looking for wisdom - again

June 19, 2012

Folks,

My girl is 16. Liking boys did not come in late. At all. She has no filter, so

if she likes you, you know it. We try to help her try to figure out navigating

the challenging world of social nuances and high school life, but it is tricky.

She is such a pleasant kid most of the time, but this is a tough issue.

She has an iPad. She is very adept with it and the family computer. She is in

love with Facebook. In love. It is her means to access the social world she is

rarely a part of and wishes to be included in, but isn't.

Here's the problem - she 'texts' kids too often - and it's almost always boys.

She wants to connect with them. One in particular became angry about it

yesterday after she 'texted' him 3 times. He wrote to my cell and told me he

wanted her to stop. I told her what he said and that I would take away her iPad

if she didn't. She listened. Today, she did it again. He texted me and I took a

look at her FB messages to him to see how many times she had 'texted' him. (She

texts random letters because she doesn't want to take the time to write real

words and she doesn't spell very well.)

She had texted him 2 times. He wrote back to her: " F*** Y** B****! " (I'm leaving

out the letters, but he did not.)

I was so sickened by this. Of course, he didn't tell me what he wrote to her. I

wrote back to him, and tried to call him. Shockingly (not), he wouldn't take my

call, nor has he responded via email or text.

My girl is lonely - I know I've said this before. She loves her classmates so

much, and wants to be involved too. Does anyone have any thoughts for me? She's

in 4-H, church stuff, Special Olympics...any number of things, but she does not

get invited to anything hardly...Meetings are only once/wk or monthly. I just

don't seem to know how to broaden her social life.

Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

Eleanor

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