Re: Social Services called [Help Needed]

October 1, 2008

Hi Kim,

What a terrible situation to be in - sorry I cannot help - different

country. Will keep you in my thoughts that all turns out alright.

Keep smiling

Jan, mother of Trent 24yo w/DS from the LandDownUnder

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Of Doll, Kim L

Sent: Thursday, 2 October 2008 1:16 PM

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Subject: Social Services called [Help Needed]

Importance: High

Hi everyone. I copied a number of groups so I can get as much help as

possible. Social Services showed up at my house today. It appears that

someone had said that I was harming my child. I have a son, Jordan, who

is 13 y/o with DS and PDD-NOS. When I asked who called I was told that

I was not able to have that information. When I asked why they were

called I was told that someone had said that my son had scratches on his

back. When I told the person that Easter Seals must handle my son when

he does not get off the bus, this person asked what did I mean by Handle

my son and I told her that it means that they physically help my son get

off the bus. This means that my son may be scratched by their handling.

I also told her that last week at Open House I noticed that they had my

son sitting next to a student that had scratched my son in the past and

that it was discussed with the YMCA and the students' parents last year.

This child had hurt my child in the past but that this was this child's

way of trying to get my sons attention. I had asked them to move my son

or move the other student. I assumed this was done. Yesterday I

received a call from the school because my son was sick. I went to pick

him up and noticed that my son had scratches on his face and that he did

not have them when the bus picked him up in the morning. So I asked to

talk to the principle and told him about the scratches and the Open

House and what I had told the teacher. He said to write him a letter.

So I started to write the letter this morning and took pictures of my

son yesterday and circled the scratches and now all of a sudden I have

Social Services at my house. I told this to the person from Social

Services. I copied the Communications Log from the school where I asked

about the scratches. I printed the letter that I mean to send to the

principle with the pictures that I took. All she asked of me was to

take my son to the doctor and get the doctor to sign some paperwork.

Could this be because I talked to the principle? What should I do about

this? Call and discuss the issue with him? File a complaint with

someone else? Who else? Please help!!!

~ Thanks!

Kim

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October 2, 2008

It sure does sound like the school is trying to cover it's butt and that

something is going on there that you might not even know about. It is good

that

you had the communication log etc to show them. At least you have proof

that this was a concern of YOURS! Just listening to the story as an outside it

sounds like the school is hiding something. Hopefully SS will see the same

thing. I know someone on this list will have more useful information with

background knowledge. Hang in there.

Loree

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October 2, 2008

Kim,

Who did Social Service allege was the abuser? If it is unknown, then every

person in a care taker role is being questioned like you were. If you

believe you are listed as the alleged abuser and you feel it's malicious,

then you can talk to the CPS worker and find out how that can be

investigated and someone possibly being charged for falsely reporting.

Anyway, when you take pictures, start with a close up picture and keep

moving back until you can see the injury on your child (his face must be in

photo). Take him to the doctor and have medical documentation. Take the

pictures with you to the doctors. Make copies of the communication log (or

if something significant is shared with you, send in a new one and keep that

documentation to yourself).

CPS workers hate false reports or when reports fabricate and fluff up their

report. Just cooperate-and ask that you be notified with their findings.

Do not expect them to release that information until they have done all they

need.

October 3, 2008

Several years ago I was turned in by a worker that was only in my house 3 times.

It was obvious that she was the one who turned me in because she was the only

one that could have said what she did. What gave it away was she commented that

Ben had some scratches on his back and she had helped with his bath.

It was a surprise when the worker showed up and I commented to her that Ben's

brother and he fight sometimes. They are boys. She commented that they have to

go out on ANY complaint within 36 hours. In a roundabout way she made me feel

not to worry.

My behaviourist wrote a note, anyone who knows you well and can vouch for your

character. I know that it was a maliciously done thing.

I was also told to drop it because nothing would ever come of it and it would be

put on the bottom of a file someplace and forgotten about.

Try not to worry too much.

M.