Re: Re: Elaine/shifting O/Cs

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HI Elaine:

Confronting our beloved OCDers squarely about their OCD can be

unfortunately counter-productive. Especially when their OCD is not under

control, it can increase conflict in my experience. It is a bit like

telling someone in a wheelchair that you are upset that they are too lazy

to run.

As they get things more under control we do need to model for them

society's expectations about behavior if we want them to live in the world

as adults (just my opinion).

This denial is a form of self-protection and, when they are feeling very

vulnerable with OCD running the show, can be pretty much expected - at

least that is how we coped with it in our house. It is amazing how many

aspects of life OCD seeps into. Good luck, take care, aloha, Kathy (H)

kathyh@...

At 11:45 AM 03/06/2000 -0500, you wrote:

>From: DnEBrock@...

>

>Dear

>

> Thank you so much for explaining this! Knowing this will help both of

>us so much. Devon is just as distressed as I am about this. BTW, sometimes

>he claims he " doesn't remember " doing things like locking the deadbolt. He

>will swear up and down that he didn't do it, but unless we have a gnome

>living with us... Have you (all) ever run into this " denial " ? Would it be

>best for me to just not argue with him about it?

>

>Elaine