Re: OT..'s 9 mo pics/Daycare guilt.

[Guest guest]

Dana,

Finding a daycare you trust is soooo very difficult. Interview like crazy and

then " drop in " unannounced to see how things go on a regular basis.

loves going to " school " - she loves the interaction with the other kids and

she adores her teachers. She is always talking about her friends at school

and since she doesn't have any full-time sibs I like that she interacts with

kids at her school. She is always thrilled to see her momma at the end of the

day and we have a great time in the late afternoon/evening. I love my work as

well - it gives me a real sense of fulfillment and I'm not sure I could do

without it at this point!

It will probably be difficult at first, but if you find a place you trust

then you will adjust with time.

Good luck!

Marci (Mom to )

Oklahoma

[Guest guest]

oh what an adorable child you have..such a great smile..as for the daycare thing, can't help you there, since tucker was born i think i've worked a total of 5 months..and he's 17 months now...i hate leaving him!! at one point i even ran a daycare out of my home..but couldn't handle the other kids..!! i gotta break this habit tho..money is tight!! anyways..good luck to your daycare thing and i'm sure you'll do a better job than me!!

brenda

mom of tucker

OT..'s 9 mo pics/Daycare guilt.

Hi everyone,Just thought I'd send a couple of new pics of . (I love seeing baby pics..hehe). Also, I need advise. I'm returning to work shortly and I am DEVASTATED!! I am currently looking for daycare but feel extreme guilt/fear/sadness over leaving him. Can anyone tell me if this will ever pass.... or am I doomed to spend my whole life crying at work?? sniff, sniff.

Dana (mom2)Ont.For more plagio info

[Guest guest]

Dana,

Oh my goodness is a cutie pie! He is so adorable I just want to squeeze

him! I had to put in daycare at 3 months old- talk about major

guilt! I think that if you find a good daycare, with caring teachers (really

feel them out and talk to the Director) and with a lot of age appropriate

toys, smells clean, looks clean (daily sterilization going on) they give you

daily reports, etc., will do just fine. did cry when we left

(this started at about 9-10 months) but they would distract him and within

seconds he was done (we would linger in the hall to hear how long he took to

stop). I pop in on occassion at different times- used to do it more

frequently when he was younger and not so clingy- especially for lunch- but

now he rarely cries when we leave- he loves the playground outside, they

watch Blues Clues, they color, they socialize, they play with balls and all

sorts of toys and the room is decorated like a classroom with lots of colors

and objects of animals and letters on the wall (which we have to point at and

talk about a lot!). Do whatever you need to do in terms of making you feel

secure that is well taken care of- including writing down notes of

instructions, asking lots of questions about how his day went, etc. Good

luck and try to keep those tissues handy for a bit- I can remember rushing

through traffic just to get to my little guy for that huge hug- its hard but

it gets easier. Keep us posted!

' Mom

[Guest guest]

Dana- my best advice is to find a place you are comfortable with and that is close to your work so you can go and see him stop by and all that good stuff- having him closer will make it easier when you are rushing out of work to get to him and also then you have the car rides together- of course this comes from a women who has always commuted over 40 minutes to work one way for all I know you work 2 minutes from your home. I am home now and am so thankful that I am but there are days when I think it would be easier to work- also atleast you have that excited smile and hug to look forward to when I would leave at the drop in center at our DR's office he would wave bye bye to me and when I would come back to get him (usually atleast an hour or so later) he would look up at me half smile then continue to play-he could have cared less! I am sure there will be lots of tears-it must be very hard but you are doing what is best and everyone will be okay- I promise. My best friend Jenn took prozac for 3 months when she returned to work it was too hard for her and she cried every day the prozac really helped her and now that she has adjusted she is off themeds and everyone is doing great. So think about that and talk to your DR But I am sure you will do great Here is a day care link I think I have more If you want them let me know!

Lots of hugs-

Beck

Click here: How to find good daycare