Guest guest Posted August 15, 2002 Report Share Posted August 15, 2002 I purchased this book, but it is on a relatively high level and although I haven't actually read it all yet - seems to deal with feelings and relationships etc for older high functioning people. Maybe what I'm looking for doesn't exist but I figure I might as well ask! As a single Dad with a daughter 10 ( " moderately high " functioning but mentally about 4)expecting her her first period within the next year, I'm wondering if there is a book out there to explain puberty and her body changes but written on a very low level - something like the " Potty " training books. Has anybody seen or used such a book? Have any of the schools helped? Not quite sure how to approach the subject and what materials to use that match what she is capable of understanding. I know I must start soon or the experience could be frightening. With out getting too personal - is it usually the mother explaining by example? Any suggestions appreciated! Loren (dad to Lara) puberty/sexuality Can't remember if this was my group where someone needed more puberty and sexuality info but I just noticed there is a new book out about this subject at futurehorizons-autism.com for those of you that may be interested. Lyn -- __________________________________________________________ Sign-up for your own FREE Personalized E-mail at Mail.com http://www.mail.com/?sr=signup Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2002 Report Share Posted August 15, 2002 Contact your daughter's school. Our daughter's program includes these topics in her curriculum and the faculty are very experienced at presenting this information at the student's level. They may be able to let you borrow materials to help your daughter through this experience. I admire your strength and courage as a single dad and your interest in your daughter's well being shows such caring. Joan puberty/sexuality Can't remember if this was my group where someone needed more puberty and sexuality info but I just noticed there is a new book out about this subject at futurehorizons-autism.com for those of you that may be interested. Lyn -- __________________________________________________________ Sign-up for your own FREE Personalized E-mail at Mail.com http://www.mail.com/?sr=signup Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2012 Report Share Posted April 29, 2012 Ugh...for those of you with older kids (or maybe not) how have you addressed the whole sexuality issue. Mac is 14 years old, in 8th grade, has Ds and has been desperate for a girlfriend for several years now. Unfortunately, this probably isn't something that is going to happen anytime soon--especially in our very small community. He is pretty much fully developed, and very proud of it, physcially in regards to hair growth, voice change, etc... He has been shaving for a year now, too. About 4 months ago a neighbor alerted me to him saying something inappropriate on someone's Facebook page. When I checked his Facebook I found that he had written " nice boobs " on a female body builder's professional page. When I looked at the page it was a picture of a very attractive, young woman in a bathing suit and she did, indeeded, have " nice boobs " . :-) I was relieved that it wasn't someone he knew. Together we went and deleted the comment and we talked about appropriate and inap propriate things to write on Facebook (or anywhere) and I would say which is a good thing to say " Pretty hair " or " love your butt " . I tried to be tactful in my words for the bad choices, but wanted to get my point across. A few weeks later when I walked in his room and found him on his laptop (where I had set up some parental controls, but obviously not enough) I found him looking at some very explicit pornography. I over-reacted at first, but then calmed down and we talked about those sites aren't appropriate for teenagers and they could get him in trouble, etc... I then took his laptop away (just for a day) while I figured out how to put in more restrictions. So...that problem was solved for the most part. Tonight, I walk into his room and find him on his iPod which he uses all the time, but I could tell he was up to something as he quickly hid it. I asked to see it and he said, " no " . I told him I wanted to see it and he said " I turn it off " . After a minute or two of struggling I get it and turn it back on and open up his Safari app and find again some hard core (to me, but I'm not an expert) pornography sites. I, again, probably didn't handle it right off the bat and started yelling and then crying. I calmed myself down and went back in and told him again, that looking at sites of naked people, doing sexual things with their body parts wasn't good for teenagers. MAYBE it would something for him to look at when he is out of high school, but for now I didn't want him looking at those kinds of things on the internet on his computer of his iPod. I told him I turned off (until he figures out how to turn it back on) his internet access, I removed Safari and his app store until the weekend and then we would talk about putting them back on. I need to find out how to set up some parental controls on there for websites...I guess I did the basics, but that, I guess is for music and videos, not internet websites. My big question is how have all of you handled these issues? I thought dealing with the school was my most difficult task in raising my kids...until this. I don't want to over react, but I can't ignore it either. Mac is a wonderful kid...pleasant, kind, friendly, outgoing, etc... I understand in this way he is very typical to his 14 year old peers, but he isn't typical. I don't want him growing up to be a " pervert " or a " stalker " or doing/saying something inappropriate to the wrong person at the wrong time and end up in big trouble. HELP!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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