standing

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In physical therapy I learned to stand with my feet as wide

apart as my hips, then to bend my knees slightly, and 'pretend'

I am zipping up a jacket which helps remind me to straighten

my back. This pretty much comes naturally now, but there are

times I forget.

If conversations are appearing to become lengthy, and at work

especially that happens, so I make a hand gesture and 'invite' the

other person over to continue our chat " in a more comfortable

place " - usually one of our small conference rooms or alcove areas

where there are seats and a table.

I also offer to get coffee or a coke for the other person when I do

this...all was suggested not only by a PT, but by a therapist with

whom I worked on hidden disability issues in the workplace. The

therapist explained that taking time to talk to someone shows

interest, and the offering to get coffee or coke showed manners and

no one would even notice we weren't standing and conversing.

I have utilized this method at parties as well with good results and

so many women say " I'm so happy to sit down, my feet are killing me "

and kick off their heels. Oh yes,I am remembered well! :-)