Re: Fw: A Miracle post from Annette Grunseth

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HI Jim:

Thanks for sharing this upbeat story with us all. It is wonderful to hear

such a great success story, very inspiring for us who are struggling and

affirming for those of us whose kids are also making great strides. Take

care, aloha, Kathy (Ha)

kathyh@...

At 09:40 AM 6/2/99 -0700, you wrote:

>From: " Jim " <jjmcf@...>

>

>Recently I posted a message from someone who was leaving the OCD-L. She has

>now posted an update to the OCD-L. Here it is in case some of you are not

>subscribed there.

>

>Jim

>> Hi Everyone:

>> Remember the Cheeseheads from Green Bay...? Our son , who just

>turned 18 is Graduating June 8th from high school! Yes, I said graduating!

>Final exams are this week... Some of you may remember my posts of despair

>when he was 14,15,16, and who, due to severe OCD missed nearly 2 years of

>high school....; He is now graduating ON TIME with his class, the class of

>1999, the last class of this century!. This feels like a miracle, due to

>his eventual recovery

>> and HARD work. He had a " regular " year this year, that went all too

>> fast. He tried to capture the extra-curriculars of 4 yrs in one

>> year.

>>

>> Our family is caught up in many emotions. Joy: an incredible

>> recovery..assisted by Luvox and a ray of Hope that we've all clung

>> to. Joy for his being able to go on to college! To get thru h.s.

>> did all the hard work, as we parents learned the importance of

>> letting go.... Sadness: that this year went so fast. Sadness that

>> he grew up so fast and is moving on--to college next year, moving

>> out-- Sadness for all the things he missed out on his first 3

>> yrs......and for all the kids who still think he is " that weird

>> kid..who is afraid of germs.. " Sadness for all who teased him and

>> didn't get to know the " real " who is brilliant, fun, sensitive.

>> Fear: of the unknown-- For --as he meets a new challenge (often) times

>a trigger for OCD)..Fears.. " will he make friends next yr.? "

>>

>> We learned to reframe all expectations--actually to NOT have them.

>> But at this time of year when the popular kids are showered with all

>> sorts of awards, scholarships and accolades...it simply says

>> " graduating " after our son's name--in our minds this means more than all

>the nat'l merit finalists in the country-- but it goes

>> unrecognized. is the FIRST student to successfully complete an

>alternative high school curriciulum..for his 1st 3 yrs of h.s. and

>> then RETURN to his regular school to finish...no one has done that

>> before--he was DISCOURAGED by school administrators at BOTH schools from

>doing this--he said " I'll prove you wrong.... " and he did...where is the

>Honors " cord " for his gown on this one!? He

>> missed Nat'l Honor Society by a " hair " (.2) in grade point...

>>

>> I just wanted to share some of the mixed emotions--most of which are

>joy----as I know so many of you supported our fmaily during our

>> " rough years " and for everyrone on the list: --know that there is

>> always HOPE; and ANYONE can get better.

>>

>> Pls send any e-mail replies to my private e-mail address if you like....>

>grunseth@...

>>

>> Watch for my OCD poetry in the upcoming issues of KISDSCOPE, BTW

>>

>> Annette G. <grunseth@...>

>> Green Bay WI

>> " Moldy " Cheesehead...;-)

>>

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