Toilet training

[Guest guest]

This is what I did back then - the point is to make it HARDER to do wrong

that right. It also teaches her responsibility for her actions.

Sure, your daughter sees it has an inconvenience to interrupt what ever she

was doing. My daughter would drop her soiled underwear wherever and and keep

going on her merry way.

So this is what I did.

Hand -over-hand - I made her pick up the solied underwear, take it to the

toilet, dunk and risne out antil it was clean enough to go in the wash. she

would have to carry the soiled clothes to the laundry hamper (with me

escorting). Then, hand over-hand, she had to get a container of soapy water and

paper

towels or rag and clean up the spot where the mess happened (usually rug!).

Then back to disosing dirty water in toliet, cleaning up cleaning materials.

She had to clean herself (not ME just washing her, but herself doing it, hand

over hand again). If sheets are involved SHE has to strip them down and carry

to the laundry and put on a new set.

There was a LOT of whining involved and it is VERY time consuming - but the

point is that SHE has to be involved physically every step of the way. If you

are dumping her in the bath and washing her yourself, she is " winning " by

getting extra attention from Mommy while she passively enjoys the physical

attention. But if SHE has to physically do EVERY step it's not so much fun.

After several incidents like this she'll begin to realize that the clean up

part is a real hassle and puts a big dent in her day doing theings that are

not fun for HER - and she'll focus on doing it right in the first place.

Note that I'm not yelling or reprimanding her at any step - I just keep

emphasizing - when you make a mess YOU have to clean it up.

- Becky

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