Re: To Rogene, , Cricket, and Patty

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much for your latest E-mails! I haven't been on line because I've been busy getting ready for our big trip and also, has moved back in to our home.

When he came home from Ireland (he was gone for 8 days) he came home and said that the last 2 wks. living apart from Quinn (2 yr. old) and I have been much more miserable than all the times that I've been unhappy and depressed towards him (because of my illness, not getting any support from his family, us not having a strong love-life...etc.)

He said that his affair was a big mistake and that it was over. She lived out of state and flew in 3 times in 4 months to see him. (that's what he says...who knows??) I didn't ask any questions about her or exactly what they did or didn't do-It makes me sick to even think about it.

All these years I thought that he hasn't been attracted to me because of my pain, depression, weight gain, loss of my implants, and my personality changes (for the worse) the more that I would ask him about the lack of our love life....the less times he would touch me. I have felt so rejected for the past 7 yrs. and upset with him.

He finally admitted to me that he has a problem with pornography and comp. sex web-sites. The only reason he could get excited with the other woman is because it was a big secret. It turns out that he has a sex addiction problem.

I've never dealt with this before and I don't know if I feel better or worse about my situation. We went to see a church counselor whos husband has the same problem. He had many affairs on her and they stayed married. He has a support group there for other men with sex addictions. will be going to that on Thurs.

I thought "How could have a sex addiction when he doesn't even want to sleep with me???" It turns out that when some men have alot of one night stands (was in bands for 15 yrs.) and love porn-it's hard for them to have a normal, healthy love life with a real live wife that loves them!

Have anyone here heard of this??? I love having back at home but will this ever get better?? I'm so glad that he is open to see a therapist and go to a support group. I'm happy that I'm leaving town to see you girls on Thurs.!!

My # is 702-361-6442- if you have any advice for me!!

Love, Daryl

to Sandy re: very sick colon> > > hi Sandy,> I read your posting somewhere and can't seem to find it again so I > am not sure how long ago it was. I have the same symptoms as you with > the colon thing and it isn't fun at all. I am hoping that it is from > the candida and so I increased my ThreeLac to three packs a day. It > helps me with the brain fog so I am hoping it will help with the > abdominal bloating. I believe the gas is from the candida and we so > desperately need to get it under control. Are you taking anything for > candida? I really like Mark's story on www.candidafree.net. I am > truly hoping that this ThreeLac works. I am also doing Primal Defense > between meals to speed things up and cover all bases. Good luck. > Joanne> > > > >

[Guest guest]

Daryl,

Oh boy, your not gonna like what I am gonna say but let me tell ya, I

was married to a sex addict, and I put up with it, believed in him,

believed it would all change, all that stuff, and it never did. He

had porn everywhere, it was all around the house, if I went

searching, which I often did, I would find it, sometimes he would

hide it better than others, but it was always around. Of course there

were no computers back then, so I did not have to deal with the

internet issues, thank god because the magazines and videos were

enough. I got out of that relationship. It drove me to have several

affairs because I was so depressed and lonely and wanted attention

and no matter what I never ever felt good enough for him. How can one

compete with a picture or image that is not even real? I could not.It

was so hard on my self esteem that I had to just get away from him,

it took me years to get my esteem back. How will you be able to deal

with that part of it? Always wondering if he is looking or lusting

after some sexy young girl, yuck, it made me sick to my stomach. I

finally got out of that marriage but he was such a manipulater he got

me to come back so many times, finally I made him leave my house, and

divorced him, and that was that. It took 11 years for me to get the

nerve to do that.

I lived alone for a few years and then ended up with another man with

some sexual issues, different but bad also, so again I got out of

that relationship and was by that time 36 and thought, I am done with

men ha ha. Then about a year later I met and thought I had died

and gone to heaven. A man who is not a porn addict, wow what a

concept!

anyhow there are men out there that are not addicted to that stuff

but they are not always easy to find or so it seemed for me.

It really is probably a fact that you are going to want to try to

make things work, and therapy and all that can help, but I am warning

you that i would make sure he does not lie to you and that he is not

surfing porn and making you a fool. There are things you can put on

your computer to be safe.

I am just telling you so that you know, my ex is still a porn addict,

I am sure he will die one, it is just like drugs or any other

addiction, it is hard to stop once it gets going.

I am so happy your coming Thursday.

we are going to have so much fun!

hugs

In , " Daryl " <daryljean@c...>

wrote:

> Thanks so much for your latest E-mails! I haven't been on line

because I've been busy getting ready for our big trip and also, Chris

has moved back in to our home.

>

> When he came home from Ireland (he was gone for 8 days) he came

home and said that the last 2 wks. living apart from Quinn (2 yr.

old) and I have been much more miserable than all the times that I've

been unhappy and depressed towards him (because of my illness, not

getting any support from his family, us not having a strong love-

life...etc.)

>

> He said that his affair was a big mistake and that it was over. She

lived out of state and flew in 3 times in 4 months to see him.

(that's what he says...who knows??) I didn't ask any questions about

her or exactly what they did or didn't do-It makes me sick to even

think about it.

>

> All these years I thought that he hasn't been attracted to me

because of my pain, depression, weight gain, loss of my implants, and

my personality changes (for the worse) the more that I would ask him

about the lack of our love life....the less times he would touch me.

I have felt so rejected for the past 7 yrs. and upset with him.

>

> He finally admitted to me that he has a problem with pornography

and comp. sex web-sites. The only reason he could get excited with

the other woman is because it was a big secret. It turns out that he

has a sex addiction problem.

> I've never dealt with this before and I don't know if I feel better

or worse about my situation. We went to see a church counselor whos

husband has the same problem. He had many affairs on her and they

stayed married. He has a support group there for other men with sex

addictions. will be going to that on Thurs.

>

> I thought " How could have a sex addiction when he doesn't

even want to sleep with me??? " It turns out that when some men have

alot of one night stands (was in bands for 15 yrs.) and love

porn-it's hard for them to have a normal, healthy love life with a

real live wife that loves them!

>

> Have anyone here heard of this??? I love having back at home

but will this ever get better?? I'm so glad that he is open to see a

therapist and go to a support group. I'm happy that I'm leaving town

to see you girls on Thurs.!!

> My # is 702-361-6442- if you have any advice for me!!

> Love, Daryl

> to Sandy re: very sick colon

> >

> >

> > hi Sandy,

> > I read your posting somewhere and can't seem to find it

again

> so I

> > am not sure how long ago it was. I have the same symptoms as

you

> with

> > the colon thing and it isn't fun at all. I am hoping that it

is

> from

> > the candida and so I increased my ThreeLac to three packs a

day.

> It

> > helps me with the brain fog so I am hoping it will help with

the

> > abdominal bloating. I believe the gas is from the candida and

we

> so

> > desperately need to get it under control. Are you taking

anything

> for

> > candida? I really like Mark's story on www.candidafree.net. I

am

> > truly hoping that this ThreeLac works. I am also doing Primal

> Defense

> > between meals to speed things up and cover all bases. Good

luck.

> > Joanne

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >