Re: Met a plagio mother at the mall...

[Guest guest]

Hi Kate,

I don't think you were rude or inconsiderate!! I think the other lady

was very rude and inconsiderate!! You asked a legitimate question.

You didn't point it out and stare. I'm sorry that you encountered a

total jerk!!!

> and it was the RUDEST encounter I've ever had.

>

> Paige and I were in line at Dairy Queen (it was her idea!!) when a

> mother pushing a stroller with a young tot in it pulled up beside

us.

> Her little boy had a helmet on and I started making funny faces at

him

> so he'd laugh. He did! The mother noticed and we started talking.

After

> a few minutes (the line was REALLY long) I said;

>

> " I apologize in advance if I'm intruding but I was wondering if

your son

> is wearing the helmet for plagiocephaly. You see, my daughter has

> recently been diagnosed and I'm interested in any opinions on the

helmet

> therapy. I apolgize if he's in the helmet for other reasons. He

doesn't

> even seem to notice it's on! "

>

> This lady went about 50 shades of red, and in a VERY loud voice

told me

> it wasn't any of my business why her son was in a helmet and I

should

> mind my own (** & %% business. I shouldn't be so rude as to point it

out

> and stare.

>

> I was practically in tears standing in line kicking myself for

being so

> inconsiderate. I guess I shouldnt' have said anything.

>

> Should I have just kept my mouth shut? How can I approach the

subject

> better next time so I'm not so rude?

>

> TIA,

> Kate

[Guest guest]

That woman needs to get a grip. It sounds like you asked very

politely. For the 8 and a half months was in a helmet I always

appreciated the people who asked why he was in the helmet. I'd

rather have someone ask than just stare. I had a woman come running

up to me one day while was in a helmet just to share with me

that her son had been in two DOCbands for 10 months previously. I

was absolutely thrilled to meet her and hear of her son's

experience. I actually decided to research the band when a woman

commented on 's head shape at a breastfeeding support group. She

told me don't listen to my pediatrician, get your child help now. At

first I was a little embarrassed, and then deeply grateful for her

comments.

Candy, mom to (DOCband grad 6/3/02)

land

> and it was the RUDEST encounter I've ever had.

>

> Paige and I were in line at Dairy Queen (it was her idea!!) when a

> mother pushing a stroller with a young tot in it pulled up beside

us.

> Her little boy had a helmet on and I started making funny faces at

him

> so he'd laugh. He did! The mother noticed and we started talking.

After

> a few minutes (the line was REALLY long) I said;

>

> " I apologize in advance if I'm intruding but I was wondering if

your son

> is wearing the helmet for plagiocephaly. You see, my daughter has

> recently been diagnosed and I'm interested in any opinions on the

helmet

> therapy. I apolgize if he's in the helmet for other reasons. He

doesn't

> even seem to notice it's on! "

>

> This lady went about 50 shades of red, and in a VERY loud voice

told me

> it wasn't any of my business why her son was in a helmet and I

should

> mind my own (** & %% business. I shouldn't be so rude as to point it

out

> and stare.

>

> I was practically in tears standing in line kicking myself for

being so

> inconsiderate. I guess I shouldnt' have said anything.

>

> Should I have just kept my mouth shut? How can I approach the

subject

> better next time so I'm not so rude?

>

> TIA,

> Kate

[Guest guest]

Geez Kate!

I'm soo sorry this woman was SO unnecessarily rude to you. You

approached the situation perfectly, so don't feel like you were

wrong! My gosh, I'm shocked she was so rude....I was soo relieved

when people came up to me & asked what Abby's helmet was for & they

actualy kinda knew about plagio....That woman needed a serious butt

kickin! Let me at her!

Debbie Abby's mom DOCgrad

MI

> and it was the RUDEST encounter I've ever had.

>

> Paige and I were in line at Dairy Queen (it was her idea!!) when a

> mother pushing a stroller with a young tot in it pulled up beside

us.

> Her little boy had a helmet on and I started making funny faces at

him

> so he'd laugh. He did! The mother noticed and we started talking.

After

> a few minutes (the line was REALLY long) I said;

>

> " I apologize in advance if I'm intruding but I was wondering if

your son

> is wearing the helmet for plagiocephaly. You see, my daughter has

> recently been diagnosed and I'm interested in any opinions on the

helmet

> therapy. I apolgize if he's in the helmet for other reasons. He

doesn't

> even seem to notice it's on! "

>

> This lady went about 50 shades of red, and in a VERY loud voice

told me

> it wasn't any of my business why her son was in a helmet and I

should

> mind my own (** & %% business. I shouldn't be so rude as to point it

out

> and stare.

>

> I was practically in tears standing in line kicking myself for

being so

> inconsiderate. I guess I shouldnt' have said anything.

>

> Should I have just kept my mouth shut? How can I approach the

subject

> better next time so I'm not so rude?

>

> TIA,

> Kate

[Guest guest]

Kate-

You can shop at my mall anytime and ask me about our helmet. I don't

think you were rude at all, if anything you were sincere, gracious,

and understanding to her needs. I have also had some weird

expriences with people, but never anything like that. Don't feel bad

most moms would love to tell you about the helmet instead of have the

stares and the under the breath comments that of course we do hear.

Take care and keep us posted about your daughter

-Ian & 7 months

Sacramento, CA

> and it was the RUDEST encounter I've ever had.

>

> Paige and I were in line at Dairy Queen (it was her idea!!) when a

> mother pushing a stroller with a young tot in it pulled up beside

us.

> Her little boy had a helmet on and I started making funny faces at

him

> so he'd laugh. He did! The mother noticed and we started talking.

After

> a few minutes (the line was REALLY long) I said;

>

> " I apologize in advance if I'm intruding but I was wondering if

your son

> is wearing the helmet for plagiocephaly. You see, my daughter has

> recently been diagnosed and I'm interested in any opinions on the

helmet

> therapy. I apolgize if he's in the helmet for other reasons. He

doesn't

> even seem to notice it's on! "

>

> This lady went about 50 shades of red, and in a VERY loud voice

told me

> it wasn't any of my business why her son was in a helmet and I

should

> mind my own (** & %% business. I shouldn't be so rude as to point it

out

> and stare.

>

> I was practically in tears standing in line kicking myself for

being so

> inconsiderate. I guess I shouldnt' have said anything.

>

> Should I have just kept my mouth shut? How can I approach the

subject

> better next time so I'm not so rude?

>

> TIA,

> Kate

[Guest guest]

Kate,

I can't believe how rude that woman was to you! I don't think you

need to change your approach to people at all. It sounds like you

didn't everything politely. She was in desparate need of a pantie

unbunching! And for her to swear at you, in front of her child,

shows a total lack of class. Don't worry about it if you offended

her, and please don't hesitate to ask people in the future. The

majority of the people out there are gracious!

Niki

Kaylie & Danny (STAR grads)

Phila., PA

> and it was the RUDEST encounter I've ever had.

>

> Paige and I were in line at Dairy Queen (it was her idea!!) when a

> mother pushing a stroller with a young tot in it pulled up beside

us.

> Her little boy had a helmet on and I started making funny faces at

him

> so he'd laugh. He did! The mother noticed and we started talking.

After

> a few minutes (the line was REALLY long) I said;

>

> " I apologize in advance if I'm intruding but I was wondering if

your son

> is wearing the helmet for plagiocephaly. You see, my daughter has

> recently been diagnosed and I'm interested in any opinions on the

helmet

> therapy. I apolgize if he's in the helmet for other reasons. He

doesn't

> even seem to notice it's on! "

>

> This lady went about 50 shades of red, and in a VERY loud voice

told me

> it wasn't any of my business why her son was in a helmet and I

should

> mind my own (** & %% business. I shouldn't be so rude as to point it

out

> and stare.

>

> I was practically in tears standing in line kicking myself for

being so

> inconsiderate. I guess I shouldnt' have said anything.

>

> Should I have just kept my mouth shut? How can I approach the

subject

> better next time so I'm not so rude?

>

> TIA,

> Kate