Re:Bad Idea--I'm not good at this.....

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Jane

Try to calm down as hard as it seems to do right now. You made a few

mistakes, but it is not your fault and no one here is going to be

mad at you for your posts thus far you have been kind and considerate.

Please try to relax about the numbness, after my explant and lift I

was numb for 2 years, it takes time for nerves to regenerate, and the

feeling may come back.

as for bad hair coloring nightmares, ha since I moved to Idaho I had

a few of those, it took me over 2 1/2 years to finally find the girl

that I trust with my hair, even when it was shedding like crazy, so

that can always be fixed. The best way to find out if a hairstylist

is good is to find someone with the hair you want most, then try to

get to that persons stylist, I did that, with someone at work, and it

worked out well. I would recomend a hair weave with a few different

shades in it rather than trying to just have one or two streaks, it

usually ends up looking really fake, just a few thoughts for you.

Try not to be too sad, it sounds like your body has been through a

ton of crap and if you let it all settle down I bet it will all get

better in time.

It took my hair time to come back, yours will eventually come back,

stop doing any type of surgery if you can, until it has fixed itself,

unless it is life threatening. I would avoid any unecesary fixes at

least cosmetic ones, for now.

hang in there

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In , Jane Doe <oceanlilly_csu@y...>

wrote:

> Yeah, that was some stupid advice I dispensed to Shari about

bankruptcy, huh?No need to worry, no more advise from the peanut

gallery.

>

> Just a warning, I'm feeling really bad today, so if you don't want

to hear my rant, stop reading a press " delete. "

>

> About the advice I gave to Shari, I gave the advice in hopes to

help, albeit a feeble attempt. It was sorry advice just as I have

made so my sorry unalterable mistakes with my own decisions.

>

> It was my decision to get breast implants, really bad idea as well

as believing the oral surgeon in 99 who told me I had a growth in my

gum that was never there, now I have nerve damage in my lower right

chin/ lower right lip.I just let him cut right into me, no thoughts

about seeking at least a second opinion.I have nerve damage as a

result--not enough to ruin my life or anything, just another dumb

decision to live with.

>

> I also have nerve damage in my breasts from my revision surgery(in

02) to match my chin/lip.I did not have nerve damage until AFTER my

May 02 surgery.My entire breast, including the bottom part--along the

crease is numb-- and I do me NUMB.I wonder if this " just happens " to

some women or was it my choice in surgeons, in other words did he do

something wrong? When I asked him about the numbness, he said, and I

quote, " I have no explanation for this. " Maybe he's right, they're

are no explanations, just unfortunate mishaps.

>

> Again, blind allegiance to another M.D., I began injecting myself

with HGH injections last 7/03 not even CONSIDERING the risks, I just

asked the doctor, " is this safe? " she said " yes " and on that note, I

was good to go.In my flesh that needle went, day after day until it

lead me to the ER.Now in addition to the surgeries I undergone, I now

have even MORE hair loss--at least 60%.I can see my scalp now. How

charming.

>

> I never THOUGHT things like this happen. I was naive just as I am

naive to dispense advice to Shari about finances. The only thing I

know about money is how to spend it.I've never had to earn a damn

thing in my life, it's all been done for me.

>

> Yet another brilliant decision I made the other day was to get a

highlight streak(a thing strip in the front) in my hair. I thought

this can't hurt, right?It will look cool I though, I was wrong. The

color they put in was yellowish blonde--really gross. So I contacted

the salon in hopes they would honor their word and fix the mess, but

they never got back to me so I went to another salon today and this

idiot just put light color brown right over it. It was not covered

well and now it looks " ashy. " I've cried all day and I'm so upset I

have diarrhea. Why couldn't I just well enough alone? My natural

virgin hair color is pretty. Now I have this freak streak in my hair

in front and more than half my hair gone.Why? Because I got

implants/explants/(revisions because of the darn implants) and

injected myself with HGH hormones.I've paid a very dear price for not

using my head. What on Earth am I thinking to dispense advice to

others? My heart was in the right place but evidently, not my

> head.

>

> On Wednesday, I have an appointment with ANOTHER dermatologist

about my telogen effluvium, if she's says I won't get my hair back,

I'm DONE.This is just too devastating. There's no way I can get

through law school this fall like this.This has made me so full of

despair and anxiety that my cognitive function has decreased

immensely.

>

> I prayed to God, but evidently He doesn't care.

>

>

> halvey70@a... wrote:

> no need to worry - I would NEVER consider running up bills and

doing that

>

> shari

>

>

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--- In , Jane Doe <oceanlilly_csu@y...>

wrote:

> Thanks Patty.

> The truth is I would like to believe in God, but it's hard because

I've been hardend by life's difficulties and the state of the world.

Most of my life I've felt exactly as you do. But, when my husband

left me out in the middle of no where with no job or money, on a farm

that needed much work, in a house that was litterally falling apart,

with heaps of garbage left by tennants and with a young child who has

special needs, not to mention defective implants that needed to come

out, I decided to start talking to God. That didn't mean I believed

anyone would listen or hear, it just meant that I was talking. It's

the old " fake it 'till you make it " technique from the 12 step programs.

>I also can't imagine God, who He is, WHERE is He? Who made Him, that

type of stuff.

I don't think anyone can imagine God. Many religions try but my

belief is that God is much larger than mere humans can imagine. I

don't believe that God fits into the box of any certain religion or

that any certain religion has a " handle " on what/who God is.

> I envy those with faith and certainly hope there is a God because

the idea that there is not one, is an awful thought.

I've tried life not believing and believing. It's much more

comfortable to believe. It's a conscience desicion that you have to

make. You just decide to believe and " Just do it! " That doesn't mean

that all your prayers will be answered and miracles will happen but it

does make life easier for me. And, perhaps as a result of my somewhat

faithful talking to God, many of my prayers have become realities.

Sincerely,

Jade