to darryl: here's a picture of my son, Quinn

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Dear Darryl,

I hope you don't mind me butting in on this, but I still think you

should get an attorney. Getting an attorney doesn't mean that you

have to go through with a divorce. I think it will show your

husband that you are strong and mean business. My mom and step-dad

were just on the verge of divorcing after 15 years of marriage. My

loving stepdad who has always been very gentle wiped out my mom's

bank account for spite. Really, you can't ever be sure what someone

is capable of.

My mom ended up having to get an attorney and actually did file,

and they just got back together. (She got the money back). You

could actually file for a separation which might be good for both of

you. I would gather all my medical files and everything else you

would need for an attorney.

From everything you have shared, he seems to think this is all

about him. How he feels, what he wants, etc. How would the

situation be if you had terminal cancer, etc? Would he still think

of you as a sister? You're not perfect anymore because you are sick?

Sit back and think. What do you want Darryl? I am so very pro-

marriage but I do think you need to take charge in some way. I see

that you and Patty have been talking a lot. Maybe she can help you.

Personally, I think he should be begging you to stay with him.

You sound like a very beautiful woman who has so much to offer. I

will keep you and your little boy in my prayers. As a child of

divorce, I hate to see it, but I also hate to see such a lovely

person being mistreated.

hugs,

Beth