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[Guest guest]

I am so sorry to hear about your frustrations, but you aren't alone.

My son is much younger, only 7, but he too has gone from something

being ok one day to the next day having a complete melt down over the

same thing. I get upset because I can see the frustration in my son's

eyes when he is hurried, but he just can't pass over his rituals. I

wish there was an easy answer to the question of your son's watch. My

son's OCD revolves around how things feel...he really isn't concerned

with germs or the like. If everything feels right the first time,

then the day goes fairly well...but if it takes a few times to get

the right feel, the day is usually ruined before it really begins.

Maybe the stress of your son's classes is making things a little bit

worse, but there really isn't any logic to OCD. I hope that you can

atleast find some support here. There may not be an easy answer, but

sometimes having someone to talk to can atleast take the edge off.

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> Dear Fellows

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> I am new to the group. The reason why I joined is that my son,

who is 23 years old, suffers from OCD. I've a feeling that the answer

to his problem is not difficult and might be in one sentence told to

him, but provided it's convincing.

> The problem started 3 years back when he felt that putting on his

hand watch exerts a feeling of anxiety and doesn't allow him to think

well, it tightens on his arm and he needs to be freed. Strange,

before this new feeling he had, he used to wear his watch without any

problem, but apparently as his studies became more difficult and

apparently started to exert much pressure on him so it might have

triggered his OCD. The same applied to wearing a shirt as it

tightened on his neck. We bought a book called " Brain Lock: free

yourself from obsessive compulsive disorder " where it shows on a

picture inside that there are 2 doors one called damned if he enters

while the other is also damned if he doesn't. There is satin standing

behind him compelling him to enter in either doors. It seems that

both doors are not the choice which is rather perplexing and it

really torments him and made him suffer. For one thing, to put it on

makes him more anxious so he can't think well (when he

> submit exams, he doesn't put his watch on and he checks the time

from his mobile phone) , whereas if he doesn't wear it, it's also a

problem simply because everybody wears a watch so he feels he's

crazy. Further, if he subsides to these crazy thoughts it applies to

other things so he will become more and more isolated from society,

for instance he doesn't like to drive his car as it might run into an

accident, etc.... His psychiatrist (one of them) thinks he has a weak

personality. His mother is convinced that once he finishes his

studies and acquires his B.SC., no more stresses on him and therefore

his OCD will not influence his life. I advised him to forget about

checking the time and he can equally forget about the watch forever.

He is not convinced because the same attitude can be applied to other

experiences in life and he wants to be like everybody else.

Incidentally, I myself have an OCD (I wash my hands and keys often

when I feel that I made them dirty by other

> things belonging to other people). But my son said my problem is

much easier than his and is called OCPD. For washing my belongings

cancel out my OCD and it isn't damned. Actually I feel I have no

problem whatsoever for it doesn't stop my life at all. If I don't use

other people belongings, then I don't wash my hands all day through.

It's a matter of getting disgusted (wrong idea) but has to do with

other people. For instance, I hate to shake hands with other people.

If I feel they are angry, I do it then rush to wash my hands. But

afterwards, my life goes very smoothly.

> So now my question is whether to tell him: wear your watch even

if it distracts him or else don't wear it but suffer the consequence

that it might be equally valid for other things. The book says there

is a third door by forgetting completely about the issue and try to

distract yourself by a lot of reading, sports, etc,…So perhaps as his

mother and doctor claim once he finishes his studies, he will assign

to every item its real value.

> Can one tell me how he can get out of his thoughts and manages

his life. Help pls if you can.

> A tormented father: Adel Ezz

> Adel_ezz1000@...

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[Guest guest]

Hello everyone just want to know was booking open at exactly 2.30 and was there a special link or the usual epay site. Thanks.