Guest guest Posted December 10, 2008 Report Share Posted December 10, 2008 http://davehingsburger.blogspot.com/ So how many animals can you fit into a condom? One cock and a couple of hares. Yes that's the level of humour we men fall to when drinking beer in each other's company. We met Nigel Divine and Storey at the pub here in London. and I are presenting at the same workshop tomorrow on the subject of sexuality, so we began swapping stories and stories became jokes and is the master of the quick joke. As is the nature of such evenings the topics became more serious and we talked about relationships. , a man with Down Syndrome, talked a lot about his love for his fiance and shared a bit of his journey towards adulthood. Like all good speakers he didn't want to give away too much of what he was going to say the next day. spoke frankly about having Down Syndrome and told a story about how he first learned that he had a disability and what that insight did for him. He has decided that Down Syndrome is something he needs to be proud of, others need to learn about and he has a mission to ensure that he is never silent about what it means to live in the world with a disability. I sat in awe listening to him talk. This guy may be the most grounded person with a disability I've ever met. He is utterly and completely plainspoken about his life, his dreams and the challenges he faces. There is no self pity in him and he would recieve pity with distain. Not only does see himself clearly he sees others clearly as well. He told a horrible story about walking his girlfriend (who often stays over in his flat where he lives - alone) back to the bus stop. A car sped by, the window was down so and could hear the music play. Someone in the car saw him and yelled out, louder than the music, " Mongol!! " " I was gobsmacked, " said and you could hear the vestiges of pain in his voice as he remembered that evening. The evening he was walking with his girlfriend, the evening that was warm enough for summer breezes, the evening when some passing stranger tossed cruetly out the car window. " Some people are just cruel and mean, there is no excuse for it. " When he said that I grabbed his arm in agreement. No more making excuses for these jerks. No more with the myth that 'they need education'. No more. It's time for accountability. Seeing that we had much in common we swapped stories about being stared at, about the rude treatment by others. It was as if we both needed to say 'Hey, You, World, Get It or Get Out. " Joe, and Nigel had a few pints and I drank my green tea, we moved away from the subject of the casual brutality of others - why - because it became boring. Because what they did couldn't affet what we do. Because the behaviour of others became a place where the two of us could connect, where we could nod in agreement at the horrid behaviour of assholes, but that's all it was. That man who hollared out what called the M word, tried to hurt . Well, he failed. was angered. Proud people do not crumble in the face of bigotry, mean people can't throw stones high enough to hit the heart of someone who lies with dignity and integrity. I am more because I met . I suspect he has that affect on many. Even after a beer or two and a bad joke. -- Aussie Leis- mum to , Natasha, and Liliana I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end. Margaret Thatcher Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 10, 2008 Report Share Posted December 10, 2008 Our kids are not made of stone, that's fer shure! Not a darn thing wrong with their hormones and we parents must learn to live with that. That's why my carries condoms in her purse. Every six months or so I replace them and for the past few years, the old package is always unopened, but you never know. It's not just pregnancy I worry about but all the nasty STDs out there. We have had several friends die of AIDS and understands why using condoms is important should she decide to become sexually active. sounds like a great guy. I've always told that having DS is something that makes her better than average, not worse. I truly believe that if everyone had 47 chromosomes this would be a better world. granny On Wed, Dec 10, 2008 at 5:48 AM, Leis <lisa@...> wrote: > http://davehingsburger.blogspot.com/ > > So how many animals can you fit into a condom? One cock and a couple of > hares. Yes that's the level of humour we men fall to when drinking beer > in each other's company. We met Nigel Divine and Storey at the > pub here in London. and I are presenting at the same workshop > tomorrow on the subject of sexuality, so we began swapping stories and > stories became jokes and is the master of the quick joke. > > As is the nature of such evenings the topics became more serious and we > talked about relationships. , a man with Down Syndrome, talked a > lot about his love for his fiance and shared a bit of his journey > towards adulthood. Like all good speakers he didn't want to give away > too much of what he was going to say the next day. > > spoke frankly about having Down Syndrome and told a story about > how he first learned that he had a disability and what that insight did > for him. He has decided that Down Syndrome is something he needs to be > proud of, others need to learn about and he has a mission to ensure that > he is never silent about what it means to live in the world with a > disability. I sat in awe listening to him talk. This guy may be the most > grounded person with a disability I've ever met. He is utterly and > completely plainspoken about his life, his dreams and the challenges he > faces. There is no self pity in him and he would recieve pity with distain. > > Not only does see himself clearly he sees others clearly as well. > He told a horrible story about walking his girlfriend (who often stays > over in his flat where he lives - alone) back to the bus stop. A car > sped by, the window was down so and could hear the music > play. Someone in the car saw him and yelled out, louder than the music, > " Mongol!! " > > " I was gobsmacked, " said and you could hear the vestiges of pain > in his voice as he remembered that evening. The evening he was walking > with his girlfriend, the evening that was warm enough for summer > breezes, the evening when some passing stranger tossed cruetly out the > car window. > > " Some people are just cruel and mean, there is no excuse for it. " > > When he said that I grabbed his arm in agreement. No more making excuses > for these jerks. No more with the myth that 'they need education'. No > more. It's time for accountability. > > Seeing that we had much in common we swapped stories about being stared > at, about the rude treatment by others. It was as if we both needed to > say 'Hey, You, World, Get It or Get Out. " > > Joe, and Nigel had a few pints and I drank my green tea, we > moved away from the subject of the casual brutality of others - why - > because it became boring. Because what they did couldn't affet what we > do. Because the behaviour of others became a place where the two of us > could connect, where we could nod in agreement at the horrid behaviour > of assholes, but that's all it was. > > That man who hollared out what called the M word, tried to hurt > . Well, he failed. was angered. Proud people do not > crumble in the face of bigotry, mean people can't throw stones high > enough to hit the heart of someone who lies with dignity and integrity. > > I am more because I met . > > I suspect he has that affect on many. > > Even after a beer or two and a bad joke. > -- > > Aussie Leis- mum to , Natasha, and Liliana > > I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end. > > Margaret Thatcher > > > -- Not for ourselves but for the whole world we were born Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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