Daryl

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Daryl I agree 100% with Crickett, I mean a real man would be there

for you and not run to someone else for sex. I have had days in the

beginning of my marriage where I was in bed so sick and my husband

just held me and was there to shop, do laundry, make beds, whatever

needed to be done, even now he is there to do things when I cannot

for whatever reason. That is what a man is supposed to do, my first

husband was a creep, he cheated on me for years, and was a sex

addict. I put up with it because I had low self esteem, you need to

pick yourself up and show him that it is not your fault and that he

cannot blame his selfishness on your illness. But you cannot be a

victim, don't expect pity, you should not even want his pity, be

strong!

-C

In , " cricket5643000 "

<cricket5643000@y...> wrote:

> I am so glad that you our back on line with us. It was good talking

> to you the other night I just wish it had been under better

> circumstances.

>

> I can tell you this. You will feel better by taking positive baby

> steps. Taking back control, and not acting like the victim.

> When my husband walked out on me. I cryed for a couple of weeks

> (pity party) and than I went and got box's, I packed up all his

> crap, I called the attonory, I filed for divorce.

> You did nothing wrong except get sick. I know that you say he is a

> wonderful man. But a REAL MAN would not run out on his sick wife

and

> child. I had to come to relize that my was a nice guy, but he

> was not a MAN. These guys really need to grow up. Life is not

> perfect and stuff goes wrong. When you are a grow up you have to

> learn to face the bad stuff HEAD ON. What is so sad, is that these

> guys will always be runners. Where all of this has made me stronger

> and wiser, and I can look at myself in the mirror an know that I

did

> ever thing I could, I gave it my all. I feel sorry for them.

> You are going to get your health back and you are going to have a

> wonderful life and move on. Your husband in a couple of years will

> regret what he has done and this will stay with him for the rest of

> his life. When his son is around 16 and asks his dad what happened,

> he's going to have to look him in the eye and tell his son that he

> left you guys because you were sick. Talk about losing the repect

of

> your child.

>

> Daryl, look in the yellow pages for an attonory. Most will see you

> the first time with out a charge. Go to a couple before you decied.

> take your medical records with you. I don't care how much your

> husband tells you that he is going to help you not to worry. All

> this changes TRUST ME ON THIS, You need to make sure that you and

> your son are taken care of. IN WRITTING from the courts. Because

you

> have not been married 10 years you will not get spoual support for

> very long, unless you can prove that you are disabled. You need a

> good attorny to do this.

>

> Please Please Please don't put your furture and your son's furture

> in the hands of the man that walked out on you and your son.

> As you can see, his word means nothing.

> I am sorry for being so blunt. But this is to important not to be.

>

>

> Honey start taking your baby steps, Call an attorney today.

>

> Love Cricket