Behavior

December 21, 1999

Karin,

I agree with Margaret.....what you say makes me worry because I can see

being like this and as you say " ds proofing " I have already done some

" proofing (as I call it). " I just recently started putting some things

back into 's room because I was feeling quilty for it being pretty bare

compared to his twin's room. We have had to remove the door stopper, also his

bed rail (because he takes it and uses it as a weapon) surprisingly he hasn't

fallen out of bed more then a few times. He ripped his boarder off his wall a

long time ago (his twin just did it a short while ago)...there isn't much in his

room (even tho he has the biggest room). We have only the light on the ceiling

because if we were to put a lamp in his room he would pull the cord (there is a

cable cord coming up thru the floor and he yanks on that all the time....I have

had to tie some fancy knots in it around his bed posts to stop him from pulling

on it). He DID have a night light but won't let it stay in the outlet. He

mostly has books in his room but even those keep disappearing (think they are

between his bed and the wall). We put a night side table in his room but I

don't know if its going to stay because we have found him buried under it a few

times (knocked it over onto himself....its a heavy one). Oh ya, he also ripped

his curtain apart. The rest of our house is pretty " proffed " as

well....I tied the one lamp that we have onto the table that we have it on. We

bought a stereo system that attaches to the wall....and have lights that attach

to the wall (the cords still get pulled tho).

Another question I have is about sleeping. has been really

difficult lately. He keeps banging the wall with his feet, laughing really loud

and even sometimes running back and forth in his room at all hours of the night.

Whenever I go into his room to put him back into bed he acts like I just woke

him up. I know that I use to sleep walk when I was younger (and still talk in

my sleep) BUT I don't think it was ever to this extent. Does anyone have any

ideas why he might be doing this? Is this normal? He is being so loud that he

is waking the other kids up....and its hard enough to get the girls to sleep. I

don't know how any of you can get your ds kids to sleep with their siblings

because I tried that and was so difficult that it was impossible....we

had to buy a house (moved 9 months ago) big enough for each of the kids to have

their own bedroom!!!

Over and Out

, mom to Nicala & ,ds (3) and (1)

January 26, 2002

a situation like this, i think a meeting should be held with the mother, is

she aware of how often these outbursts occur???? The next thing would be is

get her to talk to the childs doctor or whoever she has him under, as a

child this age, really may need something to calm him down, as if he is so

intense, other smaller children may be in danger. it is so very sad if this

is the case. it must be done carefully, as you do not want to humiliate the

mum, or cause her to not ask for help any more. Do not envy you at all.

Cheryl

behavior

Hi, I am the mother of a 11 year old daughtor with autism, she does

have some behavior problems but I have a question, is although my

child has what I call 'outburst', they are mangable, but there is

such a need in this area, Mobile Alabama for daycare providers to

extend services to specialneeds children, so I have talked to my sons

christian school, they have agreed to begin this ministry, but my

question is this, we had a mother come by who son attends a public

school here in Mobile, he is 15, seem to be maybe medium fuctioning

level, well she wanted us to assist her with afterschool care, the

bus would drop in off. I agreed, I am the head caretaker, The first 3

days was typical, but............ then the next few days, to say the

least,,,, complete disaster he went into a rage, nothing , nothing

would calm him,he was throwing things, trying to psysically beat up

anyone he could see, but the second he seen his mom, he calmed down,

now in my opioion If there would have been a adjusting period, should

it not have been when he first came, the change of routine.. to say

the least he distroyed the facility, broke windows, busted t.v, vcr.

light fixures, blacken the principals eye, my question is is this

normal of a older autistic child, I am very active at my childs

school which is a public school for specialneeds, I have never seen

this, I called this childs dayschool, they said he is so aggresive

that they liturlly have a drill to prepare for his ourburst, which

are common, any suggestions would help, We want to help parents but

with a child with such aggresivness it creates a danger for me, the

other childen and parents, coming and going.I have come to learn he

has been put out of the ymca, the public school afterschool program,

and his mom has had to have perimedics called due to injuries he put

on her. any suggestions

January 27, 2002

Hi.

My answer may not go over well, but I have to say that there are some kids who

just don't fit well into an included classroom or school. Kids who are violent

and pose a danger to other kids need to have an alternative learning situation.

If my Hannah turned into a violent, aggressive teenager I would be the first to

say that she needs something different. I would not want to put another child or

teacher in danger.

I used to babysit a young boy with fragile X Syndrome. He turned 13 and started

to have some violent outbursts and I just couldn't physically handle him,

especially with other small children around and my own special needs children. I

had to stop babysitting him, although I had grown to love him dearly. I just

couldn't put the other kids at risk and his parents were not co-operative in

supporting me in trying to manage his outbursts.

Inclusion is wonderful and neccessary, but there comes a point when some kids

may need an alternative if attempts to make the situation successful have

failed.

Andy

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