Re: 5 yr old manic episodes/rage

[Guest guest]

Noelle,

I am writing you while I am still upset over what is going on in my

own home. My son, who is 15, has awful fits of rage, which are usually

triggered by him stopping his medication. He is supposed to take

Rispirdol to help with aggression, etc. Have you tried that yet??

I understand how you are concerned about your son when he is older.

tom is several inches taller than me, heavier, and much stronger than

me. When he swings at me, I go flying. tonight he kicked me in the

stomache, punched my arm... and this is after his father had held him

down for 1/2 and hour until he calmed down enough and stopped fighting.

The problem: we were in control of the VCR and TV volume, and he wanted

to be.

Once again we called the police to help. There was no room for Tom to

be removed from here - and taking him to jail would only have given us a

few hours of respite, as he wouldnt be kept longer than it took to book

him. We have been trying to get him into a 'therapeutic' foster home (if

they even excist) but because we are a 2 parent family, and have such

wonderful coping skills( ya right!), we never seem to get the service

that we desperatly need!!

Has anyone taken the time to show you how to restrain him where it

takes the minimum effort from you, but he cant move??? Ask the case

worker, or someone to show you. It was once suggested that you try a

martial arts instructor. Basically, you should not be using that much

physical energy; you may be sitting on him (balanced on your knees), his

arms are either under him, or pulled behind his back, and his legs

crossed and held, or with your weight holding them (hand or body) so

that you dont get kicked.

Otherwise, I think you are doing the best that you can. You are

waiting for him to calm down, providing him with a supportive

environment, giving him the medical attention that he requires.

Keep reminding yourself - you are a great person - look how far you have

come!!

take care - I'm with you! wendy

[Guest guest]

Noelle,

I am writing you while I am still upset over what is going on in my

own home. My son, who is 15, has awful fits of rage, which are usually

triggered by him stopping his medication. He is supposed to take

Rispirdol to help with aggression, etc. Have you tried that yet??

I understand how you are concerned about your son when he is older.

tom is several inches taller than me, heavier, and much stronger than

me. When he swings at me, I go flying. tonight he kicked me in the

stomache, punched my arm... and this is after his father had held him

down for 1/2 and hour until he calmed down enough and stopped fighting.

The problem: we were in control of the VCR and TV volume, and he wanted

to be.

Once again we called the police to help. There was no room for Tom to

be removed from here - and taking him to jail would only have given us a

few hours of respite, as he wouldnt be kept longer than it took to book

him. We have been trying to get him into a 'therapeutic' foster home (if

they even excist) but because we are a 2 parent family, and have such

wonderful coping skills( ya right!), we never seem to get the service

that we desperatly need!!

Has anyone taken the time to show you how to restrain him where it

takes the minimum effort from you, but he cant move??? Ask the case

worker, or someone to show you. It was once suggested that you try a

martial arts instructor. Basically, you should not be using that much

physical energy; you may be sitting on him (balanced on your knees), his

arms are either under him, or pulled behind his back, and his legs

crossed and held, or with your weight holding them (hand or body) so

that you dont get kicked.

Otherwise, I think you are doing the best that you can. You are

waiting for him to calm down, providing him with a supportive

environment, giving him the medical attention that he requires.

Keep reminding yourself - you are a great person - look how far you have

come!!

take care - I'm with you! wendy