Guest guest Posted September 18, 2000 Report Share Posted September 18, 2000 Shellie, the similarities between some of our children are almost creepy. My daughter responds with " just a minute " also, she gets in trouble for that one as my husband doesnt have much tolerance for that comment. I dont get it either, she also went through a phase for about a year where everything she would tell you she would say " I think " when she was done. It drove us nuts. Nikki in O'town Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2000 Report Share Posted September 18, 2000 I just wanted to mention my little cousin (normal) used to say "I think" after every response. She grew out of it...I remember everyone being annoyed with her. It is hard to say sometimes, what is just "normal" annoying kid stuff. Joy (Ventura CA) ----- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2000 Report Share Posted September 19, 2000 Hi Shellie, I'm a bit behind in my posts, but wanted to comment on the " just a minute " stuff. If I noticed that this has become a common phrase, I would point it out and ask if they are aware they are doing it. If they get this trouble look that says " YES, but I cant help it! " I would ask what they need me to do to help stop it? Sometimes just direct eye contact with a gentle smile, a raised eyebrow, a tease, or an 'excuse me?' is enough to distract and have them change or stop a ritual. My experience is to try and look objectively at what is going on. If I think its an 'ocd thing' and want the kids to identify it as such - I ask: " Is this an ocd thing? " ! That is usually enough to break the pattern - bringing their awareness to it. Of course, to prove me wrong, they will bend over backwards not to do it anymore!!! ) take care, wendy, in canada! wb4@... ============================================== One thing that Derrick does that I think is OCD is that no matter what you ask of him,he always responds with " Just a minute " he never! ever! can just say yes and go do whatever you are requesting him to do. Does >anybody else have this problem???? Shellie _________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com. Share information about yourself, create your own public profile at http://profiles.msn.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2000 Report Share Posted September 19, 2000 Shellie, When he says " just a minute " it could be he is buying time to process what you requested. Sometimes kids with auditory processing issues do this, or they'll say " what? " . It becomes a habit for them after awhile too. I have a child in my preschool class who has some motor planning and auditory issues and we are working on having her go ahead and take the time to answer rather than say " what " . Of course with OCD it could also be some kind of ritual response too. But auditory issues, like Central Auditory Processing Disorder (CAPD), are not uncommon with OCD. I say issues rather than disorder because you don't have to meet the criteria for an official diagnosis to still have struggles in this area. Then there is always the chronic inflexibility that sometimes makes it hard for a child to switch from one activity to another, but I think you'd get some " attitude " along with the " just a minute " if this was the case. Dana in NC shellie smyrichinsky wrote: > > OH my god, the things that have been listed the last few days have > described Derrick to a " T " . Last year he would not brush his teeth, > comb his hair or dress nice, this year a whole different story. " He > has discovered girls!! " But the laundry well that still lays on the > floor, basket one foot away. And about the garbage thing, he will > scrape his plate. So why do they leave wrappers laying around? I dont > get that one. My son is the one going to a place called Ledger House > in the Queen andra facility in BC. I will keep you > posted weekly how the therapy is going and what the program is like. > He will be there for 6 weeks. If I receive and literature I will be > forwarding it to in Canada. i had one other question. One thing > that Derrick does that I think is OCD is that no matter what you ask > of him,he always responds with " Just a minute " he never! ever! can > just say yes and go do whatever you are requesting him to do. Does > anybody else have this problem???? Shellie > > You may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. You may subscribe to the Parents of Adults with OCD List at parentsofadultswithOCD . You may access the files, links, and archives for our list at . Our list advisors are Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., and Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Kathy Hammes, Jule Monnens, Gail Pesses, Roman, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues, problems, or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at harkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 22, 2000 Report Share Posted September 22, 2000 My son always says " in a minute". I never considered that OCD, just that he'd rather be doing what he's doing than what I ask him to do. I don't know. Is everything these kids do OCD? We have our first CBT appt, this afternoon . I'm really excited. Terry trash, laundry OH my god, the things that have been listed the last few days have described Derrick to a "T". Last year he would not brush his teeth, comb his hair or dress nice, this year a whole different story. "He has discovered girls!!" But the laundry well that still lays on the floor, basket one foot away. And about the garbage thing, he will scrape his plate. So why do they leave wrappers laying around? I dont get that one. My son is the one going to a place called Ledger House in the Queen andra facility in BC. I will keep you posted weekly how the therapy is going and what the program is like. He will be there for 6 weeks. If I receive and literature I will be forwarding it to in Canada. i had one other question. One thing that Derrick does that I think is OCD is that no matter what you ask of him,he always responds with "Just a minute" he never! ever! can just say yes and go do whatever you are requesting him to do. Does anybody else have this problem???? ShellieYou may subscribe to the OCD-L by emailing listserv@... . In the body of your message write: subscribe OCD-L your name. You may subscribe to the Parents of Adults with OCD List at parentsofadultswithOCD . You may access the files, links, and archives for our list at . Our list advisors are Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., and Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Kathy Hammes, Jule Monnens, Gail Pesses, Roman, and Jackie Stout. Subscription issues, problems, or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at harkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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