please help

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Hi everyone. It's in Seattle. We are not having a good connection

with our therapist. for one, Keenan does not even want to go in the room

with him unless Tom (my husband) or I am in there. All this guy has been

doing is having Keenan fill out questionaires! When we're in the room with

this doctor, we feel like we're on valium! It is so BORING!!! Is it

supposed to be like this? We started seeing him in September and Thursday

was the first day that he actually gave us homework! This is so

frustrating! Finally, he gives us something for the tying of Keenan's

shoes, because I usually have to tie his shoes so tight that it leaves marks

in my fingers for a few minutes after. Soo, he suggested we start with five

minutes and tie them looser. It worked. But, I have to tell you, I'm

ready to bag this doctor! I am pissed. Excuse the language, but my son is

not connecting with him. And, I don't feel like this doctor knows my son

very well. This last time we went he suggested that if this does not work

that he would like to reccomend medication!!!!!!! Keenan is doing so

extremely well in other aspects of his life, especially at school. He loves

school and he has lots of friends. He's happy. The only ocd type thing he

does is the wanting the shoes really tight, which takes about 3-5 min. when

I tie them. And, when stress is high and something is bugging him sometimes

he can't stop thinking about pulling the necks of shirts out and stretching

them... this is not an every day occurence. It comes and goes. Sometimes

it leaves for a long time and comes back later during a stressful time, but

this is not affecting his everyday life. On the questionaires, this doctor

told us that he scored very normal and that he just had a wee bit more

anxiety than most kids, but that was nothign unusual. Soooo, why is he

suggesting medication? This is why I have such a hard time with

psychologists!!!!! I swear this is always their answer. " Oh, he's not

connecting with me.. Well, I'll make him connect! " I mean, is this what

they are thinking??? I'm sorry. I know I'm venting but this counselling

stuff is not working for us. First we saw the lady there and she did her

assessment of Keenan and said she did not feel he'd need medication at all,

but then after we went throught the assessment with her, she then informs us

that she does not do after school appointments and that she wanted to know

if it'd be okay if she filled in her colleague about us and he could work

with Keenan. That was a 400 dollar assessment!! And then we had to go

through another one with him and pay the same amount!! Why she never told us

all that BEFORE she did her assessment is beyond me. I want to

scream!!!!!!! I'm so tired of this. Does anyone relate to this???? I

wonder if i can find a psychologist who's answer is not medicine. After

all, this is the first one we've gone to.

Thanks for listening.