Do's and Don'ts from Dr. Fred Penzel

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone:

One of my favorite presenters whom I have been lucky enough to hear two

years in a row at the OCF conferences is Dr. Fred Penzel. I thought you

might like to read his handout of do's and don'ts (apologies to those who

have seen this already).

When you have a loved one in treatment

Don't - be responsible for their following treatment

- try to catch them doing compulsions

- show impatience with their rate of progress

- participate in symptoms

Do - try to see the person behind the symptoms

- give verbal reinforcement

- accept slip-ups

- support efforts to be independent.

When you have a loved one not in, or refusing treatment

Don't - try forcing them to get help

- function for them

- participate in symptoms

- support them indefinitely

- punish them for not getting help

Do - be positive about their chances for recovery

- obtain treatment information for them

- offer to help get treatment when and if it is ever desired

- concentrate upon living your own life.

Food for thought, aloha, Kathy (Ha)

kathyh@...

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone and thank You Kathy, this is so helpful.Today I took e to

get a hair cut ,she had such a hard time(didn't want the cape on,couldn't

stand to have the hair touch her ),it was not fun.I've been doing her hair

for years,and I don't think I'll take her back for awhile.You could just see

the anxiety on her face.When her anxiety gets up like that she doesn't get

mad, but will look like she's hyper.Has anyone seen this before? Once we got

to the car she was fine, quite as a mouse. Beth in IN.

Do's and Don'ts from Dr. Fred Penzel

> From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

>

> Hi Everyone:

>

> One of my favorite presenters whom I have been lucky enough to hear two

> years in a row at the OCF conferences is Dr. Fred Penzel. I thought you

> might like to read his handout of do's and don'ts (apologies to those who

> have seen this already).

>

> When you have a loved one in treatment

>

> Don't - be responsible for their following treatment

> - try to catch them doing compulsions

> - show impatience with their rate of progress

> - participate in symptoms

>

> Do - try to see the person behind the symptoms

> - give verbal reinforcement

> - accept slip-ups

> - support efforts to be independent.

>

> When you have a loved one not in, or refusing treatment

>

> Don't - try forcing them to get help

> - function for them

> - participate in symptoms

> - support them indefinitely

> - punish them for not getting help

>

> Do - be positive about their chances for recovery

> - obtain treatment information for them

> - offer to help get treatment when and if it is ever desired

> - concentrate upon living your own life.

>

> Food for thought, aloha, Kathy (Ha)

> kathyh@...

>

>

> ---------------------------

[Guest guest]

Hi Beth:

From your description it sounds like e is making a superhuman effort to

contain her anxiety. Please tell her I am very impressed at her bossing

back the OCD like this. Take care, aloha, Kathy (ha)

kathyh@...

At 04:10 PM 7/20/99 -0500, you wrote:

>From: " Wayt " <rwwayt@...>

>

>Hi everyone and thank You Kathy, this is so helpful.Today I took e to

>get a hair cut ,she had such a hard time(didn't want the cape on,couldn't

>stand to have the hair touch her ),it was not fun.I've been doing her hair

>for years,and I don't think I'll take her back for awhile.You could just see

>the anxiety on her face.When her anxiety gets up like that she doesn't get

>mad, but will look like she's hyper.Has anyone seen this before? Once we got

>to the car she was fine, quite as a mouse. Beth in IN.

> Do's and Don'ts from Dr. Fred Penzel

>

>

>> From: Kathy Hammes <kathyh@...>

>>

>> Hi Everyone:

>>

>> One of my favorite presenters whom I have been lucky enough to hear two

>> years in a row at the OCF conferences is Dr. Fred Penzel. I thought you

>> might like to read his handout of do's and don'ts (apologies to those who

>> have seen this already).

>>

>> When you have a loved one in treatment

>>

>> Don't - be responsible for their following treatment

>> - try to catch them doing compulsions

>> - show impatience with their rate of progress

>> - participate in symptoms

>>

>> Do - try to see the person behind the symptoms

>> - give verbal reinforcement

>> - accept slip-ups

>> - support efforts to be independent.

>>

>> When you have a loved one not in, or refusing treatment

>>

>> Don't - try forcing them to get help

>> - function for them

>> - participate in symptoms

>> - support them indefinitely

>> - punish them for not getting help

>>

>> Do - be positive about their chances for recovery

>> - obtain treatment information for them

>> - offer to help get treatment when and if it is ever desired

>> - concentrate upon living your own life.

>>

>> Food for thought, aloha, Kathy (Ha)

>> kathyh@...

>

>