Re: Relationships gone bad

April 7, 2008

You people have such wisdom. Thanks Terry and rosemary. The really difficult

bit has been trying to persuade him that he would have felt awful even without

the complication of leukaemia. But bit by bit i am growing in confidence that we

can help him through. One of the things he has mentioned that he might like to

do if he stays in remission and the gvhd doesn;t get him is look at setting up

some sort of campaign here in England to raise awareness amongst senior scholars

of how easy the stem cell donation process is - like they do in Germany where

his donor was found. He is being filmed by Channel 4 tomorrow having his bmb.

I take heart that anyone who is prepared to bare their behind to the viewing

public in pursuit of altruistic scientific aims must be slowly on the road to

recovery! It's going to be a rocky road as there is mostly darkness but

hopefull the small pinpricks of light will start to shine through.

Thank you again

Kay

[ ] Relationships gone bad

Well first I'm sorry that happened to him. The first thing that comes to my mind

is selfish. Some folks aren't built to take that stuff on and when given a

choice often don't take the high road. But relationships are complicated. The

only good thing I can say is that if she had stuck around her love was probably

not sincere and when you have gone through illness or tragedy you often detect

this insincerity. There are lovely people who have more depth of character out

there and your son in one of them. That's how you know there are more. Breaking

up a engagement is really tough much less when you feel you've face enough. When

I had lymphoma 5 years ago my husband of 14 years and I almost split ways. He

had a very tough time being sensitive and I encounted some awful hostility. He

was not taught how to deal with tough situations and hadn't learned from

experience like I had. I'm still hurt over it but my husband and I got some

therapy for awhile and he

did a 360 with my CML diagnosis. (2007). My point is that illness does challenge

relationships. I think new relationships already have such a set of challenges

that it is too difficult to over come sometimes unless you both love each other

and are very committed. When he does find the right person he will realize he

was lucky he didn't waste is prescious time in an unhappy relationship.

April 7, 2008

Hello again Kay-----I think that your son's baring his behind is a VERY good

sign! My son would like to forget that he has leukemia.....sometimes that is

good and sometimes that is bad. But focusing on a cause that relates to his

illness is a very mature and proactive step for your son to take. It will give

him a measure of control and it will also introduce him to others going through

the same thing. I do think that young people especially feel that illness

isolates them from their peers since so few of them are thinking about anything

other than getting through school, finding a job or finding a girl/boyfriend.

Best of luck to him! Rosemary

From: kaysudbury768@...

Date: Mon, 7 Apr 2008 13:58:08 -0700

Subject: Re: [ ] Relationships gone bad

You people have such wisdom. Thanks Terry and rosemary. The really

difficult bit has been trying to persuade him that he would have felt awful even

without the complication of leukaemia. But bit by bit i am growing in confidence

that we can help him through. One of the things he has mentioned that he might

like to do if he stays in remission and the gvhd doesn;t get him is look at

setting up some sort of campaign here in England to raise awareness amongst

senior scholars of how easy the stem cell donation process is - like they do in

Germany where his donor was found. He is being filmed by Channel 4 tomorrow

having his bmb. I take heart that anyone who is prepared to bare their behind

to the viewing public in pursuit of altruistic scientific aims must be slowly on

the road to recovery! It's going to be a rocky road as there is mostly darkness

but hopefull the small pinpricks of light will start to shine through.