sister interfering

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My mother has mylogenous luekemia and she is terminal. she will pass

away in a few months. She has come to terms with it and understands the

disease and treatment options. She just wants to enjoy everyday to the

fullest and be at rest in her home. The problem is my one sister is

hassling her to go to Mayo Clinic for alternative, experimental

therapies and my mother doesn't want to. How do I get my sister to

accept my mothers wishes and accept that she will die soon? It seems as

if my sister is trying to 'save' her.

[Guest guest]

I understand completely! My mother, who passed from Parkinsons recently,

made her wishes for no intervention well known. Nonetheless, when the time

came, I couldn't bear not to try to get her to drink some water. And when

she spiked a fever I tried to badger the nurses into giving her an

antibiotic. It took all of them, and my sisters and her sister, reminding me

gently but persistently that that is exactly what Mom had wanted (guess if I

have advice, it would be to follow that model!). I had no idea how hard it

would be when the time came to just respect her wishes and step back! It's

just terrible losing your Mom and my heart goes out to you. You have a

cooler head than a lot of us, but this has to be as painful for you as for

your sister.

Th whole process gave me a profound appreciation for how much our death is

part of the way we live our life. My mother's passing had so much dignity in

that it was just as she wanted it to be -- natural, no artificial

intervention, a complete acceptance that death comes to us all. It was

instructive.

>From: " kmarie225 " <kmarie225@...>

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>Subject: [ ] sister interfering

>Date: Tue, 08 May 2007 22:49:46 -0000

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>My mother has mylogenous luekemia and she is terminal. she will pass

>away in a few months. She has come to terms with it and understands the

>disease and treatment options. She just wants to enjoy everyday to the

>fullest and be at rest in her home. The problem is my one sister is

>hassling her to go to Mayo Clinic for alternative, experimental

>therapies and my mother doesn't want to. How do I get my sister to

>accept my mothers wishes and accept that she will die soon? It seems as

>if my sister is trying to 'save' her.

>

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