomes so immature it drives me nuts, but working always makes me

feel better. When I stay home I go insane, I know for a fact no one

would chose to stay home, NO WAY, if your home it is cause your too

ill to work. I just cannot imagine staying home, I would be pulling

my hair out with boredom. So I go to work, some weeks I work too much

and like this week it caught up with me, but my husband is feeling it

too, we partied this last weekend and we had to laugh about how much

different it is now that we are getting older the way we cannot party

like we used to ha ha. We don't drink or anything all we did was

dance all night but man it caught up with us this week we have gone

to bed every night at 10:30 and slept like rocks ha ha, it has been

good though, to rest and not need pills to sleep! I pray that you all

will be able to get back to whatever it was or is you love most in

the work force. I know for me work is very important emotionally,

having something I have to do and being a part of the health care

team is really satisfying. I cannot imagine ever doing anything else,

as I truly feel my work is an important part of the patients stay in

the hospital. When I get my license to be a nurse I will even be

happier to be able to give more direct care to the patients.

I am scheduled to take the test on June 3rd to get my CNA

certificate, it has been expired since I let it lapse in CA when I

was ill I could not have done that job and the Unit secretary

position saved me from being unemployed, but having that CNA will

help me get in to the nursing program faster, it will be one part I

won't have to do again too. So that will be nice. I don't know yet if

I will use it as the pay is the same and the desk job is really allot

better, than being a CNA and working my butt off. Still not sure if I

want to use it at all, other than to advance my nursing career!

anyhow, you girls take the time if you can afford it and rest, and

when your all ready to get back to work I am sure you will do it, as

I doubt anyone really wants to stay home, unless they have small

children to keep them busy.

hugs

-C

In , " Pam " <nannapam3103@y...> wrote:

> Hey girl, I feel ya! Same thing happens here. I'm looking much

> better lately and my family is making me crazy with the " you need

to

> go back to work, why don't you go to school, why don't you blah

blah

> blah blah blah... " !

>

> Just wanted you to know you're not alone!

>

> Pam

>

>

> > Hey all, I just need to talk. I am doing some heavy detoxing

right

> > now, and it seems like my boyfriend and family memebers make me

> feel

> > like 'well why the hell are you doing that for' you are fine. Now

> > let me tell you, I walk around like I am feeling fine, and VERY

> > RARELY,if NEVER complain about how I feel if I am feeling crummy.

I

> > mean, I am improved alot, but I am not well.I will always do

> > detoxing methods to TRY and make myself feel better, and do

believe

> > every year that passes there are great improvements. BUT who

really

> > wants to hear me complain(I don't even like hearing it) So If I

am

> > in a flare, I 'put on my best face', and go. I just want to have

a

> > better life, and I strive to have better health, scince the

> medical

> > community has not offered me anything. I would not be this

> improved,

> > if it were not for MY willpower, MY research and determination to

> > get better. I consider myself a stronger person from all of this.

I

> > would still be bedridden if it were not for all my hard detoxing.

> > Why does it seem like my loved ones get mad at me??They are

> > like...eeeeehhh eat whatever you want, have ice cream ect.(I am

> > allergic to milk). It is like all I would want is a little

support

> > like 'that is great that you are taking charge of your health.

> > Granted, I made myself sick, now I have to make myself better,

and

> I

> > will not stop! I am just sick of their lack of support. BTY, I

try

> > and hide when I detox so i don't get slack. Am I doing something

> > wrong. I am so tired of negative energy that people are giving

off.

> > Thanks for the vent..TERRY