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HI Mamimiz:

You are doing very well with refusing to provide a ride to work as a

motivator to get up in the morning. Your daughter is learning that she is

responsible for working this out and it sounds like she is assuming that

responsibility well by hiring her own cab.

What also works well is to reward for even the teeniest, tinyest

improvement. Let her know ahead of time what the reward will be and for

what amount of improvement. For example you could reward her for taking

charge and getting her own cab. Positive reinforcement works much faster

in our experience than the negative stuff as OCD is much more masterful

than any parent in applying negative consequences to behaviors.

Good luck, take care, aloha, kathy (H)

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